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  • zika007zika007 Posts: 29Member Member Posts: 29Member Member
    Gimsteinn1 wrote: »
    2 kids, 4 dogs and a cat here.. I'm good with the workouts but it's the bloody clean eating that I struggle with.
    When you're tired after the day and you still have to cook dinner, walk the dogs, bathe the kids, help them with their homework, get them to bed and read for them it's way to easy to make something fast and unhealthy (For me, ordering pizza)
    Feel free to add me.

    Oh yeah I don't really bodybuild but I do Olympic lifting and crossfit.
    I do understand completely I have 3 kids and a mini zoo myself. Was struggling with clean eating forever but now I put more effort into cooking separate for myself . It's a bloody effort and seems impossible at times. Thanks for sharing
  • zika007zika007 Posts: 29Member Member Posts: 29Member Member
    You look fantastic btw OP. You can definitely see the hard work and dedication you have put in.
    thank you :)

  • zika007zika007 Posts: 29Member Member Posts: 29Member Member
    zika007 wrote: »
    Hi everyone. Looking for some friends who struggle with motivation. I am a married mom of 3 and have been training bodybuilding style for 3 years. I don't compete and sometimes I find myself being stuck in a limbo. Got to a stage where I am afraid to slow down always worrying about loosing my "gains". I am one of the girls who is not afraid to get bulky yet my family don't agree. Anyone else with similar dilemma out there?

    I think you look great, but also know that it's a look that would not be attractive to lots of people. I train hard, along with my husband, and we both compete so know the hard yards that go in to being dedicated to training and diet (not just to prep for shows).....

    It is our lifestyle, and it helps that we do it together, but I do think there's an element of obsession to it, and it's not necessarily healthy. We have both lost friends and seen others have relationships fail because of gym/training, and its sad. At the end of the day, having muscles doesn't make anyone a good person, and it is ultimately a selfish pursuit,that takes up lots of time both in and out if the gym.

    I don't just want to be remembered as the person who trained hard and had muscles and was dedicated to the gym and diet, I'm so much more than that, and there's more to life than looking a certain way....your kids won't care if you have smaller biceps, but they will care if you miss a concert or story time, or can't enjoy an icecream with them guilt free because of your hobby. (not saying this is you, just a generalisation!)
    Thank you for sharing your opinion. I am doing my best to combine the two lifestyles. Being a mom comes first of course. And I don't always stick to my diet so an odd time I have ice cream or pizza myself. Bodybuilding helped my with depression and I'd rather be obsessed then depressed. I suffered really bad and it never really goes away but it's under control
  • zika007zika007 Posts: 29Member Member Posts: 29Member Member
    Sometimes family / friends can't appreciate or understand the journey or goals one might be trying to achieve. You look great btw. More power to you!
    Absolutely true and thank you :smile:
  • zika007zika007 Posts: 29Member Member Posts: 29Member Member
    RoxieDawn wrote: »
    I am not competing in bodybuilding, just a 49 year old woman working on body composition. Currently 3 weeks post bulk (3rd one) far from bulkay but quite stalky.

    My family knows what I am striving for and would never call me obsessed, more like dedicated to my goals and the process to get there.

    OP you look fantastic. I could always welcome another lady lifter to my friends list.
    thank you so much
  • zika007zika007 Posts: 29Member Member Posts: 29Member Member
    OP you look amazing I have to say. You must have put some great work in for that body. Inspirational x

    Awh thank you very much :) feel free to add me x

  • ejsilviejsilvi Posts: 205Member Member Posts: 205Member Member
    What kind of supplements do you take ? You look great
  • blackcomaroblackcomaro Posts: 790Member Member Posts: 790Member Member
    I also would be happy to be added to your friend list... its always nice to see progress of motivational lifters
  • Morgaen73Morgaen73 Posts: 2,825Member Member Posts: 2,825Member Member
    You look fantastic. I'm doing recomp so even though I'm not "bulking" I get what you are saying. I struggle to build muscle as well. Anyway, feel free to add me.
  • KimmyKicksAssKimmyKicksAss Posts: 60Member Member Posts: 60Member Member
    Mom of 1 here. Trying to get back into it. I'm getting there I hope. Love my lifting friends!
  • zika007zika007 Posts: 29Member Member Posts: 29Member Member
    I also would be happy to be added to your friend list... its always nice to see progress of motivational lifters

    No probs
  • zika007zika007 Posts: 29Member Member Posts: 29Member Member
    Mom of 1 here. Trying to get back into it. I'm getting there I hope. Love my lifting friends!
    Hey nice to meet you. Take your time getting back feel free to add me
    edited April 2017
  • leajas1leajas1 Posts: 823Member Member Posts: 823Member Member
    zika007 wrote: »
    Gimsteinn1 wrote: »
    2 kids, 4 dogs and a cat here.. I'm good with the workouts but it's the bloody clean eating that I struggle with.
    When you're tired after the day and you still have to cook dinner, walk the dogs, bathe the kids, help them with their homework, get them to bed and read for them it's way to easy to make something fast and unhealthy (For me, ordering pizza)
    Feel free to add me.

    Oh yeah I don't really bodybuild but I do Olympic lifting and crossfit.
    I do understand completely I have 3 kids and a mini zoo myself. Was struggling with clean eating forever but now I put more effort into cooking separate for myself . It's a bloody effort and seems impossible at times. Thanks for sharing

    I always cook separate for myself - it's just the easiest way. I make 2 5-6 serving recipes every week and that's lunch and dinner for the whole week. My kids and husband eat different things. It's just the way it is if I don't want to be cooking every night. Which I don't.

    Working out and keeping track of my eating has also helped me manage my depression. I was able to go off meds over two years ago. When my mom (who brought up the fact that I might be obsessing last summer) found out that I had been stable and off meds for such a long time, she was shocked and hasn't brought it up since. We actually had a really nice talk and she asked me just last week to show her how to work some machines at her gym ;)
  • jbarry1506jbarry1506 Posts: 1,512Member Member Posts: 1,512Member Member
    I think we all struggle with motivation on some level. Having lots of friends posting movational quotes, progress pictures, meal prep ideas, and workouts always helps
  • ChieflrgChieflrg Posts: 7,878Member Member Posts: 7,878Member Member
    tjkita wrote: »
    You look good Zika and if you want to add more muscle on then to heck with what everyone else thinks. I do think that there is a point where you plateau naturally depending on age. However going to the dark side has several side effects for both men and women. Voice deepening, hair loss, skipped menstral cycles, etc.

    No. Muscle hypertrophy as well as strength has been proven to happen even in 90 year old people when they apply sufficient muscle stimulas, recovery, and adaptation by progressive overload.

    Protien absorption is tougher for muscle synthesis as we age so we have to eat more as well as better quality protien to combat this issue.

    A plateau has to do with inappropriate programing for the individual or lack of following appreciate programming, not age.
  • zika007zika007 Posts: 29Member Member Posts: 29Member Member
    jbarry1506 wrote: »
    I think we all struggle with motivation on some level. Having lots of friends posting movational quotes, progress pictures, meal prep ideas, and workouts always helps
    yeah true it does help very true

  • zika007zika007 Posts: 29Member Member Posts: 29Member Member
    leajas1 wrote: »
    zika007 wrote: »
    Gimsteinn1 wrote: »
    2 kids, 4 dogs and a cat here.. I'm good with the workouts but it's the bloody clean eating that I struggle with.
    When you're tired after the day and you still have to cook dinner, walk the dogs, bathe the kids, help them with their homework, get them to bed and read for them it's way to easy to make something fast and unhealthy (For me, ordering pizza)
    Feel free to add me.

    Oh yeah I don't really bodybuild but I do Olympic lifting and crossfit.
    I do understand completely I have 3 kids and a mini zoo myself. Was struggling with clean eating forever but now I put more effort into cooking separate for myself . It's a bloody effort and seems impossible at times. Thanks for sharing

    I always cook separate for myself - it's just the easiest way. I make 2 5-6 serving recipes every week and that's lunch and dinner for the whole week. My kids and husband eat different things. It's just the way it is if I don't want to be cooking every night. Which I don't.

    Working out and keeping track of my eating has also helped me manage my depression. I was able to go off meds over two years ago. When my mom (who brought up the fact that I might be obsessing last summer) found out that I had been stable and off meds for such a long time, she was shocked and hasn't brought it up since. We actually had a really nice talk and she asked me just last week to show her how to work some machines at her gym ;)
    im exactly the same cooking separate for myself, my husband and my kids. Off medication 2 years as well. Didn't say I was cured but manageable all thanks to my training routine
    edited April 2017
  • PizzatheactionPizzatheaction Posts: 2Member Member Posts: 2Member Member
    zika007 wrote: »
    leajas1 wrote: »
    zika007 wrote: »
    I am not a skinny built bulking works to a certain degree with me. Suppose women can only get to a certain size when staying natural. I don't see myself as big but a lot of my friends and family think I'm getting too masculine. Don't know if I was suffering from body dysmorphia or just seriously addicted to lifting.

    It's a mind *kitten* to be so excited about what we think are healthy and beautiful changes in our bodies and then have a loved one say something to mess with that. I've also had to question my thinking based on comments from others - is this commitment or an unhealthy obsession? I'm the only one of my friends and family who is into lifting and meal planning, so around them, it feels like an unhealthy obsession. But in places like this forum and Insta, I'm just one of many who value the same aesthetics and enjoy fitting things poptarts into my plan.
    I had to take my insta down as a result of clashing opinions in my family. I have never posted any explicit pictures of myself neither did I have any flirty conversations still was classed as attention seeking exhibitionist ..... so wrong
    edited September 2
  • PizzatheactionPizzatheaction Posts: 2Member Member Posts: 2Member Member
    zika007 wrote: »
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    I had to take my insta down as a result of clashing opinions in my family. I have never posted any explicit pictures of myself neither did I have any flirty conversations still was classed as attention seeking exhibitionist ..... so wrong[/quote]

    No hun, what was wrong was you having an Instagram affair with my husband for a year, changing your Insta address several times to facilitate this, sending photos, taking over £1,400 of his money, and using your own teenage daughter as a go between for messages and money. You called your husband horrible names. All for a bit of cheap validation, attention. You would be better off building your character rather than your muscles. Not exactly putting your family first in my book. Add narcissist, cheat and liar and your families views would be a tad more accurate.

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