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Is it the weight loss or is it confidence?

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  • martianspudsmartianspuds Posts: 63Member Member Posts: 63Member Member
    IremiaRe wrote: »
    But, when my clothing size dropped to something like 22 it was like I appeared out of thin air. Suddenly, people held doors, made eye contact and spoke to me on the street.

    I firmly believe it has to do with the deeply buried human instinct to fear the different and to cling to the familiar.

    When I was really large, I was outside of most people's concept of "one of us." They didn't know anyone that large... they had no frame of reference. When I dropped down into a size 20-22, suddenly, I stopped being significantly different from most people. I was relatable.

    These were my exact thoughts as well, but expressed much better than I could have achieved :)

    I think of the confidence vs. appearance question in a two-dimensional spectrum kind of way. Everyone likely falls predominantly in one of the quadrants. I think @IremiaRe made a critical observation though - data outliers in any direction will experience a more extreme effect.

    I think if you start out with a lower amount of weight to lose -- say, 20% of your total body weight -- then a confidence level change likely is more impactful socially. When you have over 50% of your body weight to lose, it's more about appearance.

  • mhassan160mhassan160 Posts: 107Member Member Posts: 107Member Member
    Some close people look at me as a fat lazy and the person who made the jokes , I start to lose weight and I don’t care if they will change their minds or they will remain the same, I just focus on my goals to be healthy and happy 😊
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