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  • DoxmumDoxmum Member, Premium Posts: 84 Member Member, Premium Posts: 84 Member
    Hey there @RubyRed427: Congrats on not opening the bottle in the fridge. Sounds like you've moved away from "resisting" drinking to not wanting to drink - a huge step! I'm not there yet but today was a learning experience. (See my post in Less-A.). The program I'm doing is called "Take a Break" by Rachel Hart. I wouldn't say it's easy (there is a LOT of homework) but it is sane, pragmatic, and realistic for those of us who don't want to completely isolate ourselves (we know what that feels like now) in order not to drink. She has something like 150 podcasts on Spotify. I listened to 3 of them at random, and they resonated with me. If you don't subscribe to Spotify they have a free 30 day trial.

    I had been successful at reducing my intake, but I could not seem to give up my daily can of Brut bubbles for even a day, much less 30 - the Take a Break time. Check it out: https://www.rachelhart.com I recommend the podcasts first to see if her approach makes sense for you. The website is good but she's marketing. Let me know what you think.

    Have a good week everyone!
  • RubyRed427RubyRed427 Member Posts: 2,496 Member Member Posts: 2,496 Member
    I had some temptation tonight. I rode my bike To Walgreens to get some exercise and some toiletries. I walked near the wine aisle and they had several little box wines, a can of wine and even single glass bottle wine. I said to myself why bother and then you'll sleep poorly. So I grabbed some gummy Lifesavers instead.

    I am nearly done with the school year and I will have the summer of reconnection with myself. Remember what I used to love to do besides drinking and do those things. I do recall that two years ago on the last day of school with students, my drinking buddy and I went out til 2:00 a.m. and drank so much. I bet I had a severe hangover!! Guess if she called me this year? Nope. Remember she's the one I told two weeks ago that I am sober now and she said "Ok bye." That speaks volumes to me. Like @whitpauly and several others have said you will lose some friends being sober but they weren't your friends to begin with if they don't love you sober as much as they did drunk.

    Makes me kind of sad but totally not worth giving up sobriety. I am in this for the long run. I cannot live a life of misery, pain and suffering, and disgust with myself one minute longer.
  • RubyRed427RubyRed427 Member Posts: 2,496 Member Member Posts: 2,496 Member
    @Beka3695 & @whitpauly Yep, I too have had the Oh Crap, I forgot I wasn't drinking! dream. At least it's replaced the Oh crap, I forgot I was in college and tomorrow is my Calculus final! dream. Why can't we at least have fun in our dreams for crying out loud???

    Thanks for sharing additional online resources. I had a teletherapist appointment last night. We talked about drinking a bit, but honestly, for me, a recurring theme in my adult life is the craving for deep connections with women and the difficulty in finding and cultivating them. The kind of connection that you connect with daily.
    That you know has your back and you theirs. That you would drop everything and travel to if they needed you. I think it's rare, esp for those of us who have moved around a lot and/or don't have close family members, so that's wonderful that some of you have developed close connections online.

    I have had those dreams too. And even sometimes wake up feeling like I drank the night before when I didn't. I am sorry you crave a deep connection with women yet can't seem to find it; you are a wonderful, loving person and anyone would be so blessed to have you as a friend!!
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