Less Alcohol - October 2018 - One Day at a Time
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Welcome to everyone that has recently posted and is looking for support on your less alcohol journey. We are here, some of us since January 2018 to listen, give support, add our two cents....ect.
Go at your own pace to achieve the goal you want. We are all on different paths, yet headed for the same goal.
I have been 10 days AF with an up coming 3 day Halloween weekend coming up. Going to have fun but plan to keep in control. I want to remember every minute of this get a way.
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Hi, I have just come accross this Message Board and thought that it would be worth getting involved.
I drink too much: a bottle of wine shared with my wife every evening (she only has a small portion of it) and sometimes opening (and sometimes finishing) a secon bottle. I don't want to stop drinking entirely but would like to cut down (I know that this is not easy).
Eventually I would like to have three AF per week and restict the other nights to one bottle.
I thought that a short term goal would be to progress to one AF day per week.
The benefits that I hope for are: weight loss, better sleep and saving money.
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@mainelylisa I am so sorry you had such a bad experience the other day that start good and ended badly. My heart goes out to you...I have been in your shoes pretty much with the same senerio. It happens so quickly it seems and then the next thing your asking yourself is how did this get out of control?
I hope today is much better for you.
Thank you so much...your words brought tears. When I apologized the next day, he told me he knows he has to just deal with this once in a while and disengage and hide me from his family and hope when I'm not with him, that others keep me safe. I still don't know what happened and am somewhat afraid to ask. But if that, coming from the man I love and loves me dearly, isn't enough to motivate me, then I don't know what is.
I'm finally feeling some hope with tackling this. In the past, have thought about learning to moderate. It's exhausting, so for the first time in 40 years of drinking, I'm not afraid to think of just saying No. If I determine I can moderate, with only an occasional beer or wine--enough that I never experience a hangover, much less a blackout, then great. If not, then that's that.
Haven't had a drop since Sunday. Have slept better, worked out harder, felt less bloated and less conflicted. This community helps so much. Thank you everyone, and hope I can be more supportive once I get my *kitten* together.
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Day Four.3
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I had a glass of wine last night... But, I stopped at one!
MAJOR VICTORY6 -
I went out to Trivia at a dive bar last night, drinking tonic with lime, and honestly laughed harder than I ever have in the past while I was drinking. Such a positive affirmation that alcohol isn't needed for a fun time.7
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frankshort2333 wrote: »Hi, I have just come accross this Message Board and thought that it would be worth getting involved.
Welcome it is worth everything! Glad to have you.0 -
@mainelylisa I'm only an hour away and can produce a real hug when you need one. Your going to be fine and your going to beat this. 💜1
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@FeelinFooFoo this thread is truly a life saver. For all the reasons you mentioned. I know we have to go through many emotions before we can deal with it our own ways. But this does make us all stronger. The more we voice our slips, fears or concerns the more we realise like you said there are others just like us who want the same release from the pain to much gives us. 💙1
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frankshort2333 wrote: »Hi, I have just come accross this Message Board and thought that it would be worth getting involved.
Welcome it is worth everything! Glad to have you.
Thank you Miss May. I'm afraid that I have not done too well to date: Unusually went for a lunch on Tuesday and had two large glasses of wine plus another two in the evening. Last night I opened a second bottle. Tonight I am going to try to go AF.5 -
Welcome frankshort2333! Every "try" is a learning experience.
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Day Five AF.2
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I have been lurking. It has been very helpful to know I am not the only one with this issue.
I had surgery in late September and had a liver complication from medication, so I have not been allowed to drink while it is healing. It was quite eye-opening. I would have said I drank socially, but suddenly, in the evenings, I became aware that I had been drinking quite a bit, having wine maybe four or five nights a week. Most of the time, I could stop at a small glass or two, but often enough, I would drink three, four, or the whole bottle. And drinking always makes eating seem like a good idea. It's no wonder I have gained weight this year despite always trying to lose.
I am not quite at a full sober October as I broke down and had a couple of ounces on Monday, but I went for 24 days without and am definitely going to be having a lot less or maybe none in future.
Being somewhat introverted, wine relaxes me and helps me commit to social events. Since I work alone, I do try to get out and interact. I am concerned that I won't be as fun, interesting, tolerable, or even tolerant with others. And I am going to lose a few friends if I stop drinking, because wine is what connects us. I also frequently visit local craft breweries with my husband and 21-year-old son; it is one of the few things our son will do with us. I hope I can find something else to bring us together.6 -
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RunRachelleRun wrote: »I have been lurking. It has been very helpful to know I am not the only one with this issue.
I had surgery in late September and had a liver complication from medication, so I have not been allowed to drink while it is healing. It was quite eye-opening. I would have said I drank socially, but suddenly, in the evenings, I became aware that I had been drinking quite a bit, having wine maybe four or five nights a week. Most of the time, I could stop at a small glass or two, but often enough, I would drink three, four, or the whole bottle. And drinking always makes eating seem like a good idea. It's no wonder I have gained weight this year despite always trying to lose.
I am not quite at a full sober October as I broke down and had a couple of ounces on Monday, but I went for 24 days without and am definitely going to be having a lot less or maybe none in future.
Being somewhat introverted, wine relaxes me and helps me commit to social events. Since I work alone, I do try to get out and interact. I am concerned that I won't be as fun, interesting, tolerable, or even tolerant with others. And I am going to lose a few friends if I stop drinking, because wine is what connects us. I also frequently visit local craft breweries with my husband and 21-year-old son; it is one of the few things our son will do with us. I hope I can find something else to bring us together.
*Deep breath* Wow, thank you so much, dear @RunRachelleRun for sharing your experience. It's so great to hear about your success battling with yourself. So well done. x
It occurs we have a lot of readers who read but don't post. That's fine. A great part of this (certainly for me) has been reading and thinking.2 -
Welcome @frankshort2333 ! Every "try" is a learning experience.
That's so true, @ngk2000 I see you're accumulating a nice streak now.
Welcome also to @aceofswords and @bratty552 -
RunRachelleRun wrote: »I have been lurking. It has been very helpful to know I am not the only one with this issue.
I had surgery in late September and had a liver complication from medication, so I have not been allowed to drink while it is healing. It was quite eye-opening. I would have said I drank socially, but suddenly, in the evenings, I became aware that I had been drinking quite a bit, having wine maybe four or five nights a week. Most of the time, I could stop at a small glass or two, but often enough, I would drink three, four, or the whole bottle. And drinking always makes eating seem like a good idea. It's no wonder I have gained weight this year despite always trying to lose.
I am not quite at a full sober October as I broke down and had a couple of ounces on Monday, but I went for 24 days without and am definitely going to be having a lot less or maybe none in future.
Being somewhat introverted, wine relaxes me and helps me commit to social events. Since I work alone, I do try to get out and interact. I am concerned that I won't be as fun, interesting, tolerable, or even tolerant with others. And I am going to lose a few friends if I stop drinking, because wine is what connects us. I also frequently visit local craft breweries with my husband and 21-year-old son; it is one of the few things our son will do with us. I hope I can find something else to bring us together.
*Deep breath* Wow, thank you so much, dear @RunRachelleRun for sharing your experience. It's so great to hear about your success battling with yourself. So well done. x
It occurs we have a lot of readers who read but don't post. That's fine. A great part of this (certainly for me) has been reading and thinking.
Thanks @Orphia xx It really is a battle with oneself! And I wasn’t lurking long. I simply worry whether I can keep up. I like to see if I can stay on top of the reading before I jump in.1 -
Yesterday was my first AF day, so managed to meet one of my goals to have one AF day per week to start (for this week at least)8
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