That look

keiram555

Yes! I lost my weight pretty rapidly, and my mind is still catching up to my body. My self esteem is pretty low, in other words. Because of this, I still describe myself as chubby, and often get the same "look" I would have been giving just a year ago. I feel so bad every time, but it's hard to help!

Avidkeo

I have caught myself giving that look, and stopped midway because I recognise now I dont know their story. I usually use it as an opportunity to have a conversation and am met with the same realisation.

CarvedTones

What I have to be careful about is humor that I think of as being about me and have someone else think it is just about them. While you are overweight, it's okay to joke about being overweight but not once you have lost weight. The look you get if you do that is pretty withering and it doesn't soften when you say you used to be overweight also.

OhMsDiva

I do not have to worry about the look. Although I have lost 200 lbs or so I am nowhere near skinny. I once had a coworker ask why am I not smaller when I appear to eat so healthy. I showed her my before pic and she almost fell over. I guess the moral of the story is that you cannot judge any book by its cover.

VictoriaTuel

I relate to this so much! I'm currently 172cm/5'7.5" 59kg/130lbs, and I just moved to a new job last September. None of my coworkers believe that I used to weigh 23+kg/50+lbs more than I do now. I've shown them pictures and they still don't completely believe me, and give me the look just for saying I used to weigh more!

I've only been this fit for less than a year and it's such an adjustment in what I can say. I've always been self confident, but now when I express confidence in my appearance, most people give me the "be quiet skinny minnie" look (or just outright say that), while when I weighed more everyone celebrated my confidence. What makes me the most sad is that fewer people seem to believe my compliments to them are genuine now. I may be smaller than you, but I can tell you're strong and beautiful too!

I think most people would be happier if we just believed other people have good intentions

DancingMoosie

TavistockToad wrote: »

DancingMoosie wrote: »

Yes, people forget that we all started somewhere. I get it. Some people won't even ask me for advice, because they assume that I am so far advanced that I wouldn't give them anything relevant to themselves.

Drives me mad the 'you're thin, what could you possibly know about losing weight' mentality!

Yes exactly

CSARdiver

VictoriaTuel wrote: »

I relate to this so much! I'm currently 172cm/5'7.5" 59kg/130lbs, and I just moved to a new job last September. None of my coworkers believe that I used to weigh 23+kg/50+lbs more than I do now. I've shown them pictures and they still don't completely believe me, and give me the look just for saying I used to weigh more!

I've only been this fit for less than a year and it's such an adjustment in what I can say. I've always been self confident, but now when I express confidence in my appearance, most people give me the "be quiet skinny minnie" look (or just outright say that), while when I weighed more everyone celebrated my confidence. What makes me the most sad is that fewer people seem to believe my compliments to them are genuine now. I may be smaller than you, but I can tell you're strong and beautiful too!

I think most people would be happier if we just believed other people have good intentions

Keystone of society. You cannot maintain any sort of healthy relationship if you believe other people have bad intentions.

batorkin

It is crazy how different people treat me. Girls hit on me and smile at me, they take my number without second guessing, even men are much more likely to small talk with me. I actually had a girl approach ME for the first time in my life last weekend. Whenever I mention my journey over the last year, many people seem to "second guess" talking to me. It's an awful look. It is usually followed by "oh you're full of it!" or "yeah right!".

In a year, I have lost 96 pounds, got rid of my glasses, started embracing my baldness (shaving my head completely), and spent lots of time outside (I use to be as white as a ghost). I cannot recognize old pictures of myself, and I have been refused beer because of my driver's license photo. People use to say I look 35-36, now they say I look 27-30 (I am almost 32).

Best thing I have ever done for myself, my biggest regret is I didn't do it a decade sooner.

tcunbeliever

I usually get that look from my family, along with the "you've always been thin" line...I started working out and being careful with food over 21 years ago and somehow they still attribute my healthy size to some kind of magic...it's not magic, it's just a lot of years of a lot of effort.