“Don’t lose anymore”
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If it was someone who was truly concerned about my well-being, and arguably had a close enough relationship to me to comment, I mostly went with "my doctor and I are happy with my progress and weight goal" (which was true).
I think a lot of this relates to 3 things:
1. People are used to seeing us heavier, so we look "wrong" thinner.
2. So many people are overweight these days, that overweight looks pretty normal, and a healthy weight looks relatively thin, maybe scary thin.
3. Realistically, after quite a bit of weight loss, many of us have a little bit of loose facial skin that hasn't had a chance to shrink back yet, and other visible signs of the weight loss process that can - as in my case - make us look a little haggard to others for a while. It's no big deal in reality, but it alarms people. (I definitely looked better a few months after hitting goal weight, even though at the same body weight.)
Don't let it throw you, it's completely normal, and - as others have said - people generally get over it once you've been at goal weight for a while. But yeah, it's weird.2 -
I understand what you're saying, but the person who said this to me was a neighbor who lives a block away and sees me walk my dog all the time. Their tone was nosy.
I also thought it was obvious I wasn't ill -- I'd started jogging, regularly took off to hike in the mornings with my neon shirt and sneakers on, etc.
One of my big -- no, huge -- problems is being polite and feeling I can't say no to people. I'm really and truly not obligated to answer all questions and make everybody else feel comfortable.
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It isn't a backhanded compliment, but the person who said is more than likely used to you being the weight you were, as you lose the lbs and slim they find it hard to get use to it. Just ignore and continue. Another well known comments as you get slimmer is "you don't need to diet" or "you can afford to eat this cake/24" pizza/200lb tub of ice cream" etc etc etc, they have no idea how hard you are working/have worked, don't let them sway you from your goals.3
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I’ve been asked multiple times if I was ill/dying. Loose skin in the face/neck isn’t exactly flattering. One person who is rather large asked me why I would even want to lose weight. To her, it implied that I was unhappy and could no longer freely eat. I mentioned to an acquaintance that I wanted to lose at least 45 more pounds, and she asked where I thought I had 45 lbs to lose. I’m 5’6” and weigh around 207/208. Truthfully, I could lose 60-70 more pounds and be considered a healthy weight.
I agree with others. People have seen me at 268 for so long that they can’t visualize me at a healthy weight. It’s going to take time for them.
Connie in KY5 -
Truth is, most people don't like when people are successful. Also, misery loves company.4
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I used to get this, when I lost weight before, I didn’t really understand what people were talking about (I still saw myself as 15+kg overweight). Was still in healthy BMI though so just shrugged it off. I never really understand why others comment on people’s weight, it’s such a personal thing. Just keep doing what you’re doing and ignore unhelpful comments ☺️1
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I agree with what someone said above that sometimes weight loss can make your face look haggard, which can make it seem alarming for you to lose more. I had an acquaintance who lost weight fast prior to her wedding, and if I hadn't known better I would have thought she was seriously ill, her face was so gaunt-looking. The change in her was shocking, and personally I thought she looked better before. She was pretty fit to begin with. Of course I kept my mouth shut, but this might be why some people are saying things to you.1
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I had a complete stranger who happened to be sitting in our company say Your a very stylish woman but you need to eat more! I told him "I eat plenty, I just don't eat rubbish"2
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