Senior Golden Sneakers

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  • Sandydur
    Sandydur Posts: 8,742 Member
    When you are feeling a little sad and your 8 year old grandson hugs you and says I am sorry about Babe and John your heart melts. And then add to that your 4 year old granddaughter says to you this is the best sleepover ever grandma since we are sleeping together and watching movies. ( watching her while mom and dad take the boys to a Cub Scout indoor camp out for the weekend.) I am grateful. ❤️

  • Loveburg87
    Loveburg87 Posts: 374 Member
    Grand children are the greatest. My Derek left his parents Mark and Mary Jo a care package on their doorstep,
    Anne.
  • jwubben6600
    jwubben6600 Posts: 1,677 Member
    Hello! It is a sunny but chilly day. We don’t have a beast from the east but we have wet , dark and cold for days on end. Maybe we need to name it so we can call it bad names from time to time.

    I do relate to the blessing of grandchildren. I have one grown grandson who has stepped in to help John and me. He is disabled and so incredibly shy. But he decided to be our assistant! He can’t do everything but he helps as much as he can. He can’t hug or look us the eye. He has huge emotional issues. This sweet, very intelligent guy has a complicated condition.
    And Katie is terrified of him. Every family has issues and none of us get off Scott free! But we all have good friends and or family.

    I am trying to decide how to react to John’s serious condition and what would allow him the most comfort and peace. So far he likes the idea of totally ignoring the whole thing. Press on as if things were as usual. I am trying to do that but at times a cold overwhelming anxiety grips me. Deep breaths and gentle exercise!!!!

    I am going cut John’s hair and give him a shave while he listens-watches basketball. We both need a trim. Also Katie needs a brushing and a snip of the hair around her eyes. So we all need a trip to Patsy’s hair salon, (patsy’s dungeon)
    Still thinking positive,
    Patsy☘️
  • Loveburg87
    Loveburg87 Posts: 374 Member
    PATSY, great attitude. I like the old saying, “Never trouble trouble until trouble troubles you”. Will think of you all in Patsy’s dungeon as Mike and I TRY to cut Jillys nails. Mike doesn’t hold out much hope of success. She’s so small, but wriggles like an eel.
    ANNE.
  • jacAth3
    jacAth3 Posts: 1,462 Member
    Another lovely day but very cold. My walk was a Sunday stroll round the quiet village when the only people we saw were on horseback. A few flower seeds need to be planted into trays and that I can do in the greenhouse before watching another rugby match.
    Happy Sunday everyone.
    Jackie 🥰
  • Loveburg87
    Loveburg87 Posts: 374 Member
    edited February 26
    PS. JACKIE. Did you see on BBC today the piece about the terminally ill lady hating funerals and having a party with her friends instead? That’s more or less the instructions I’ve given my lads and DIL. My remaining two friends over here are in senior care homes so a party wouldn’t work, but the family CAN go to their favourite restaurant at a winery in the Niagara region. I hate funerals as well with a passion and any gatherings in my family at home always ended in a good belly laugh as we fondly remembered our sometimes naughty beloved ones.
    I hasten to add I’m NOT in any rush to leave just yet, but the subject came up and I firmly told my lot, NO funeral please.

    ANNE. About to make carrot soup to have with a no meat pizza. I have to get serious about dieting. Aaagh!
    We crossed again so you probably won’t read this, lol.
  • jacAth3
    jacAth3 Posts: 1,462 Member
    Hi Anne, rugby about to start so cuppa brewed after some seed planting. I’ll look for the article during half-time. I’ve left instructions with my Will to spend some of my money on a party and keep everything light. I’ve enjoyed a full and varied life so will have no regrets but like you, I’m hopeful to keep going for some time! My ashes will be tossed in the wind on the top of the moors so anyone who upset me needs to stay away rather than risk an eyeful!!

    Jackie 🥰
  • Sandydur
    Sandydur Posts: 8,742 Member
    Happy Sunday!😄 I took Charlie to Chuck E Cheese a kids pizza place that has games to play yesterday and she loved it. We watched the live version Piniocio for movie night in bed. The rest of the family should be home sometime this morning. I am hoping to go to Mass and the cemetery.
    Since I am getting cremated I only want my ashes at a Mass and after the Mass I want a big luncheon and everyone to party. My kids can bring my ashes to my niche in the cemetery the next day. Simple.
    Uh oh they are on the way home I better jump in shower.
    Sandy
    One Day at a Time.
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 16,470 Member
    :) Jake and I have specified that we want no service, event, or other memorial after we're gone. We'll be picked up by MEDCURE for medical research and then cremated. Our ashes will be used in planting something. If someone wants to honor us they can do so by being kind to others.

    :) A great story about ashes comes from a friend who wanted her husband's ashes put with the planting of new items in her back yard. She had an especially big tree planted by a young man from the landscaping company and as he was putting dirt back in the hole she poured in some of her husband's ashes. The young man asked her if it was bone meal. She said "yes, sort of".

    <3 Barbie
  • Loveburg87
    Loveburg87 Posts: 374 Member
    BARBIE that’s a lovely story of your friend and her husbands ashes. I can’t think of a better way for me to be disposed of. I love trees and the birds that sit in them. And daffodils can be planted under a tree as well. Love daffodils! Thanks for sharing.

    Jilly had her nails/claws lightly trimmed by me and Michael. She panted a bit but otherwise was as good as gold. We will do a little more next week and try to keep them in better shape. Best of all though she saved me $50 which the vet is now charging for all four feet. That’s $200 a year because her nails grow at an alarming rate.

    Almost supper time, see ya’all,
    ANNE.
  • linder4866
    linder4866 Posts: 10,791 Member
    edited February 26
    Good evening. Well, it seems everyone is sharing their final plans. I have prepaid (as much as possible) for my disposal. No funeral. No flowers. No memorial service, visitation or prayer service. Nada. They pick up my remains, prepare them, and then drive to the cemetery in NE Iowa where my family members are buried. I will get the last spot in the little group. Headstone is already set, just needs the final date. Just hoping they get it right. 🤞🏻🤞🏻 I would think having the headstone as a place marker should help!

    I have finished reading the library books which need to go back tomorrow. And the envelope is sealed, addressed and ready to mail to my accountant. I have made some progress on making my next box of cards to send for donation. Did a bit of laundry today. Paid some bills. Glad to get a few things accomplished. I guess it will be very wet here for the next few days, so I need to dig out my umbrella, something I don’t normally use in the winter.

    Well friends, we have our plans in place whenever they are needed.

    Off to check the clothes in the dryer.

    Take care everyone.

    Lin🙋🏼‍♀️
    ❤️❤️

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  • Sandydur
    Sandydur Posts: 8,742 Member
    edited February 27
    Rainy day Monday. We have had some pretty heavy storms with more rain today. I am finally able to stay home and be by myself. I really feel I need some time to grieve alone. I will start trying to get things together for Goodwill since I know no one Babe's size. I really don't have the energy to sell his things even though some are quite nice. I have so much medical stuff that the hospital gave us I just don't think anyone will take it as the hospital said it would just throw it away if we didn't take it. This will be a hard day for me but it has to be done.
    I did go and place the funeral spray from me on his grave yesterday. It was a beautiful sunny day.
    Because I am a practicing Catholic I do want a mass and in my religion our ashes have to be buried in a cemetery. When my sister died and was buried in a niche in the same cemetery as our parents and brother are buried and once separated I bought a niche in the same wall as she is to be near her.
    Babe did buy a burial spot for me as well but I no longer want to be put in the ground so I will not be next to him and his first wife. I think that will make his daughter happy. I am happy with my decision.

    Enough gloom and doom. Being with Charlie really helped me and I had a good time with her. I will be back to sitting to help them out when I can. We also made our reservations for the casino in March.
    Another friend turns 80. I have three celebrations coming up for my birthday, one next Sunday at Rob and Lisa's, Bryanna and I will celebrate our birthdays together. On the 9th, the day before my birthday my friends are taking me out and on the 12th Cheryl and Marisa are taking me to dinner. So many other people want to get together with me for lunch just because I don't think they want me to be alone.

    I was alone for ten years and did fine by myself and I will again but for right now I really miss Babe.

    Have a good day.
    Sandy
    One Day at a Time
  • fancyladyJeri
    fancyladyJeri Posts: 1,309 Member
    Oh Sandy you are such a strong woman. But we already knew that over the course of the last many years. I am so glad you have your grands to bring joy to your life. ❤️❤️❤️❤️. Your family and friends are all here to support you as well. Big hugs. Jeri
  • jacAth3
    jacAth3 Posts: 1,462 Member
    It remains cold but that’s because high pressure is in charge so that does give us dry weather which is a blessing after weeks of rain. My morning walk was lovely and George and Betty had fun zooming about. This afternoon I decided to create a small, raised bed for rhubarb plants and although I got sidetracked at one point, did manage to finish before it got too cold. My end of month energy bill was high but that’s not surprising because I refuse to be cold!

    Anne, I loved the story about the lady that’s making the most of whatever time she has left. What a bucket list, including flying in a Spitfire! More and more people our generation are choosing simple options that include a party before they die. Makes sense to be there to enjoy the fun!

    Sandy, I’m sure your one day at a time belief will get you through the next few weeks and having a few plans and goals is a good idea. You were incredibly strong and brave when you found yourself living alone before and dealing with the negative influence of Babe’s son so your family will be there for you again to ease the pain. ❤️

    The bonemeal story is funny Barbie and made me think that if my ashes are grazed by the livestock on the moors I might be recycled as manure!

    That’s a pretty blue collection Lin. I think that’s Denby bottom left, one of my favourites. A good job done to finish paperwork for your accountant. I wonder how you find time to read books along with all your card creating. I need to organise myself because I always loved reading but for some reason don’t do much now.

    George wants to go out for a garden break so I’ll finish here.

    Jackie 🥰
  • linder4866
    linder4866 Posts: 10,791 Member
    edited February 27
    Hello. What crazy rain and storms last night. I was awake often with the noise! We must have received a lot of rain as my backyard is somewhat flooded and the sump pump isn’t able to pump it very far away. Puddles everywhere! Now we have very strong wind.

    I stopped by the library to return those books and the wind was so strong I could barely get out of the car, the door kept blowing back on me!

    I feel very fortunate with my travels as I got to the post office to get the information sent off and I drove exactly where less than 10 minutes later, a police chase went that way pursuing a robber. He wouldn’t stop and rammed into a civilian SUV. Those people were taken to the hospital. Everything can change in a moment can’t it?

    Jackie, you did a great job in getting that raised bed completed. Congrats. I love those blue teapots as well. The person who posted that photo didn’t say what the manufacturing company might be. But I do love that particular blue color.

    Sandy, I hope you get a few things done today. Just enough to make you feel like you’ve accomplished something. If not, that’s okay, tomorrow is another day. Just take care of yourself.

    Anne, I can well believe that Jilly is a very wiggly work when it comes to trimming nails!

    Patsy, did you give up the idea of hiring people to clean your house given the dishonest folks who showed up at
    your home?

    I had a woman at the door the other day saying she was with a carpet cleaning company and they were in the neighborhood offering one room of free service to everyone. I looked outside and a car drove up with 3 women in it, no advertising or anything. And this woman had no business card and didn’t say what company she was with. I said no and she said all,of,your neighbors are doing this, it is free—-how could you refuse a free service? I said no again and closed the door. I think it was a scam. At best they would show up and con people into purchasing service for doing the rest of the house. Who knows.

    Life is confusing and full of very dishonest people.

    Well, need to go. It is crush the boxes afternoon. Recyclables and trash bins need to be filled and wheeled to the curb.

    Take care everyone.

    Lin🙋🏼‍♀️
    ❤️❤️

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  • jwubben6600
    jwubben6600 Posts: 1,677 Member
    Gloomy out and chilly! Come on spring……we need you!

    As far as final remains….well! I decided not to die. I will hang around and haunt our house. Maybe just toss me in a plastic bag and toss me in the garden. My dad arranged for each lady that attended his service would be presented a rose as they left the funeral home. There was a card attached with a cute note and signed with dad’s signature. And it was a huge funeral. Several hundred people. Mom knew about this and also said it was typical of him. His funeral music was “As time goes by.” My dad was a handsome Irish lad with dark curly hair and beautiful robins egg blue eyes and devilishly adorable dimples. I can’t top that. But I think maybe he does hang around the family home still. Seriously.
    Patsy☘️🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶😘
  • Loveburg87
    Loveburg87 Posts: 374 Member
    edited February 28
    We had quite a freezing rain turning to snow storm overnight. Well 1st March arrives tomorrow and it will melt as we drift above freezing temperatures and into the plus 1, 2, 3s etc. The geraniums I rescued from Marks summer Mother’s Day basket have survived if looking a little moth eaten.

    Mark is into day 7 of Corvid and Mary Jo into day 3. Me and Bean have really missed them popping in. I’m beginning to wonder if I’m the only person over here to avoid it. Says something for living the monkish life of a cave dwelling hermit ! but not much !

    All for now as the porridge (and banana) cool.

    Anne. ❤️🙃🐕‍🦺
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 16,470 Member
    :)Anne, Every time I read about someone getting Covid, it renews my plan to stay away from people. We go to medical appointments where everyone wears a mask and almost nowhere else. Almost no one comes to our house and those who do are carefully screened and stay a distance away. My husband's health is too fragile for us to be self indulgent by mixing with other people.

    <3 Barbie
  • Sandydur
    Sandydur Posts: 8,742 Member
    Happy Tuesday! :) It is a beautiful sunny day with temp going to 50 degrees F. I have to pick up a prescription and I am going to go to the DMV and see if I can be a walk in for my driving test. I do have an appointment next Wednesday at 8:30am but I have to be at Rob's by 11am to get Max off school bus and not sure how long it will take. So being a senior I am hoping they will take me today.

    Although hard, I did manage to get all of Babe's clothes out of the closet and folded on my guest bed.
    I will put them into bags by Friday when a guy Cheryl knows who works with the Vets will pick them up.
    It is very surreal to have his belongings removed as it makes it so real. I miss him every minute.

    I have so much support including you wonderful ladies and even Hospice calls to check on me and let's me talk about anything to find some comfort. As you all know I belong to Al Anon and my sponsor is my rock, she is there every step of the way. So as I always say One Day at a Time.

    Have a wonderful day ladies.
    Sandy
    One Day at a Time
  • jwubben6600
    jwubben6600 Posts: 1,677 Member
    Had a cold but sunny day.

    Cleaned bathrooms and was not easy. This pneumonia really whips me! I gasp for air after just the least bit of effort. But it is getting a tiny bit better. Making black bean and fish enchilada casserole. I can serve it two nights! Yea! I can sit on kitchen stool and put the ingredients together.

    I have not given up the idea of finding assistance but I can’t get enough steam to begin the search again right now. I will do it next week.

    Sandy: glad you have the support you want and need. So many people in your shoes do not.

    Anne: so glad you didn’t catch Covid. It can be a killer at our age.

    Barbie: I understand your reluctance to have people in to possibly contaminate you and your husband. John feels the same way.

    Lin: staying busy and keeping up on everything! Good for you!
    Stay safe!
    Patsy☘️