The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living

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  • chicbuc
    chicbuc Posts: 397 Member
    @RubyRed427 That's a great friend. I have a good friend I go to dinner with a few times a month, and the only time she drinks is with me. Won't she be happy when I order a hot tea. LOL.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,940 Member
    edited April 2021
    LoveyChar wrote: »
    Jumping in because I need to. I'm married to an overweight alcoholic who smokes a pack of cigarettes a day, maybe he'll stretch it out to two days but usually every 45-60 minutes he's outside puffing. The cigarettes and alcohol are great companions to each other and he's a nasty, hateful, controlling drunk to me. It's unbelievably hard. I would not wish what I go through, how I am treated, on anyone. It's horrible...


    My aunt lived something similar to what you're living with. IT Never got better; but it got progressively worse. And sadly, because she stayed, her sons saw this example and modeled it (in their father).

    Does he ever say that he should cut back? Does he feel remorse or regret?
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,940 Member
    chicbuc wrote: »
    @RubyRed427 That's a great friend. I have a good friend I go to dinner with a few times a month, and the only time she drinks is with me. Won't she be happy when I order a hot tea. LOL.

    I'm sure she will follow your lead :)
  • LoveyChar
    LoveyChar Posts: 3,972 Member
    RubyRed427 wrote: »
    @LoveyChar Sounds like he is a narcissist. On psychology today.com I read article about people who get jealous of others even their children --if they get more attention. Sounds bizarre but it can be true.

    My cousin *like a brother* is this aunt's son. He told me that he is becoming his father. He said it sadly, but doesn't want to change.

    <3 I feel so badly for your situation, but you seem very strong!! And I don't blame you for telling him exactly what you feel, and how he makes you feel.
    It would be one thing if he admitted he was wrong but he seems to think he's right ...

    Anyway I am rambling. If we can help, you can always vent on here for support!
    I thought it was interesting his mom said those things to you- she knows how he is.

    I hope you have some good friends to talk to. You are not alone.

    Thank you...