WHY do people CHEAT?

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  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    @ExpressoLove11
    I attended a workshop many years ago, all about domestic abuse, partners not leaving their situation. It was one of the best workshops I ever attended. I went into it blindly believing that if a situation was bad enough why can't a person simply leave it? Why does one stay when there are so many options and support systems available?
    I came away from that class enlightened like no other class has ever taught me before. The scenarios they put us through left us all feeling nothing is as simple as we may think. So many extenuating circumstances. The real scary thing was, all the scenarios they used were based on real life situations they'd encountered.

    {Hugs}
  • ExpressoLove11
    ExpressoLove11 Posts: 337 Member
    ReenieHJ wrote: »
    @ExpressoLove11
    I attended a workshop many years ago, all about domestic abuse, partners not leaving their situation. It was one of the best workshops I ever attended. I went into it blindly believing that if a situation was bad enough why can't a person simply leave it? Why does one stay when there are so many options and support systems available?
    I came away from that class enlightened like no other class has ever taught me before. The scenarios they put us through left us all feeling nothing is as simple as we may think. So many extenuating circumstances. The real scary thing was, all the scenarios they used were based on real life situations they'd encountered.

    {Hugs}

    I love that! It sounds like such a meaningful course and I am glad someone out there is raising awareness. Thank you for taking the time to learn about what is both a horrifying and complex issue.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,493 Member
    Well.... those rooms at the Holiday Inn Express ain't going to rent themselves.
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    Many reasons but one thing is for sure and no one can convince me otherwise, is that if one cheats, then they don’t love their partner. Period.
    But couldn't love be subjective? One could be in love with more than one person at a time. With 7 billion people in the world, unless you've met everyone who was a potential spouse, how could one be 100% sure they chose the "forever" one?


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    Just interested to see what the answers to this question might be.
  • ExpressoLove11
    ExpressoLove11 Posts: 337 Member
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    Many reasons but one thing is for sure and no one can convince me otherwise, is that if one cheats, then they don’t love their partner. Period.
    But couldn't love be subjective? One could be in love with more than one person at a time. With 7 billion people in the world, unless you've met everyone who was a potential spouse, how could one be 100% sure they chose the "forever" one?


    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
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    I think I agree with you. There are varying degrees of love and each person interprets it differently and has their own boundaries around it.
  • nooshi713
    nooshi713 Posts: 4,877 Member
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    Many reasons but one thing is for sure and no one can convince me otherwise, is that if one cheats, then they don’t love their partner. Period.
    But couldn't love be subjective? One could be in love with more than one person at a time. With 7 billion people in the world, unless you've met everyone who was a potential spouse, how could one be 100% sure they chose the "forever" one?


    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

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    Nope. You can’t be in love with more than in at a time. Those people don’t know what real love is.
  • MeatVehicle
    MeatVehicle Posts: 31 Member
    Is counting cards in a game of blackjack considered cheating? I don't think it is. I don't feel bad at all for casinos that may lose money from players counting cards.
  • PAWGliacci
    PAWGliacci Posts: 346 Member
    spend enough time with someone you love and eventually you're going to see the little things that you didn't notice at first

    maybe they drag the fork across their teeth while they're eating
    maybe they regularly forget to flush the toilet
    "not a morning person" and they take it out on you every morning
    etc etc. doesn't matter what these little things are, eventually you'll notice. now add years to the equation.

    and maybe if you're a strong willed person, you can overlook these things
    or maybe you can't because you're just unable to compromise about the things you find detestable no matter how much you love someone.

    so eventually the grass looks greener on the other side, maybe with that cute coworker who laughs at all your jokes and smiles all the time when they see you.
    and sometimes its true, the grass is greener and you'll be happier with a new person.
    and sometimes its not.

    either way its not a huge surprise that people cheat
  • JessD9031
    JessD9031 Posts: 581 Member
    Is counting cards in a game of blackjack considered cheating? I don't think it is. I don't feel bad at all for casinos that may lose money from players counting cards.

    "Okay, well, maybe we should tell that to Rain Man, because he practically bankrupt a casino, and he was a retard."
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,493 Member
    JessD9031 wrote: »
    Is counting cards in a game of blackjack considered cheating? I don't think it is. I don't feel bad at all for casinos that may lose money from players counting cards.

    "Okay, well, maybe we should tell that to Rain Man, because he practically bankrupt a casino, and he was a retard."

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  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,493 Member
    Soooooo not to come off like an a-hole, but....

    Monogamy is a recent invention. The majority of all human cultures have actually practice polygamy and many still do. Men and women have evolved for millions of years to seek lots of sex with many partners to ensure the survival of the species. The modern monogamous culture has only been around for just 1,000 years. 1000 years is nothing compared to how long evolution programmed us to hump everyone. This modern cultural and social norm has placed heavy objections on sex and sex practices and tires to make people suppress the need to have it.

    But I digress. Just be honest with your partner.

    PS: It's Hump Day. Stop asking for *kitten* pics you Neanderthals.

    Stop asking for pics??

    What’s next?

    Do you also want me to stop breathing too?


    (Don’t answer that)
  • SERobinsonJr
    SERobinsonJr Posts: 94 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    Well.... those rooms at the Holiday Inn Express ain't going to rent themselves.

    Exactly! It's all about jobs people. No sex, no rooms, no job. It's that simple.
  • MeatVehicle
    MeatVehicle Posts: 31 Member
    edited July 2021
    JessD9031 wrote: »
    Is counting cards in a game of blackjack considered cheating? I don't think it is. I don't feel bad at all for casinos that may lose money from players counting cards.

    "Okay, well, maybe we should tell that to Rain Man, because he practically bankrupt a casino, and he was a retard."

    Who is that? And what do you mean when you say he was a retard? Do you just have a general hostility towards him, or was he genuinely a moron? And what does that have to do with the greater picture?
  • MeatVehicle
    MeatVehicle Posts: 31 Member
    JessD9031 wrote: »
    JessD9031 wrote: »
    Is counting cards in a game of blackjack considered cheating? I don't think it is. I don't feel bad at all for casinos that may lose money from players counting cards.

    "Okay, well, maybe we should tell that to Rain Man, because he practically bankrupt a casino, and he was a retard."

    Who is that? And what do you mean when you say he was a retard? Do you just have a general hostility towards him, or was he genuinely a moron? And what does that have to do with the greater picture?

    Rain Man is your MFP nickname. Oops, I wasn't supposed to tell you that is what all the cool kids call you behind your back. My bad.

    I genuinely have no idea what you're talking about. I'll take this as one of those "ignorance really is bliss moments," and carry on.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,493 Member
    JessD9031 wrote: »
    JessD9031 wrote: »
    Is counting cards in a game of blackjack considered cheating? I don't think it is. I don't feel bad at all for casinos that may lose money from players counting cards.

    "Okay, well, maybe we should tell that to Rain Man, because he practically bankrupt a casino, and he was a retard."

    Who is that? And what do you mean when you say he was a retard? Do you just have a general hostility towards him, or was he genuinely a moron? And what does that have to do with the greater picture?

    Rain Man is your MFP nickname. Oops, I wasn't supposed to tell you that is what all the cool kids call you behind your back. My bad.

    I genuinely have no idea what you're talking about. I'll take this as one of those "ignorance really is bliss moments," and carry on.

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  • JessD9031
    JessD9031 Posts: 581 Member
    JessD9031 wrote: »
    JessD9031 wrote: »
    Is counting cards in a game of blackjack considered cheating? I don't think it is. I don't feel bad at all for casinos that may lose money from players counting cards.

    "Okay, well, maybe we should tell that to Rain Man, because he practically bankrupt a casino, and he was a retard."

    Who is that? And what do you mean when you say he was a retard? Do you just have a general hostility towards him, or was he genuinely a moron? And what does that have to do with the greater picture?

    Rain Man is your MFP nickname. Oops, I wasn't supposed to tell you that is what all the cool kids call you behind your back. My bad.

    I genuinely have no idea what you're talking about. I'll take this as one of those "ignorance really is bliss moments," and carry on.

    Its a movie quote....

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