Unsupportive spouse

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  • rdgfit
    rdgfit Posts: 98 Member
    edited December 2017
    My spouse is very supportive of my journey but I know I still send her around the bend at times. I sometimes have to remind myself that the lifestyle change I’m making is for me, and I can’t expect everyone to jump on with me, cause god knows it took me 20 years to get on the band wagon to start with. You need to be open about why you are doing it, how you are going to do it, and the support you need, but you also need to be open to compromise... I workout early in the morning or late at night to not upset the household schedule, sometimes eat more carbs than planned due to convenience with the kids, but in return my wife leaves the ingredients out for me to scan with the recipe so I can track, and waits patiently in a restaurant for me to look up the nutritional info on my phone before I order. It’s a new way of thinking and it doesn’t happen over night, and you may just need to give her time to catch up. But as a previous poster indicated we only get one body, and sometimes we do need to take a serious look and make corrections - and it’s not easy.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,030 Member
    Why don't you want her to cook meals? are you suddenly insisting on separate meals, or insisting that you do the cooking (thus making her eat foods she may not be keen on?) Are you working out at a time that used to be reserved for something you did with her, so you're depriving her of that thing?

    You're making changes. You're doing them for your own good, but you're also doing them unilaterally and it's affecting her. You're expecting her to change for your convenience, rather than asking her to make some changes to help you out.

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