How to approach girls in the gym???
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SnackherBarrell wrote: »
Finally, someone who knows how to use the elliptical properly.0 -
knavarro2015 wrote: »You can be friendly (maybe smile or say "hi"), but don't be a creeper...
Dammit !1 -
Keep that for other places lol. Girls go there to concentrate on their goals,not to get distracted by guys!
BUT,since this statement doesn't apply to all..
The first step would be to workout somewhere close to her,read her personality by the way she carries herself. If she seems all sweet, then ask her if she is new to the gym and needs help around. Don't be too insistent. Smile kindly at her.
A guy started correcting me on an exercise that I used to do wrong. You could try that too,but i was a bit bothered more than attracted at the time haha.
If she is the alpha,tougher kind of woman..you can still approach her,but you might have to take the longer road.
Good luck!1 -
Mike_Kolmel wrote: »I'm not sure where I stand on this. But if a relationship with another gym member goes sour, it may be akward to keep running into them at the gym.
This is so true! The gym is my me time & that would certainly ruin it.1 -
Bridge_marie wrote: »I’m gonna go with... Don’t.
Haha you read my mind 🤣0 -
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MagnumOpus1 wrote: »Bridge_marie wrote: »I’m gonna go with... Don’t.
What kind of nonsense reply is this?
Why wouldn't you approach someone you found attractive? As for the approach, not to be superficial but if you're higher on the well put together scale you're more likely get a better response. Putting that to one side, if you catch her gazing at you here and there she's interested. Simply pretend you're going over to use a machine where she's at then open conversation from there. Something along the lines of "I haven't seen you here before?" or "that weight is way too easy for you". If she's interested it'll roll from there. Whenever I say that it's actually genuine so at the same time just relax and feel what suits the moment. The same method works if there's just a hot girl you wanna pursue. Go over and use a machine or workout next to her then find an opening.
Good luck!
I think Don’t is a very good response. I know for myself anyway that I absolutely cannot stand when men try to hit on me while I’m at the gym. I’m there to focus on my work out and I don’t appreciate being bothered. Also all the pick up lines that you gave him would make me roll my eyes so far into the back of my head that I would see my brain.
So because you don't like to be approached (which I doubt unless you're in a relationship otherwise how are you dating anyone) he shouldn't try to approach women? Lol. While you might dislike being spoken to at the gym, for other girls who are single, they enjoy it if they're interested.
If the boy has game or not that's on him but to the guys who do, the gym or anywhere for that matter is a place to socialize with females.1 -
IHaveMyActTogether wrote: »A woman doesn't want you to approach her at the gym if she doesn't like you, because she's focused on her workout.
If she has a crush on you, she would love to have you approach her at the gym, because her workout can wait.
Precisely. So advice is one thing but if she's not into you then she's not into you. If she is then fire away.0 -
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So because you don't like to be approached (which I doubt unless you're in a relationship otherwise how are you dating anyone) he shouldn't try to approach women? Lol. While you might dislike being spoken to at the gym, for other girls who are single, they enjoy it if they're interested.
If the boy has game or not that's on him but to the guys who do, the gym or anywhere for that matter is a place to socialize with females. [/quote]
Whether I’m single or in a relationship I’m at the gym to focus on working out. I do not want to be hit in by random dudes. Even outside the gym guys can’t get anywhere with me 😂 As you can see be lots of other responses on this post it’s also not just me who feels this way. It’s annoying to be bothered when you are focusing on your workout. I could understand if he was asking how to approach girls at a bar or party for example. But not the gym.1 -
Whether I’m single or in a relationship I’m at the gym to focus on working out. I do not want to be hit in by random dudes. Even outside the gym guys can’t get anywhere with me 😂 As you can see be lots of other responses on this post it’s also not just me who feels this way. It’s annoying to be bothered when you are focusing on your workout. I could understand if he was asking how to approach girls at a bar or party for example. But not the gym.
Lol, so clearly you're in your own category. I'm sure you have girlfriends who would also disagree with you. If a girl is interested in a guy, you can be in a butchers she'll still be receptive. Women are not limited to a bar or parties. If you haven't gone to either in 3 weeks are you not supposed to have spoken to any woman in that period? Haha. Of course not.
Girl who hates being approached = don't approach
Girl who likes being approached by the right person = approach. Simple as that.0 -
@Jax2120 so how do you like being approached?0
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It's a big no,no they are to work out, just like you!!!1
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Lol, so clearly you're in your own category. I'm sure you have girlfriends who would also disagree with you. If a girl is interested in a guy, you can be in a butchers she'll still be receptive. Women are not limited to a bar or parties. If you haven't gone to a either in 3 weeks are you not supposed to have spoken to any woman in that period? Haha. Of course not.
Girl who hates being approached = don't approach
Girl who likes being approached by the right person = approach. Simple as that. [/quote]
First off I think there is a time & place to approach anyone. I don’t think if someone is focusing on their workout that the gym is the right place. Also if the OP said something like there is this one lady who he always sees at the gym who he is really interested in I would even understand that more. But it seems more that he just wants to approach women in general at the gym & as a Woman I’m letting you know it’s really annoying to be bothered when you are working out.1 -
MagnumOpus1 wrote: »@Jax2120 so how do you like being approached?
Not at the gym. It also depends on who is doing the approaching.0 -
First off I think there is a time & place to approach anyone. I don’t think if someone is focusing on their workout that the gym is the right place. Also if the OP said something like there is this one lady who he always sees at the gym who he is really interested in I would even understand that more. But it seems more that he just wants to approach women in general at the gym & as a Woman I’m letting you know it’s really annoying to be bothered when you are working out.
Why are you butchering the quotation so badly? Lol
I agree with what you're saying. I'm not saying walk up to someone in the middle of a set and ask for a phone number. That's silly. If you don't have social tact to begin with then such person has more important things to deal with. I'm referring to someone with common sense. If you know there's a women you would like to get to know, you don't disturb them while you can see they're 100% engaged. That type of women is likely to have both headphones in and make zero eye contact. If that's the case cool, maybe that day wasn't the right opportunity but you can hope to catch her when she looks less busy or at the water fountain etc.
But to the other type of women who isn't 100 engrossed in her workout, as a man, there's tell tell signs if you came over it wouldn't be and issue. Sometimes they come over to you, that's been my experience at least. There's only room for that if I allow it to happen by being more relaxed, open and making eye contact because maybe I'm at the winding down stages of a workout or I'm just doing cardio or walking around generally socialising. Where I workout a huge bunch of people know eachother from being a regular so of course talking happens. It's not by force, if you don't want to talk then you don't have to. My gyms a happy place. If say I'm talking to a staff member just bantering and U catch a women continuously looking over at me, that for me indicates she wants my attention. So I go over and maybe join her workout or watch her workout while we talk.
It's not a blanket approach to every situation. Every situation is different. Some done in an instant, some done over a longer period of days/weeks, some done over the course of a day. So it varies.
That's just my take on it. Not everyone wants to interact while at the gym, that's okay. Also going to gym purely to talk to woman is silly and a waste of money imo. Each to their own though.0 -
MagnumOpus1 wrote: »@Jax2120 so how do you like being approached?
Not at the gym. It also depends on who is doing the approaching.
Exactly. If someone you're unattracted to approaches you you're not going to respond well. That's a normal reaction.0 -
MagnumOpus1 wrote: »MagnumOpus1 wrote: »@Jax2120 so how do you like being approached?
Not at the gym. It also depends on who is doing the approaching.
Exactly. If someone you're unattracted to approaches you you're not going to respond well. That's a normal reaction.
But still not at the gym. I’m there to focus on myself & don't want to be bothered.0 -
MagnumOpus1 wrote: »MagnumOpus1 wrote: »@Jax2120 so how do you like being approached?
Not at the gym. It also depends on who is doing the approaching.
Exactly. If someone you're unattracted to approaches you you're not going to respond well. That's a normal reaction.
But still not at the gym. I’m there to focus on myself & don't want to be bothered.
I can respect that.1
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