The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living

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  • SunnyDays930
    SunnyDays930 Posts: 1,340 Member
    @RubyRed427 I'm so glad you had a wonderful and sober vacation! I have been in that woman's shoes as well. It is mortifying.
  • SunnyDays930
    SunnyDays930 Posts: 1,340 Member
    My sister who is a much better writer than I , wrote this.
    https://inthesecretservice.com/2021/03/28/the-spider-who-saved-a-president/
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,945 Member
    JenT304 wrote: »
    My sister who is a much better writer than I , wrote this.
    https://inthesecretservice.com/2021/03/28/the-spider-who-saved-a-president/

    Jen , I just read your sister's essay and had goosebumps throughout the read. What a tragic childhood in a way but it prepared him to save a President. I know he was such a good man and father to you. I know you loved him so much; he must have adored you too. Thank you for sharing!
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,945 Member
    @mtngrl3 Woo Hoo ! So happy for you, that's a major milestone coming up. 🙌

    My face is noticeably better looking when I am AF. My eyes look so different too, bright & alive. So being sober has lots of benefits! I also noticed my anxiety reduce. Didn't disappear, but definitely reduced.

    Doing my food shop this evening, I found myself experiencing a small craving to buy 'something' from the alcohol Isle. Probably as Easter is coming up, there is a buzz everywhere and something to celebrate is coming up. So I bought some 0% beer.

    It is good there is the option of 0% for those kind of scenarios.
    24 days AF 🙂


    25 days by now! You have great resilience and determination!!!
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,945 Member
    edited April 2021
    Every Easter I post this same memory. One Easter Sunday, I drank so much wine throughout the day that when nearly all the guests left (Thank God most left), I had my head in the toilet and spent the night on the bathroom floor! What a shame that day turned out. But it at least gives me yet another reminder of how I cannot moderate no matter my good intentions. I think this will be my third sober Easter. Thank heavens.

    For any one who is trying to become sober for a period of time, keep trying and never ever give up. Even a few days of sobriety helps and is a step in the right direction. It has taken many of us on this thread a few years to really come to the realization that alcohol does not help our problems but makes them worse.

    It has taken me about four years to string together many months of sobriety. Currently I am nearing 7 months in a row. But I won't take it for granted for one second. I am so grateful.

  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,945 Member
    I know I shared my family tragedy with you last week; it is an ongoing nightmare for my relatives. A nightmare that will never end. Anyway, the whole origin of this child's death involves addiction (mostly to meth). Addiction can destroy lives, change families forever, and even take innocent lives. I am not even trying to be extreme here, but let's face it, drugs and alcohol if used to excess is utterly dangerous. There is so much more the the story than most know. But still the end result is a child is dead.

    There has been such hateful posts online and death threats on the relatives of the child who was killed that a police man is stationed at the grandmother's house and sister's house; they didn't dream that this child would be killed; they loved that little boy with all their hearts.

  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,945 Member
    Fivepts wrote: »
    Today I was with my brother and he stopped by the store for a drink. Normally, I would join him but I didn't. I tried not to guilt trip him for drinking but honestly I did a little. Only because yesterday I decided that I would make a change and haven't drank for two days. Even though I had no motivation three days ago, I started over anyway. I told myself that I didn't need motivation or desire. I just needed to do it and I did. Unfortunately, I still have this date in my mind when I will allow myself to drink again. I still don't see myself as someone who doesn't drink. I am not there yet. I want to be, but I am not.

    It's a work in progress. I understand how you are feeling; it will take time. Don't forget one day at a time concept does work. If I thought I will never drink again, that is so overwhelming and depressing, but if I think that just for today I won't drink, it's easier to handle. You are on the right track if you want to quit. Little by little you'll get to a place you want to be.

  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,945 Member
    @Up_n_Running I understand what you went through. I can see it in my mind. So not worth it. So not worth the few hours of perceived fun for many hours of hell and self-loathing as well (at least for me).

    I think we are getting messages from the universe and our inner wisdom that says "been there, done that. " Drinking is not working for me anymore; time for a change.

    Thanks for sharing your memory!
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,945 Member
    On a friend's facebook, I once saw a message about her brother; her brother, I remember him from high school, was gorgeous and nice. In his 20s, he killed someone drunk driving and is now spending decades in jail.

    She posted a link to a news article about him and a few other inmates who are trying to help others and prevent more senseless deaths from drunk drivers.

    One more reminder: my sister sometimes says "We should be grateful because our "illness" is treatable by something simple as not drinking. " We do have a choice; no one is forcing me to put the wine glass to my mouth or buy a bottle. Sometimes, it's actually a relief I don't have to struggle anymore. I just am not going to drink today.

    All the years I tried to control my drinking and wondering why I was a failure. I see it is how my brain is wired. I truly dont mind anyone else drinking (even around me) but I have accepted I cannot.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,945 Member
    JenT304 wrote: »
    @Up_n_Running Surely there must be some ground rules they can live by. It is not fair to keep you awake all night with their shenanigans. I'd have a talk about this when they are sober.

    Well, yeah. I am being as fair about things as possible. I haven't said that there is to be NO drinking at home.

    So a compromise on their part (if you can call it that) would be to call it a night at a reasonable hour. But my concern is, they seem unable to do that. Its like they bounce off each other once they get started and take it to crazy town. I will speak to them tomorrow when they are coherent.

    Crazy behavior but I can relate of course. I never was a binge drinker at home; I always kept drinking and drinking while out at bars. But some people feel safer at home to binge. I agree with Jen, they need some ground rules when they are sober you guys can discuss. Late into the night is definitely unacceptable.

    I smiled when you said you'll go for a walk and I know you'll feel so good!! At least it's not you with a severe hangover that will ruin their whole day.