WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2019
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Pretty Lillie’s!😊1
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But it got me thinking... By every standard of our society, when I turn 60 next year, I will officially move into the category of "old." (No offense meant to those who already are 60-plus--it's not a bad thing, it's just a thing.) My husband may be nine years younger physically, but our maturity and thought levels are at the same space 99% of the time, so he's the perfect partner for me. I know this, because my ex-husband was five years older than I was physically, and already speaking longingly of assisted living facilities when he was in his 40s. Not a good fit for me.
I don't have any conclusion to this... just thinking about what "old" means, and how I fit within that span. I'm certainly not young, and OK with that. Just not sure that I know what "old" means for me. And my stated philosophy for years has always been "labels are for pickle jars, not people," so there's that.
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR
My husband is 12 years older than me (11.6 years). I'm 52 and he's turning 64 shortly.
Right now, things are different because of his accident in March 2018, but a couple weeks before the accident was my 51st birthday weekend. He was 62 then. For my birthday weekend, we both went to northern Tasmania where we both cycled a 300 km randonnee (that's 300 kilometres in 20 hours or less, including all breaks) and completed it in 18 hours and 18 minutes. The next night we went out the Speedway where we spent several hours watching racing vehicles.
Given that we could both cycle 300 km and then enjoy the Speedway on that weekend, I didn't consider him "old" at all!! Once he turned 60, he would comment now and then that he felt old, but I certainly didn't consider him old, and let him know that.
Maybe it's because I know a lot of healthy and active older people. My grandmother who passed away in January lived to 97 years old and was quite active until she was about 95 or so. Other grandparents lived into their late 80s/early 90s too. My parents are 78 but I still think of them as fairly young ... my father is still out there cycling, although not as much as he did in his 60s and early 70s.
The average age in the long distance cyclist community was 49 at one point, and I've heard that hasn't changed much. There will be people heading to France in August to cycle the famous Paris-Brest-Paris 1200 km randonnee (1200 km in 90 hours or less, including all breaks) ranging in age from their 20s to 80s. BTW - my husband and I met on the 2003 Paris-Brest-Paris. I was 36 ... he was 48.
When my husband had his accident and was in ICU in the coma, nurses and doctors kept coming by and saying to me reassuringly, "He's got his age going for him. He's still quite young." I have to admit, I did think, "Do you know how old he is ... he's 62!"
But I guess what I'm saying is that it depends on your society.
When you say, "By every standard of our society, when I turn 60 next year, I will officially move into the category of "old."" ... I say, not necessarily. I've found myself in a society where 60 is "still quite young" ... among my family, my fellow cyclists, and the medical community.
I guess I think of "old" as 80.
And I have a feeling it's going to be a shock when my parents turn 80.
Enjoy your youth! You've still got 20 years of it to go!
Machka in Oz
PS. All this is why I'm pursuing my Master's degree at the age of 52. I figure I've got a minimum of 20 years of work left ... nevermind what odd jobs I might have to pick up after that.
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Hubby and I are meeting my granddaughter and her husband for dinner tonight. I already have my order planned out, they have a great fresh grilled catfish filet, add an order of fresh steamed veges and voila there's dinner. Like Lisa we will go early evening/late afternoon to beat the crowds. Not to mention the fact that tornado storms are predicted to kick up around 6:00 pm. Should be safely home before it goes crazy.
No change in my sister, she's still in ICU and pretty confused. Thank you ladies for your prayers and good thoughts.
Love you my friends
Janetr OKC7 -
Karen in VA - thank you for that beautiful photo this morning. What a wonderful thing to see as I am sipping coffee and waking up this morning! We are "letting nature take over" our flowerbeds, lol. Does your grandson get a summer break from school? You probably mentioned and I skipped it.
By the way, hope things have settled down at your workplace and you'll be able to ease into retirement without a lot of heartburn.
Lisa - getting older has been on my mind a lot lately, aggravated that I don't recover from injuries overnight like I used to even ten years ago. I've decided to focus on what is still working correctly in this body of mine. You are right, there's plenty to be grateful for.
I ran into an acquaintance, Jane, at the doc's office this past week who I hadn't seen in several years. She's near 80 - was a bit more bent over and frail than when I saw her last, wearing a knee brace and she spoke with the receptionist at length about ordering more of the medicines she was taking. She sat with me a few minutes and we chatted, she told me of her various ailments - THEN quickly smiled and laughed and talked up all of the things she was able to still do. She made my day. We might not be able to do all the things we used to do physically, but we can always serve as an inspiration to others.
You ladies on this list do that and that's why it's such a neat group.
Heather - so glad you are having a good weather to get your running done.
Katla - I am so tickled the CBD is working for your pup!
Sharon - I stopped in the local cannabis shop and they didn't have the brand of oil you recommended but it looks like they have something similar. I'll pick up a tube this week. By the way, I hadn't heard of the seat cushion you recommended but it looks great. I got a thick foam cushion off Amazon that does the trick - my recliner sits too low so needed a bit of a boost to get my knees into alignment with my tush and this seems to be doing the trick.
My doc gave me several pages of exercises for hamstring stretches. Turns out the one I'd been doing before was an advanced one (something that's super easy for someone in their 30's) but too much for someone like me in her late 60's, so no wonder my sit bones were complaining. I've been doing the easy ones and everything is much better.
Here's the website she pulled the exercises from: https://www.thephysicaltherapyadvisor.com/ It's pretty neat, seems to have a lot of articles about healthy aging. Looking forward to a few hours this weekend of reviewing his stuff. If my doc recommends this guy, he must know what he's talking about.
OK ladies, I better get crackin'. Make it a FABULOUS weekend!
Lanette
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Lisa- I second Corey's opinion..if I go out,I like to go out early..if I go with friends out anywhere that I know will be loud I always always bring earplugs..
SiL harassing me again..ugh0 -
New Foods I’ve switched to is numerous were getting healthier one way or another. Making the permanent change for the whole family so we grab healthier snacks to cooking recipes can lower them. Spent all night with hubby isle by isle looking for things we can change .Low cal teas to sweetnlow even checked out stuff to try later even.
Amber Tx
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Awhile back a woman brought cake to line dance class to celebrate her 80th birthday. Several women in the front row said things like "80 years old--that's nothing." Many of the men and women I dance with are years older than I am and their presence reminds me that I still have a lot of living to do. My mother lied about her age starting long before I was born. Her mother did the same thing. It never made sense to me. Barbie in NW WA 3
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Cooking 97 calories brunch so I can have a huge dinner y some new snack taste testing yum yum lol 425* 40-60min in my stove 1/2of eggplant 🍆 cut into steaks salted y peppered with squash zucchini cut up sprinkled with Parmesan
Barbie NW WA-My Mom couldn’t remember her birthday 🎁 or age we had no birth certificate so we celebrated 4th she was born the 3rd lol guessed her age at the funeral so shows her younger forever ♾ lol went by her sisters guess y my Dads sister. Told the coroner he managed to get us all death certificates with Dad that show her actual age y birth date recorded but I wonder if Grandma (farm birth told them 3rd but meant 4th cause she was always celebrating that day guess will never know for sure fully but feel this closest will ever come .
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Machka, Barbie - thank you for your viewpoints, it helps my perspective. And Barbie, much like you, I have never lied about my age. Never understood why anyone did.
I think part of what drove my musings on the subject is my best friend's mother - who just fell and broke her shoulder a few days ago. She is in her mid-80s, and this is her fifth broken joint in the last ten years. Both shoulders, one hip (which she subsequently had replaced) and both wrists. Each repair is harder and harder on her, and she heals slower and slower... and my friend is getting more and more worried. She broke the shoulder while recovering from a surgery less than a month ago to repair the muscles in her stomach that were left screwed up from yet another surgery. It is a grim look at a possible future that I truly want to avoid...
Ah well, it's a beautiful Saturday, and there are things to accomplish this morning. Enough navel gazing for one day.
Love y'all!
Lisa in AR4 -
Morning, afternoon and evening, all,
Just in my happy place this morning, and the house Internet is working, so happier than yesterday at the same time.
Corey didn't want to go out last night for his 50th birthday (he is not fond of ambient noise, hates crowds, and once it gets past 6 p.m., every restaurant is crowded) so we'll go out tonight, but earlier. We were talking last night about aging and what's changed about us. His comment was that the older folks who eat at 4:30 p.m. are the smart ones, as they avoid the noise and the hustle-bustle of the crowds. But then, neither one of us was ever fond of the bar/nightclub/crowded restaurant thing after we got past our early 20s. My exception was a stretch of my 40s, when I lived close to a number of my family members, and we went out to sing a lot. Even then, I was always the designated adult.
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR
I went through a little bit of the bar/nightclub/crowded restaurant thing when my first husband and I split up. I was 20 when we married, and he was never into any of that stuff, so in my early 30s I went through a very brief phase.
But for years my idea of a perfect weekend evening has been peace and quiet at home. Especially lately when I've been so busy. I can't wait to get home on a Friday night, put on my comfy clothes, hope that there's something interesting on TV (lately Fridays have been duds) or put on a movie, and get settled in front of my computer to work on whatever my next project is ... or maybe even not to do much of anything at all.
If we do go out to a restaurant, we also go earlier. Here, people eat late. Many restaurants don't open until 5:30 or 6 pm, and by 8 pm, they're chockers. So if we get in by about 6:15 pm, we're good. We pretty much have the place to ourselves.
M in Oz
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Machka: You are surrounded by beauty. I love today’s photos.
Lisa: I link “old” with infirmity, inactivity & lethargy. All of those things are at least partially under our own control. Making healthy choices is important in my opinion, and can lead to being heathier, feeling better and happier. I will turn 70 on my next birthday. I don’t feel old at all. :flowerforyou:
Karen in VA: Beautiful flowers!
Lanette: The CBD oil is working well for my dog. We buy it at a pet store in the next town. DH has taken some, too, shortly after his physical therapy. It helped him feel a bit better. Thanks for the link to the physicaltherapyadvisor.com. I’ll be sharing it with DH. :flowerforyou:
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
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Old/age- Mainly for Lisa- I think about being old, getting old a lot. I have since I lost my parents so many years ago. For many years, as their child, I always thought of them as old; it all changed when they died. I was 26, my mom was 58 and my dad was 63. The died within 6 months of each other. As I have gotten older (age-wise) I have never really felt old. BUT...I remember a turning point when I was in my mid thirties and my daughter (then about 14) and I were walking on the boardwalk and we heard some wolf whistles and talk behind us; I turned to see who was doing the talking (it was some guys on a boat) and one of them said "Not you, mama; that pretty girl you're walking with!" lol That was the first time I realized that I was "old". Lauren was disgusted bc they were closer to my age than her age, and I was jealous of her youth. (I got over it). Anyway, I think "old" is a point of view. A perception. My husband has been old since he was 18. I get older, but I still feel young. I think of you ladies, as "my age". You have young hearts and minds. Yup, some days I wake up and am positive my body is creaking, audibly. But then I have days when I jump out of bed and am able to accomplish everything I had planned for the day and then some. I still want to go skydiving. I still want to hike the Appalachian trail. I still want to take a summer (a year would be even better) and travel. I like to see bright colored hair. I want another (bigger) tattoo. I still want a dog. I am really enjoying my job with all of the kids, so I am happy I will be able to do it for 10-20 more years. KJ7
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I’ve read a lot of talk about age here and other places. My dad dropped dead in the shower of a heart attack at age 62. He had refused to see a doctor for many years, had uncontrolled high blood pressure, and was an alcoholic. My mom is incredibly active at 80. She was still working until her stroke 4 months ago. She has clearance to return to work. She is dabbling in her flower beds. Yesterday she went to Lexington with my nephew and me. She intends to keep moving until she can’t.
I will be 55 in August. Except for occasional sore knees, I don’t feel 55. I’m sure part of this is because I opted to wait until I was 40 to start a family. It amazes me how many places offer senior discounts starting at 50 or 55. I’m more than willing to take the discount, but daughter gets embarrassed by it. Luckily, my gray hairs blend with my blonde so most people don’t refer to me as “Hannah’s grandma”.
Machka - those photos are amazing!!
Connie in KY3 -
I remember being a young girl thinking I would be old when we hit the year 2000. I was 31 at that time. Now I look at it completely differently. My Dad passed just before his 70th birthday and I think of him as too young. My grandmothers were long lived.
Like Machka, I think I have another 20 years or so of work ahead of me. So I guess I’m looking at 70 being equivalent of 50.
My husband doesn’t take care of himself, refuses to see a doctor or do anything to help his health. I fear I will be widowed young.
Tracey In Edmonton5 -
I don't really know when one gets officially 'old' . Is it when you start drawing your Old Age Pension? I think that's around 66/67 at the moment.
I was lucky enough to get my State Pension at 60 (it's gradually getting older and older). I retired from paid work at 55 .
My life since then, (apart from the breast cancer 
) has been better than ever. I am happier, fitter, slimmer, and enjoy life so much more. This is the best time of my life. I will be 70 in October.
I hope I will continue to be fit and well. The return of the cancer (after 12 years) is my biggest worry. I hope it never happens. I continue to do everything I can to stay healthy.
When I was 62 I felt 85. Fat. Unfit. Now I am 69 I feel 45. True.
I did some tests for my biological age. It was 47. :bigsmile: Yes, I work hard at it. Yes, I often wish I didn't have to work so hard, but it's worth it.
Our health is a lottery and some people, however careful they are, lose, though no fault of their own. All we can do is load the odds in our favour.
Never underestimate how good exercise can make you feel. It is life transforming.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx8 -
IT TOOK A POST FROM a friend on Facebook TO REMIND ME IT'S OUR ANNIVERSARY and now this.... probably I think of our anniversary as 9/16/96, when we met, not when we got married...... my best friend is working today. so I'll c him when he gets home. 17 years today9
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tracey in Edmonton! What terrific news! I’m so glad your search is over and they are willing to accommodate your wedding schedule somewhat. I hope you aren’t too exhausted to enjoy the wedding, your guests, and summer - when it finally arrives.
We are getting similar weather here. My heater is on also. However, I’m having a bit of an adventure today. My daughter and I are going bicycling on a side by side adaptive bicycle where I can actively help peddle as much as I’m able. A bicycle would be a great tool for me, but I want to be sure of my abilities first.
Rebecca, You don’t look nearly put-upon with that duty! Holding a warm snuggly anything is a pleasure, but holding a baby human is heavenly.
Lisa in AR, glad you’re home, and perhaps a bit of the slow lane is what we all need from time to time.
Janetr OKC, many hugs for you, and thoughts for your sister and your friend. Sepsis can be deadly. I lost a BIL to that two years ago. Glad they caught it early!
Sharon Near Seattle1 -
Hi,
I am a newby, I'm looking forward to learning from all of you.
Susan in CO
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Pip
. Happy Anniversary!!!
Lanette Glad the picture of our flowers cheered you. My grandson is off for the summer. I recommended that he continue writing and working on math this summer but he wasn't interested. Hopefully he will read. He got all A's and did well on SOLs and iReady tests, so he is in a good place to start back up in the fall.
Here's a sweet story from CBS Sunday Morning. Have a tissue ready!
Karen in Virginia4
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