"You're too skinny!" Do others ever make you question your maintenance weight?

xbowhunter

collectingblues wrote: »

SummerSkier wrote: »

OK - do I look underweight? Yall can woo me but my BMI per the chart is 17.9, Which oddly enough was what my BF gizmo also calculated. I think #s on a chart are just that. Average #s. To tell someone at their height and weight that they are over or under weight with no other data is ludicrous. Some folks at my height look FABULOUS 20-30 pounds heavier. Me I look and feel like a whale at anything mid to upper normal BMI. Lately more Drs are also taking a waist measurement to help them figure out if you are over or under weight. Now that I have been maintaining about 8 months a lot of the comments have actually stopped. I think part of the issue is also that people see you losing weight and are afraid that you are never going to stop and turn into a pile of anorexic bones. Once they see you staying at the weight you choose normally the comments quiet down.

Honestly? Yes, you do. You clearly have bones showing, and I wouldn't be happy with that lack of muscle on my thighs.

I disagree. That picture is the definition of a healthy weight!!

mk2fit

I think those of us who are runners get the "you're too skinny" thing a lot. Yeah, we tend to be slim, but strong! It must be a mix of envy and jealousy. If you feel good in your skin, then ta da! Don't worry about what others say (unless it's your mom - mom's can throw a wrench into anything, dammit.)

ttippie2000

I don't get the "you're too skinny" thing. Once I get to my goal weight we'll see I guess. What I do get--from sedentary people--is the, "You look great!" thing, which at my age actually means, "You're not dead yet."

SummerSkier

thanks @xbowhunter and Mk2.. I believe that when folks view my picture they have some very subjective glasses on. It's all ok, because what really matters is how we feel, and how healthy we are and not some internet opinion of a photo we post. I see a lot of photos posted which IMO are still heavy, but I think it would be rude and out of place not knowing the person to say "sorry dude, you are still fat". Maybe they already lost 200 pounds? Maybe THEY like their appearance. Maybe the BMI #s says "normal"! Too many variable out there.

BattyKnitter

I'm only a little over halfway to goal weight and I have started getting the "you are so tiny (now)!" comments, so I predict I will eventually get some of these "you are too skinny" or " you're done losing now right?" comments once I'm close to or at goal weight. This thread is so useful in getting possibly ready for those comments with good comebacks that will shut down that noise right quick!

Aly_xx3

I get it fairly often. I'm 5'2 and 103lbs. People don't understand why I say no to desserts, a second helping, etc. I was at a family friend's event last week and everyone was going inside to get pie. I don't like pie! Some old guy I don't even know said they "need to fatten (me) up". A drunk friend told me I'd look way better if I gained about 20 pounds. Thanks, no thanks.

iowalinda

Aly_xx3 wrote: »

I get it fairly often. I'm 5'2 and 103lbs. People don't understand why I say no to desserts, a second helping, etc. I was at a family friend's event last week and everyone was going inside to get pie. I don't like pie! Some old guy I don't even know said they "need to fatten (me) up". A drunk friend told me I'd look way better if I gained about 20 pounds. Thanks, no thanks.

Uck! I had one woman tell me I need to eat a few Twinkies. Another told me I'll soon look like a bag of bones. Another told me I'll blow away in a slight breeze. My hubby tells me I look great, and since I feel healthy and strong, and my own mirror shows a reflection I like, the others can just stick their opinions where the sun don't shine LOL

AMIE2881

People use to say this to me then when I gained weight... Then it was you look like you need to lose weight. Same with not having a tan. People are a-holes. Even friends and family.