Okay, so what’s on my mind is: why do I feel it’s okay for my husband to chat and DM the female internet friends he makes through the internet channels/forums he participates in (e,g.: Twitter groups, other forums) but I feel guilty when I chat with dudes who have proven to be harmless here on MFP? WTF is up with the patriarchy making me feel like kitten?? 😠
I'm a firm believer that nobody can MAKE you feel anything. Yes, other people may ‘trigger’ you, and yes, it’s natural to feel upset when they do. But you are responsible for your own feelings.
It's fairly rare that a post/thread gets under my skin the way this one is currently doing I keep repeating I'm a nice person over and over in my head to stop me from saying it without saying it I digress but someone may need to hold my cosmo for me soon
It's fairly rare that a post/thread gets under my skin the way this one is currently doing I keep repeating I'm a nice person over and over in my head to stop me from saying it without saying it I digress but someone may need to hold my cosmo for me soon
I get this way sometimes, too.
I'm bursting....I can feel it
I have waited years to hear this from any one of my gfs. Sigh...one day.
It's fairly rare that a post/thread gets under my skin the way this one is currently doing I keep repeating I'm a nice person over and over in my head to stop me from saying it without saying it I digress but someone may need to hold my cosmo for me soon
I get this way sometimes, too.
I'm bursting....I can feel it
I have waited years to hear this from any one of my gfs. Sigh...one day.
Just keep trying. Practice makes perfect. :flowerforyou:
Okay, so what’s on my mind is: why do I feel it’s okay for my husband to chat and DM the female internet friends he makes through the internet channels/forums he participates in (e,g.: Twitter groups, other forums) but I feel guilty when I chat with dudes who have proven to be harmless here on MFP? WTF is up with the patriarchy making me feel like kitten?? 😠
I'm a firm believer that nobody can MAKE you feel anything. Yes, other people may ‘trigger’ you, and yes, it’s natural to feel upset when they do. But you are responsible for your own feelings.
I say this gently ❤️
No offence taken 🙂.
Oh it’s not him, he knows and really doesn’t care. Maybe that’s it? Maybe I want him to care more?
But like @MaltedTea has said, let’s blame the patriarchy where we can. 😉 Truly though, I think it applies because there’s a sense in society that it’s more “okay” (not saying that it actually is) for guys to be more promiscuous than woman. Terms like “home wrecker” generally are used against women. I think it’s changing in society (slowly) and also coming to a realization that patriarchy also negatively affects men as well. I could go on but I just wanted to dump what was on my mind. Guess I need to evaluate why I feel slightly guilty...where’s that Catholic Guilt coming from (even tho I’m not catholic!)??
So, I woke to an SMS from my bank to say my bank card had a temporary block put on it due to suspicious activity and to call the number in the SMS.
It says its the Fraud Squad number in the SMS , but is it really.? ..
It took me over 30 mins to verify that number actually was legit.
I think that's ridiculous that the bank always says be mindful of scams etc, yet they send you an SMS with a number for you to contact..smh.. I was so confused.. do I or don't I contact. Anyway, block removed but honestly I can't help but think how stupid it was.
It's fairly rare that a post/thread gets under my skin the way this one is currently doing I keep repeating I'm a nice person over and over in my head to stop me from saying it without saying it I digress but someone may need to hold my cosmo for me soon
I get this way sometimes, too.
I'm bursting....I can feel it
I have waited years to hear this from any one of my gfs. Sigh...one day.
Just keep trying. Practice makes perfect. :flowerforyou:
So, I woke to an SMS from my bank to say my bank card had a temporary block put on it due to suspicious activity and to call the number in the SMS.
It says its the Fraud Squad number in the SMS , but is it really.? ..
It took me over 30 mins to verify that number actually was legit.
I think that's ridiculous that the bank always says be mindful of scams etc, yet they send you an SMS with a number for you to contact..smh.. I was so confused.. do I or don't I contact. Anyway, block removed but honestly I can't help but think how stupid it was.
If you're not sure just call the number on the back of your bank card.
So, I woke to an SMS from my bank to say my bank card had a temporary block put on it due to suspicious activity and to call the number in the SMS.
It says its the Fraud Squad number in the SMS , but is it really.? ..
It took me over 30 mins to verify that number actually was legit.
I think that's ridiculous that the bank always says be mindful of scams etc, yet they send you an SMS with a number for you to contact..smh.. I was so confused.. do I or don't I contact. Anyway, block removed but honestly I can't help but think how stupid it was.
If you're not sure just call the number on the back of your bank card.
I thought about that but it is a general customer care number which doesn't open till 9am. So what I eventually did was log into my account and ask the live assist what their fraud squad number was and she confirmed it. Luckily it is a 24/7 open number so my card was unlocked instantly.
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I'm a firm believer that nobody can MAKE you feel anything. Yes, other people may ‘trigger’ you, and yes, it’s natural to feel upset when they do. But you are responsible for your own feelings.
I say this gently ❤️
I’m wondering what i’m missing 🧐
I have waited years to hear this from any one of my gfs. Sigh...one day.
Just keep trying. Practice makes perfect. :flowerforyou:
No offence taken 🙂.
Oh it’s not him, he knows and really doesn’t care. Maybe that’s it? Maybe I want him to care more?
But like @MaltedTea has said, let’s blame the patriarchy where we can. 😉 Truly though, I think it applies because there’s a sense in society that it’s more “okay” (not saying that it actually is) for guys to be more promiscuous than woman. Terms like “home wrecker” generally are used against women. I think it’s changing in society (slowly) and also coming to a realization that patriarchy also negatively affects men as well. I could go on but I just wanted to dump what was on my mind. Guess I need to evaluate why I feel slightly guilty...where’s that Catholic Guilt coming from (even tho I’m not catholic!)??
It says its the Fraud Squad number in the SMS , but is it really.? ..
It took me over 30 mins to verify that number actually was legit.
I think that's ridiculous that the bank always says be mindful of scams etc, yet they send you an SMS with a number for you to contact..smh.. I was so confused.. do I or don't I contact. Anyway, block removed but honestly I can't help but think how stupid it was.
😂😂😂
Fine! I'll be in my bunk😏
I wasn't the one who disagreed but I was the one who was inspired 😁
That disagree must be a scroll click. Who would disagree with this?
I empathize. 🤪
with it having been so long, that might be too much too soon
Nah........is there too much? 😂
If you're not sure just call the number on the back of your bank card.
I thought about that but it is a general customer care number which doesn't open till 9am. So what I eventually did was log into my account and ask the live assist what their fraud squad number was and she confirmed it. Luckily it is a 24/7 open number so my card was unlocked instantly.
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My gut hurts from laughing.