What is your key to a long successful marriage ?

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  • MyOwnSunshine
    MyOwnSunshine Posts: 1,312 Member
    So far... fear of going to prison. (Only half joking):ohwell:
  • KMMRN
    KMMRN Posts: 104 Member
    Absolute, pure luck. I have been married to a wonderful guy for twenty years. I have many friends who things have not gone so well for. It is no fault of theirs. It seems to be our nature (women's, at least) to think it is because of some lack in themselves. Not from what I have observed.
  • cindyhoney2
    cindyhoney2 Posts: 603 Member
    My husband and I have the utmost respect for each other. We don't compare jobs to see who should be the most tired at the end of the day. We don't lie to each other, we laugh, we talk, we just sit together at times. It is extremely important that the sex be enjoyed by you both and to be honest with each other enough to over come any problems, bedroom or otherwise. Communication & honesty are the two most important things IMO.
    We celebrated 20 years in March of this year btw...
  • sarantonio
    sarantonio Posts: 880 Member
    This^^^
  • TemikaThompson
    TemikaThompson Posts: 222 Member
    Our key for our marriage is
    -showing eachother love through actions and words.
    -respecting eachother
    -knowing when to shut up
    -talking and nver yelling at eachother
    -not going to bed with anger or hurt from the other person without discussing it 1st
    -not delegating chores or any duties to eachother, but whoever doing what needs to be done
    -allowing eachother to be mad and giving time and space to regroup
    -trusting eachother with everything
    -we married to date vs dated to marry (love having fun with eachother)
    -planning exotic date nights or date days
    -time away from the kids
    Edited to add: Oh yeah---and making sure we have great sex no matter what
  • RhonndaJ
    RhonndaJ Posts: 1,615 Member
    Married 15, together 17 or so.

    It's definitely not just one thing. So...

    Humour.
    Having some different interests but willing to share our spouse's.
    Not being in each other's pocket all the time.
    Accepting of strengths and weaknesses.
    Being in agreement on how money is to be handled.
  • PaulHalicki
    PaulHalicki Posts: 576 Member
    My wife and I have been married 29 years. Our secret: Dumb luck.
  • dancingj2
    dancingj2 Posts: 4,572 Member

    Being in agreement on how money is to be handled.

    If you agree on how to handle your money, that probably avoids most of the arguments couples have.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,793 Member
    For me, it was very simple to pick out the perfect mate;

    1. Orphan, first and foremost. No awkward family gatherings with her family and no parental interference from the in-laws.

    2. Had to make a lot less than me. The major breadwinner makes the rules.

    3. Low Self-Esteem. Keeps her submissive.

    4. Nice rack. That's just common sense.
  • onwarddownward
    onwarddownward Posts: 1,683 Member
    $exting.
  • letmebangbro
    letmebangbro Posts: 213 Member
    For me, it was very simple to pick out the perfect mate;

    1. Orphan, first and foremost. No awkward family gatherings with her family and no parental interference from the in-laws.

    2. Had to make a lot less than me. The major breadwinner makes the rules.

    3. Low Self-Esteem. Keeps her submissive.

    4. Nice rack. That's just common sense.

    Alpha as fuk
  • GypsyRoad2
    GypsyRoad2 Posts: 433 Member
    For me it has to be: Being truly in love with the other person then everything else should fall in place, but it has to be two sided if not then it won't work.:brokenheart::cry: . I should know I still love someone who had asked me to marry him then changed his mind about us. I miss him, but I guess it just wasn't there as much for him. :brokenheart: :cry: