What’s a red flag for you?

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  • joelo_1119
    joelo_1119 Posts: 71 Member
    people who describe themselves as “driven” or “disciplined.” They see those traits as virtues but what I hear is “uptight” and “inflexible” which are not appealing to me.

    I think I catch the intent, but I wouldn’t necessarily draw a direct distinction between the two terms. Drive and discipline in the absence of self awareness is probably what you’re getting at, aka, “my way or the highway”.

    I am, and have many driven/disciplined individuals in my network and, at least personally, pride myself in the ability to adapt, course-correct, and be proven wrong. Don’t count us out that easily!
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,209 Member
    joelo_1119 wrote: »
    people who describe themselves as “driven” or “disciplined.” They see those traits as virtues but what I hear is “uptight” and “inflexible” which are not appealing to me.

    I think I catch the intent, but I wouldn’t necessarily draw a direct distinction between the two terms. Drive and discipline in the absence of self awareness is probably what you’re getting at, aka, “my way or the highway”.

    I am, and have many driven/disciplined individuals in my network and, at least personally, pride myself in the ability to adapt, course-correct, and be proven wrong. Don’t count us out that easily!
    This is pretty insightful.

    To clarify, it’s not a dealbreaker but it is a red flag that would put me on alert to watch for selfishness and an inability to compromise.

    I like people who work hard. In fact a couple of my favorite people possess that quality. But they would not describe themselves that way. In fact they probably wouldn’t describe themselves at all. They just do what they do and let other people do the describing.

  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,209 Member
    People who write LMBO
  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,170 Member
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,209 Member
    edited January 31
    glassyo wrote: »
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?

    Cliché but not weirdly pollyannaish. It passes

    ETA: LMKittenO would be excellent
  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,170 Member
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?
    glassyo wrote: »
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?

    Cliché but not weirdly pollyannaish. It passes

    ETA: LMKittenO would be excellent

    I honestly love that stupid censored word replacement :) And the day it became avocado(?).
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,209 Member
    glassyo wrote: »
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?
    glassyo wrote: »
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?

    Cliché but not weirdly pollyannaish. It passes

    ETA: LMKittenO would be excellent

    I honestly love that stupid censored word replacement :) And the day it became avocado(?).

    Am I misremembering it as asparagus or was that another time?
  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,170 Member
    glassyo wrote: »
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?
    glassyo wrote: »
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?

    Cliché but not weirdly pollyannaish. It passes

    ETA: LMKittenO would be excellent

    I honestly love that stupid censored word replacement :) And the day it became avocado(?).

    Am I misremembering it as asparagus or was that another time?

    No. I wasn't sure but I think it *was* asparagus! Got the "A" part right, at least :)
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,209 Member
    glassyo wrote: »
    glassyo wrote: »
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?
    glassyo wrote: »
    People who write LMBO

    What about LMAO?

    Cliché but not weirdly pollyannaish. It passes

    ETA: LMKittenO would be excellent

    I honestly love that stupid censored word replacement :) And the day it became avocado(?).

    Am I misremembering it as asparagus or was that another time?

    No. I wasn't sure but I think it *was* asparagus! Got the "A" part right, at least :)
    That would still be LMAO 😁
  • honey_honey_12
    honey_honey_12 Posts: 9,399 Member
    Lack of follow through
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,296 Member
    Someone who dislikes tacos, kittens, and/or rainy days
  • cowsfan12
    cowsfan12 Posts: 5,016 Member
    When her morning message to you is happy Fri-yay - don’t be that girl
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,209 Member
    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    When her morning message to you is happy Fri-yay - don’t be that girl

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  • cowsfan12
    cowsfan12 Posts: 5,016 Member
    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    When her morning message to you is happy Fri-yay - don’t be that girl

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  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,209 Member
    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    When her morning message to you is happy Fri-yay - don’t be that girl

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  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,209 Member
    When they don’t take anything seriously, especially themselves and especially especially me
  • R3d_butt3rfly_
    R3d_butt3rfly_ Posts: 1,013 Member
    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    When her morning message to you is happy Fri-yay - don’t be that girl

    Yay! Happy Fri...
  • cowsfan12
    cowsfan12 Posts: 5,016 Member
    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    When her morning message to you is happy Fri-yay - don’t be that girl

    Yay! Happy Fri...

    Hawt 🔥
  • TwitchyMagee
    TwitchyMagee Posts: 4,209 Member
    There are certain patterns in user name choice that are an instant red flag for me. I’m not naming names so don’t ask
  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,242 Member
    *changes name..