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Ignorance of Nutrition

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  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    He sounds like an obsessive, where fat really does bother him. I've got an OCD man myself but it's around cleanliness. We have a rule. If it bothers him, he cleans it up. I'm not climbing down his crazy hole. I keep my sanity that way.
  • breelinda
    breelinda Posts: 67 Member
    My opinion. .. people who cut other people down, and are hurtful, don't like there own selves, so they treat others badly. I have experience with someone like that , and I lost weight, then it was my hair color, died my hair blonde, then it was the way I laughed, I was young and thought I was in love, but... no matter what I did it wasn't good enough for him, which ended up truly being his self hatred for his own self being not goof enough and projected it on to me, he needs therapy. But.. he may need to realize its NOT You its him. If someone truly loved someone, why wouldthey cut them down and cricriticize everything they do. Its his own issues andhohonestly I dont think u deserve it, so stop giving him the power to try to control you by making u feel like crap. Ughh u deserve better.
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    My abusive and arrogant ex husband didn't attend any birth classes and then on the big day proceeded to demonstrate superior yoga poses. When I entered hard labour he nearly fainted. I never got an apology of course. The man, thirty five years later, hasn't changed. Me, I've faced down several layers of demons to be a better person.
  • tincanonastring
    tincanonastring Posts: 3,944 Member
    I've found that others' comments end up giving me more motivation to accomplish my goals. I try really hard not to let it affect my actions beyond that though. Question, OP: I notice in your diary that you were eating close to the calorie goal given by MFP up until the last 2 days. Did you cut it down because of what he's been saying? Don't give him that power.
  • sallygroundhog
    sallygroundhog Posts: 133 Member
    shelsi16 wrote: »
    Myxalplyx wrote: »
    Looks to me that the OP wasn't asking anyone for an opinion about her situation. She was simply venting. She asked, "Has anyone else encountered this problem with friends and family?"

    I have talked to my boyfriend, several times, about not commenting on how much or when I eat. I've told him that it makes me feel self conscious to even eat at all when he's home. He will usually stop the comments for a week or two. It's usually fairly subtle, like today. He said, to our daughter this morning, "I wish I could sit around the house with you and snack on everything in the refrigerator all day." So I asked if he still has a problem with what I eat (because I've only started dieting recently) and he said, "I never had a problem with WHAT you eat."

    And yes, I am rambling, but one more point. He comes from the lifestyle of "do or die." There is no try, there is no making progress. There is no satisfaction. For him, everything can always improve. If you did 50 squats today, you should've done 100, even if you fell over from muscle fatigue. He seems to have the impression that you can just stop eating, and everything will be hunky dory, and you can eat again when you're skinny.

    I don't think you should let your daughter be around this toxic man. You should protect her. He is hurting your self-esteem and you are a grown-up. What will it do to her to see her mom being treated this way? It's just a matter of time before he starts in on her.

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