Does anyone else find it hard to meet a partner that shares your passion of maintenance

psychod787

Maybe I am odd, I actually am LOL, but I have had real trouble meeting women that share my passion of nutrition and weightlifting. I do live on a small town, so that might not help, but most of the women I meet just want to eat crap food and watch tv.

jennybearlv

MFP needs a personals section. Reading your title made me laugh about what an awkward sounding dating profile that would be, "Looking for a lady with a passion for maintaining her weight." Fitness and nutrition passion is definitely a thing. She's out there, but yes, most people just want to eat fast food, watch TV, and complain about how hard it is to lose weight.

its_me_april

keep looking! have you tried online dating? My husband is not really into fitness, eating well, or health in general and it is hard. I do wish he was more into it, but I can't exactly force it on him

Do you have friends that are into fitness / lifting at least?

neurogirl

It can be hard, even if you're still on your health journey. I had a boyfriend years ago when I first tried MFP (omg, it was 2008 ) who actually told me I had an eating disorder because I was counting calories/eating my macros and working out 4 to 6 days a week. I realized he was being insecure. I think keeping in mind if your health is a priority, it's going to take time to find a partner that has that same mindset.

Sometimes just finding friends who share that same passion is enough to provide support and understanding. So that's an alternative. Best of luck!

psychod787

I have a few friends into the lifestyle, but most have always been in shape. I was one 410lns, so my body and mind is different than theirs. Online dating? Never tried it. I met my now ex wife the old fashioned way. One of the reasons we split was the fact I got tired of being huge! Lol

bbell1985

psychod787 wrote: »

I have a few friends into the lifestyle, but most have always been in shape. I was one 410lns, so my body and mind is different than theirs. Online dating? Never tried it. I met my now ex wife the old fashioned way. One of the reasons we split was the fact I got tired of being huge! Lol

Try online dating. Really.

Iwantahealthierme30

I don't tell my boyfriend that I'm counting calories only that it's working, lol.

Try online dating but not dating sites. Go to meetups (meetup.com) I guess I was lucky that my boyfriend and I ran into each other on a site that wasn't for dating, that can be hard to do sometimes.

Momepro

Lol, I met my husband years ago, and we were both already overweight for many years before that so a shared "passion of maintenance" is not exactly stop priority.

kommodevaran

You might have stumbled across a paradox (that isn't a paradox) - successful maintainers, people who are genuinely interested in nutrition, and exercise because they like it, aren't likely to flaunt it - for them, it's normal daily life, and no big deal. If you lift somewhere outside your home, look for women there.

psychod787

Lol... the paradox..how not to be the creepy guy at the gym!

kommodevaran

Haha I said look for women, don't stare at women

Roadie2000

Habits change, you may meet someone that wants to watch TV and eat crap now, but it doesn't mean they are always like that. Up where I live people tend to hibernate during the winters, I know I do sometimes. Then summer comes along and I get more active.

But yeah if you want to meet women who have the same interests as you, then just keep doing the things that interest you and it will come if you put in the effort. Don't be the creepy guy at the gym but it's not creepy to strike up conversations here and there.

Online dating is a great tool also, I don't get why so many people are scared of it. It doesn't even have to be a dating site, use social media to be social. Keep an eye out for friends of friends and ask them to set you up if you see anyone that looks interesting.

cmriverside

Absolutely what Roadie said. People change, even you changed yourself. You don't have to find someone who is exactly like you and even if you did they can and will change. Life is like that!

The trick is maintaining YOUR goals regardless of the world around you.

SuzySunshine99

In your area, are there any fitness-related clubs you can join? Hiking, cycling, or skiing clubs? You are more likely to meet like-minded people there.

Davidsdottir

I love eating crap food and watching TV! I also love lifting heavy *kitten* and running.

RoxieDawn

Davidsdottir wrote: »

I love eating crap food and watching TV! I also love lifting heavy *kitten* and running.

My twin.

nowine4me

I agree it would be great to have partner who shared the same mindset for health and wellness. Keep looking, she’s out there. She may not be maintaining per se, but she cares about her body and what she puts in it.

collectingblues

kommodevaran wrote: »

You might have stumbled across a paradox (that isn't a paradox) - successful maintainers, people who are genuinely interested in nutrition, and exercise because they like it, aren't likely to flaunt it - for them, it's normal daily life, and no big deal. If you lift somewhere outside your home, look for women there.

What I was thinking.

I'm into fitness, I suppose. I train for and run half marathons.

On dating sites? I avoid any guy who is all "i'm into fitness! I lift! I live in the gym!"

I do *not* want my romantic or dating life to be exclusively about fitness, and having dated someone who *was* all about that, it's a phase of my life that I do not need to repeat. I don't want to be with someone who is going to get all judgey pants if I decide I want to sit and knit all day, or if it's cold, and I don't *want* to leave the house.

psychod787

collectingblues wrote: »

kommodevaran wrote: »

You might have stumbled across a paradox (that isn't a paradox) - successful maintainers, people who are genuinely interested in nutrition, and exercise because they like it, aren't likely to flaunt it - for them, it's normal daily life, and no big deal. If you lift somewhere outside your home, look for women there.

What I was thinking.

I'm into fitness, I suppose. I train for and run half marathons.

On dating sites? I avoid any guy who is all "i'm into fitness! I lift! I live in the gym!"

I do *not* want my romantic or dating life to be exclusively about fitness, and having dated someone who *was* all about that, it's a phase of my life that I do not need to repeat. I don't want to be with someone who is going to get all judgey pants if I decide I want to sit and knit all day, or if it's cold, and I don't *want* to leave the house.

I understand what you are saying, but what I have learned is, when you are with someone who does not share your common interests, it makes life harder. Nothing wrong with sitting and knitting all day if that is what you want to do. Lol. Life does not have to revolve around just one thing.

fb47

collectingblues wrote: »

kommodevaran wrote: »

You might have stumbled across a paradox (that isn't a paradox) - successful maintainers, people who are genuinely interested in nutrition, and exercise because they like it, aren't likely to flaunt it - for them, it's normal daily life, and no big deal. If you lift somewhere outside your home, look for women there.

What I was thinking.

I'm into fitness, I suppose. I train for and run half marathons.

On dating sites? I avoid any guy who is all "i'm into fitness! I lift! I live in the gym!"

I do *not* want my romantic or dating life to be exclusively about fitness, and having dated someone who *was* all about that, it's a phase of my life that I do not need to repeat. I don't want to be with someone who is going to get all judgey pants if I decide I want to sit and knit all day, or if it's cold, and I don't *want* to leave the house.

Well usually people post about their love for travelling, their cats or whatever passion, why is it wrong for someone to write about their passion for fitness and nutrition?

Wheelhouse15

You know, there are fitness dating apps and sites you could try.