The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Hi Guys, I hope everyone is well. I have decided to make an appointment with a dietitian to come up with a plan to get rid of my extra weight and bring down my cholesterol. In preparation for our meeting, she asked me to keep a food diary. Well that alone is motivating me to eat well and not drink. However, I DID have wine yesterday on Valentine's Day...was not worth it as usual....crazy pounding heart in the middle of the night, dry mouth etc. It's such a terrible habit and addiction really. I'm so proud and envious of those of you that have really kicked alcohol's butt for good. I'm still struggling with it but I really hope having to be accountable to someone else (the dietitian) will help.10
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Thanks Jen for your post........again, I use these post as a guide for continuing not to drink.........when you said that you had "pounding in the night, dry mouth", ...........it sure gives me a wake up call........ That was me 2 years ago and it feels like yesterday that I experienced those things, when I read your post. ;It triggered me to stay on my track. Its really, really comforting and reassuring.........just keep focused, it will happen.
thanks for your honesty, it helps me big time...............best wishes, Lloyd7 -
So, I don't know exactly what I'm "replying" to.. idk how to start a new discussion, & don't really want to. I've been quietly following this thread for a few months. All while NOT being alcohol free, but still using it as a "check in" of sorts.. if anything, at least to MFP. I read it to see what everyone else is going through, & for inspiration, insight, & advice.
This past Saturday, with the help of some 115% gin, I fell & broke 3 bones in my ankle in 4 different places. I had surgery on Tuesday. Now, of course, i have had many wake up calls in the past few years, & I've ignored them. I've learned there is no magical time to decide..it's just when you finally do for yourself. This is my time, finally. I know it. I am laid up at my parent's house recovering, but when I do get home. It will be different. I didn't go out. I was a drink at home person. I'll no longer keep alcohol in my house. Also, I have a work friend who is 5 months into meetings. When I am more mobile, I will go check those out with her. Idk that I'll be completely AF forever.. I go out to eat MAYBE 3 or 4 times a year. & I'd like to think that a couple of those times, I'd like to enjoy a good dark beer with dinner. (I'm really a booze drinker) Maybe I will, & maybe not. I just know that my eyes are finally open, & I'm exhausted with "living" in this way. I appreciate y'all listening to me ramble. I'm so glad you're here.
Today is 6 days AF. Have to start somewhere, right?!!14 -
Welcome, @stephanne13. I hope you recover from your injury soon. Please continue to check in with us and let us know how you are doing. My mother broke her ankle in 3 places a few years ago and I remember it was a real ordeal for her. I feel for you!4
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@lloydrt Thank you for your kind comments. I appreciate them.4
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Hi Friends, I am checking in to say hello. I love reading your honest posts. I bought a house on Valentine's Day. It's a cute little ranch, and I am excited. I will be living next door to one of my cousins. That's a big coincidence. I saw the house on Zillow but didn't know it was next door to him. Anyway, you probably remember many of my cousins are good people but alcoholics like me.
My sister called to congratulate me. She did offer a piece of advice, because she lives on the next street. She said when she moved into her home, my cousin would walk over and want to chat and have some beer. She said to be aware of that. I said well since my house rules will be and are currently "no alcohol stored in my home", he won't be having a beer at my house.
I also reflected how I used to do the same thing. I knew my friend, a fellow wino, would drink in the evenings. And I would go for a walk and on my way back, I would stop by to say hello. All with the intentions of having some wine and yes, conversation. But people like me do that. Always have alcohol on the brain- searching for a fix.5 -
@stephanne13 That is so awful. I'm sorry to hear how you fell and are injured. Best wishes for a speedy recovery. xo5
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Thank you, RR.
Is everyone all right? Seems to have been extra quiet these past couple of days..4 -
Loved that i found this post... been alcohol free for 150 days today ! Found it so hard as drunk (heavy) every single day ... ive been seeing a counsellor and im actually seeing life without alcohol more clearer ... my brain still has its mishaps thinking i can handle just one drink... but im a all or nothing .. so all my energy is going into my calorie counting and controlling life in another direction !11
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HI ALL
I was away dog sitting this week and didn't come onto MFP the entire week!! It's like I had giant brain fart and the wheels fell off the cart...can I blame it on menopause and the sketchy memory syndrome? It's nice see new & old faces and great comments, but it seems like it has been fairly quiet here all week.
@stephanne13 Yikes, Terrible injury....like you said a "wake-up call." Hope you can get the support you need here...lots of good references to articles, videos etc that has really helped me to fight the fine fight. In 3 more months I'll be 2 years AF and it feels like this is just my life now. The first 6 months was the worst for me and then after a year, it has become really normal. I really like not drinking. I should say, I like not "problem drinking." If I could drink I would, but I can't LOL (I think that was a Craig Ferguson line from his blurb about his alcohol problem) I have a definite problem with it & I never want to forget that. I hope you find what works for you.
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Kimberleyb81 wrote: »Loved that i found this post... been alcohol free for 150 days today ! Found it so hard as drunk (heavy) every single day ... ive been seeing a counsellor and im actually seeing life without alcohol more clearer ... my brain still has its mishaps thinking i can handle just one drink... but im a all or nothing .. so all my energy is going into my calorie counting and controlling life in another direction !
Congratulations of 150 days AF ~ I'm all or nothing also & I know there are others here can relate to that. I can also relate to the daily drinking habit for too many years. I'm glad you are getting some therapy around your drinking issue. It sounds like you're doing great. This thread is a great resource and I really hope you continue to share your ups & downs with us. 2 -
@RubyRed427 Congrats on the new digs...I'm excited for you!! 2
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@JenT304 I hope the dietician is the motivator you are looking for...it's such a struggle trying to get a handle on the weight thing...I do really good and then I fall off the wagon for a bit then on then off...I drive myself crazy!!! BUT we are still fighting to get control and that's what counts...keep us posted on your progress. 4
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@lloydrt Your comments are always so encouraging...and yes, honesty is the best policy and I too really appreciate the honesty here, because we are here for each other and the only way that will work is if we are real with ourselves and with each other.
OK, I'm done now...enough from moi LOL 4 -
So happy for you @RubyRed427 on the house purchase. Hope all is well with all of you!3
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Hi. I'm happy to find a sober thread on MFP. I'm just starting over after having 170 days AF. Currently on day 6. Wasn't even a huge relapse, but a few minor slips which I couldn't ignore. I think I've figured out somewhat why I relapsed and happy to get to a clear space again.
I'm calorie counting and doing 16:8 fasting, have put on about 15lbs since quitting drink 😕 comfort eating. So far so good two weeks into my renewed health efforts.6 -
Hi Friends, I'm doing well here. Now that spring is in the near future, my mood Is getting better. I got into a car accident this weekend. I was at a standstill waiting for people in front of me to turn across traffic, and then BAM a car behind me crashed into me like a missile. No skid marks. Two teens were in the car. They are lucky they weren't killed; their car's front end was like an accordion. My sturdy Audi didn't look nearly as bad. But it is bad. I was so bummed since I paid it off last month. As I sat waiting for the police, I did think "Thank God" I wasn't drinking that day. It was early evening, and I could have had wine with lunch but didn't. We were all ok, but it is a huge inconvenience to be without my car and driving a rental. But more importantly, it is another reminder how life can change so quickly. No one was injured. That's the important thing.6
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https://www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com
Great resource. Get on Belle's email list and you will get a daily reminder. Belle prints an email from a customer/participant of her program and reading letters written from the heart especially when I can relate is helpful. Here is today's excerpt ; I didn't copy and paste the whole thing but a snippet:
from today's email....."It has been so hard for me to reach out for help because I am so mortified that I can not control my drinking. I’m crying even writing this because the shame and embarrassment are just excruciating. It’s taken me years to admit this to myself. I have spent so long caring for others and pouring booze on my head as care to myself that I don’t really know what self care is. Yes I have the baths, and the tonic and cran, and treats, but your email about using bandaid to help a heart attack just reinforced that I feel like I have no *kitten* clue what I’m doing. "
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Hi. I'm happy to find a sober thread on MFP. I'm just starting over after having 170 days AF. Currently on day 6. Wasn't even a huge relapse, but a few minor slips which I couldn't ignore. I think I've figured out somewhat why I relapsed and happy to get to a clear space again.
I'm calorie counting and doing 16:8 fasting, have put on about 15lbs since quitting drink 😕 comfort eating. So far so good two weeks into my renewed health efforts.
What a bummer that you needed to start over. BUT that happened to me. I think I got to 174 days and drank. I really truly wish I didn't. But I commend you for getting back on track. It is a learning experience, and you are so wise and brave to get back to AF living. xo4
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