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  • vanityy99vanityy99 Member Posts: 2,424 Member Member Posts: 2,424 Member
    vanityy99 wrote: »
    vanityy99 wrote: »
    Newly mothers..
    Who think everyone else’s schedule must revolve around theirs and try to make you feel bad about it or get offended when everyone else has time to go on dinner dates with each other and they can’t. They seem to forget everyone’s life goes on and their *kitten* will get left if they can’t make time either.


    Bolded suggests you're saying otherwise

    Yeah what’s the problem?

    There's no problem here. I get what it is to have kids. Your statement was just something that someone who's not had children would say. I'd wager your mind would change a little.

    Idc. Children or not, don’t try to others feel bad for going out just because you can’t, especially when we’ve been adjusting to your needs for 8 months straight. you have children doesn’t make you queen sheba...
    edited November 2020
  • ReenieHJReenieHJ Member Posts: 7,054 Member Member Posts: 7,054 Member
    vanityy99 wrote: »
    vanityy99 wrote: »
    vanityy99 wrote: »
    Newly mothers..
    Who think everyone else’s schedule must revolve around theirs and try to make you feel bad about it or get offended when everyone else has time to go on dinner dates with each other and they can’t. They seem to forget everyone’s life goes on and their *kitten* will get left if they can’t make time either.


    Bolded suggests you're saying otherwise

    Yeah what’s the problem?

    There's no problem here. I get what it is to have kids. Your statement was just something that someone who's not had children would say. I'd wager your mind would change a little.

    Idc. Children or not, don’t try to others feel bad for going out just because you can’t, especially when we’ve been adjusting to your needs for 8 months straight. you have children doesn’t make you queen sheba...

    I'm not sure why anybody's making adjustments or making anybody else feel bad?? Each side is making choices for themselves. I'm wondering if a little bit of 'grass is greener on the other side' is going on from each side? IDK but I'd be happy/understanding if it was my friend who had a new baby plus if I was the other side, I'd try to be understanding about my friends going out and having fun because my priority would be my baby. JMO

    But IIRC, this is a venting thread so you have a perfect right to share how you feel. :)
    edited November 2020
  • will_it_go_round_in_circleswill_it_go_round_in_circles Member Posts: 985 Member Member Posts: 985 Member
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    vanityy99 wrote: »
    Newly mothers..
    Who think everyone else’s schedule must revolve around theirs and try to make you feel bad about it or get offended when everyone else has time to go on dinner dates with each other and they can’t. They seem to forget everyone’s life goes on and their *kitten* will get left if they can’t make time either.

    Assuming you've not yet had children of your own?

    Putting my $0.02 in a topic I'm not involved in. Only to suggest that saying "yet" implies everyone eventually wants children.

    That said both of you have valid points but the wording may be coming off harsh.

    There are new parents who are able to make time for social life (it depends on their interest, level of fatigue, family supports and priorities,among other factors).

    Did not mean to imply that at all. Only meant she hadn't had any yet.
  • ReenieHJReenieHJ Member Posts: 7,054 Member Member Posts: 7,054 Member
    You know what? Mothers irk me too. What's their *kitten* problem?

    I'm a mom and I have no problems.

    Oops, I lied. My problems are plentiful. :)
  • glassyoglassyo Member Posts: 5,335 Member Member Posts: 5,335 Member
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    vanityy99 wrote: »
    Newly mothers..
    Who think everyone else’s schedule must revolve around theirs and try to make you feel bad about it or get offended when everyone else has time to go on dinner dates with each other and they can’t. They seem to forget everyone’s life goes on and their *kitten* will get left if they can’t make time either.

    Assuming you've not yet had children of your own?

    Putting my $0.02 in a topic I'm not involved in. Only to suggest that saying "yet" implies everyone eventually wants children.

    That said both of you have valid points but the wording may be coming off harsh.

    There are new parents who are able to make time for social life (it depends on their interest, level of fatigue, family supports and priorities,among other factors).

    Did not mean to imply that at all. Only meant she hadn't had any yet.

    Yeah but saying "yet" kinda does imply it.
  • will_it_go_round_in_circleswill_it_go_round_in_circles Member Posts: 985 Member Member Posts: 985 Member
    glassyo wrote: »
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    vanityy99 wrote: »
    Newly mothers..
    Who think everyone else’s schedule must revolve around theirs and try to make you feel bad about it or get offended when everyone else has time to go on dinner dates with each other and they can’t. They seem to forget everyone’s life goes on and their *kitten* will get left if they can’t make time either.

    Assuming you've not yet had children of your own?

    Putting my $0.02 in a topic I'm not involved in. Only to suggest that saying "yet" implies everyone eventually wants children.

    That said both of you have valid points but the wording may be coming off harsh.

    There are new parents who are able to make time for social life (it depends on their interest, level of fatigue, family supports and priorities,among other factors).

    Did not mean to imply that at all. Only meant she hadn't had any yet.

    Yeah but saying "yet" kinda does imply it.

    Have you had chicken pox yet?
  • glassyoglassyo Member Posts: 5,335 Member Member Posts: 5,335 Member
    glassyo wrote: »
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    vanityy99 wrote: »
    Newly mothers..
    Who think everyone else’s schedule must revolve around theirs and try to make you feel bad about it or get offended when everyone else has time to go on dinner dates with each other and they can’t. They seem to forget everyone’s life goes on and their *kitten* will get left if they can’t make time either.

    Assuming you've not yet had children of your own?

    Putting my $0.02 in a topic I'm not involved in. Only to suggest that saying "yet" implies everyone eventually wants children.

    That said both of you have valid points but the wording may be coming off harsh.

    There are new parents who are able to make time for social life (it depends on their interest, level of fatigue, family supports and priorities,among other factors).

    Did not mean to imply that at all. Only meant she hadn't had any yet.

    Yeah but saying "yet" kinda does imply it.

    Have you had chicken pox yet?

    I can't remember that far back :) but I do know I never wanted kids. Ever.
  • GymGoddessGoalsGymGoddessGoals Member Posts: 2,057 Member Member Posts: 2,057 Member
  • will_it_go_round_in_circleswill_it_go_round_in_circles Member Posts: 985 Member Member Posts: 985 Member
    glassyo wrote: »
    glassyo wrote: »
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    vanityy99 wrote: »
    Newly mothers..
    Who think everyone else’s schedule must revolve around theirs and try to make you feel bad about it or get offended when everyone else has time to go on dinner dates with each other and they can’t. They seem to forget everyone’s life goes on and their *kitten* will get left if they can’t make time either.

    Assuming you've not yet had children of your own?

    Putting my $0.02 in a topic I'm not involved in. Only to suggest that saying "yet" implies everyone eventually wants children.

    That said both of you have valid points but the wording may be coming off harsh.

    There are new parents who are able to make time for social life (it depends on their interest, level of fatigue, family supports and priorities,among other factors).

    Did not mean to imply that at all. Only meant she hadn't had any yet.

    Yeah but saying "yet" kinda does imply it.

    Have you had chicken pox yet?

    I can't remember that far back :) but I do know I never wanted kids. Ever.

    I didn't either, yet I had them anyways. :)
  • glassyoglassyo Member Posts: 5,335 Member Member Posts: 5,335 Member
    glassyo wrote: »
    glassyo wrote: »
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    vanityy99 wrote: »
    Newly mothers..
    Who think everyone else’s schedule must revolve around theirs and try to make you feel bad about it or get offended when everyone else has time to go on dinner dates with each other and they can’t. They seem to forget everyone’s life goes on and their *kitten* will get left if they can’t make time either.

    Assuming you've not yet had children of your own?

    Putting my $0.02 in a topic I'm not involved in. Only to suggest that saying "yet" implies everyone eventually wants children.

    That said both of you have valid points but the wording may be coming off harsh.

    There are new parents who are able to make time for social life (it depends on their interest, level of fatigue, family supports and priorities,among other factors).

    Did not mean to imply that at all. Only meant she hadn't had any yet.

    Yeah but saying "yet" kinda does imply it.

    Have you had chicken pox yet?

    I can't remember that far back :) but I do know I never wanted kids. Ever.

    I didn't either, yet I had them anyways. :)

    Well, glad that worked out for you. 😀
  • sweet_ermengardesweet_ermengarde Member Posts: 1,296 Member Member Posts: 1,296 Member
    You know what? Mothers irk me too. What's their *kitten* problem?

    nobody ever helps me out in this house!!
  • honeybee__12honeybee__12 Member, Premium Posts: 15,688 Member Member, Premium Posts: 15,688 Member
  • will_it_go_round_in_circleswill_it_go_round_in_circles Member Posts: 985 Member Member Posts: 985 Member
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    When people try so hard to read between the lines that they don't bother with the lines at all.

    Despite my regular egregious (but perhaps ironically endearing) typos, I have a Comms background. So I read the actual lines as well as in between 😉.

    If this was in reference to my earlier comment, I did say you both had good points 🤷🏾

    I have zero "skin" in the conversation yet while I am a mother, I do have friends who have made conscious decisions not to have kids as well as others who don't have the luxury of choice when it comes to conceiving. The "yet" - used in the original context - could have come off differently than you intended. It was meant less to harp on you than to increase awareness for all.

    Also (now here's where I'm being dramatically petty about grammar), your chickenpox example also assumes that everyone will acquire it when [...amplify Nerd Powers...] worldwide "90% (of children are infected) by the age of 12 years" and immunization rates further reduce this number. <-- This is also not harping since I'm actually just someone who likes epidemiology and your phrasing made me curious.

    Nah you were clear and I responded to you, but now one or both of us has done it again with chicken pox. 😂

    I
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