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  • skinnylw2016skinnylw2016 Member Posts: 18 Member Member Posts: 18 Member
    Hi, So this week was 'a game of two halves' (I'm not a football coach by the way!).

    The weather was really grim at the beginning of the week and I found I was grabbing any food in sight and putting it in my mouth. My high point/low point was eating half a banana loaf in one evening - not my finest hour!

    Second half of week beautiful Autumn days. So I took my morning walks and ran twice this week. I only managed 1 of 2 strength training routines planned for the week but kept to the rest of my goals. I think trying to work something new into my routine might take a bit more thought.

    Plan for w/c 9th Nov:-
    Early morning walks- aim for 5 days a week
    3 runs
    2 strength training routines
    Keep logging on MFP

    Thanks for motivational messages, it is kind.
    What helped me to get out and walk was subscribing to Audible. I now really enjoy going out on my own listening to some fantastic books.

    Good luck for the week ahead.🏃‍♀️👍
  • PatriceFitnessPalPatriceFitnessPal Member Posts: 119 Member Member Posts: 119 Member
    @StepWise123 - I tend to eat unhealthy snacks, take-out food, or quick-to-prepare meals when I’m anxious - especially when I have a full day of back-to-back meetings or sedentary work projects, like writing reports - that I have to get done. I find it easy to procrastinate by snacking. I can see how chewing gum might be a good way to address the sugar craving and get rid of the unhealthy energy that can accompany anxiety. I try to slow down and make a plan to deal with it through exercise, a relaxing bath, or a snack that’s ‘on the edge’ (I.e., it might put me over my calorie limit but not sabotage the whole day) but that can take a lot of mental energy, which was in low supply for me this week!! I might try the gum chewing idea when I’m writing my next report! Thanks for sharing your ideas!

    @beshamama, I’m so sorry to hear the news about your sister and her boyfriend testing positive for COVID! It’s an important reminder for all of us to be extra careful and also realize that this MFP work to improve our health and fitness brings the added benefit of making it more likely we can prevent - and overcome - the adverse effects of seasonal flu, COVID-19, etc. I hope your family members recover fully and quickly! In response to your question ...

    Generally, exercise helps improve my mood. I often say, “putting my sneakers on and getting out the door are the most difficult aspects of fitness for me” because, once I get started, I gain momentum and feel great. Being outside can bring an extra boost so it sounds as though that’s a good path for you - walking and biking - since it’s easier to build a habit around what we like. There are times when I feel angry or sad and a good run will help me work through my emotions or negative thoughts by pounding the pavement 🏃‍♀️ or allowing myself a good cry along the way 😭. By the end, I can usually formulate a plan of action and know the steps I need to take.

    Have you been able to identify what it is about indoor exercise that bothers you?

    For me, it might be that I need to be alone with my thoughts and indoor facilities might not give me the space I need with so many people in closer proximity. There’s something about nature and the ‘organized complexity’ of life among the birds, flowers, etc... that help me trust that I can find order through the chaos, too. So, that’s my very long way of encouraging you to go with what works for you! Enjoy your long walks and bike ride this week!

    One of my goals for this week is to keep trying to improve my stretching, which I’ve been doing fairly well with overall. I still need to build more consistency into my routine by dedicating a little time to it each day. I’m weighing in at a steady 137 now; but, I have some non-weight and fitness goals in mind for this week so I’m just planning to maintain this level in the coming week. My main goals this week relate to staying connect to family and friends, and offering support to people who are suffering during this difficult time of dealing with the pandemic as well as economic and social unrest. I’ll stay within my calorie limit - and exercise a minimum 3 days (rowing along with more stretching) - but, I’m not going to put too much pressure on myself to reach the 5-pound incremental loss by the date I set in our challenge. I’ll go back to my previous post to check the date I set for the challenge and update the group later in the week on that ... For now, I’m trying to get some ‘care packages’ out early in the week (Monday or Tuesday) so I won’t have a chance to focus on the 5-pound challenge until the end of the week. Best wishes to all of you in reaching your goals!!
    edited November 7
  • PatriceFitnessPalPatriceFitnessPal Member Posts: 119 Member Member Posts: 119 Member
    @skinnylw2016 - I’ve always liked the idea of downloading books and listening to them while exercising, but I haven’t been able to set it in motion ... good for you! My sons enjoy Audible but I get tripped up by the idea that I can access the library downloads ... then, I never do it! Thanks for keeping the idea alive for me. One of these days, I’ll follow through on my plan!!

    And congratulations for turning the game around in the second half! You’ll have to share your motivational halftime speech with us. Sometimes a tie can feel like a win!
  • skinnylw2016skinnylw2016 Member Posts: 18 Member Member Posts: 18 Member
    @PatriceFitnessPal No half time speech needed this time, but a sunny day and walk first thing in the morning, followed by an evening run with friends seemed to do the trick. I just need to stick to it when it is windy and rainy outside. 🤞
  • beshamamabeshamama Member Posts: 120 Member Member Posts: 120 Member
    Went for a nice long bike ride with my family today. I feel great!

    I don’t know why exercising inside is hard for me. Maybe it is because I have like a million other things I could/should be doing and I feel lazy? I know I’m not but it feels that way. Going on bike rides also feels indulgent but doesn’t make me sad 🤣
  • lillymaid86lillymaid86 Member Posts: 9 Member Member Posts: 9 Member
    I posted something similar on another board . But I have about 100 lbs to lose . Due to mental health issues , I haven't been eating enough . I rejoined this site to get an idea of my needs . So I am in a crazy situation but I could really use a female accountability buddy.
  • PatriceFitnessPalPatriceFitnessPal Member Posts: 119 Member Member Posts: 119 Member
    @lillymaid86 - WELCOME! We are all working toward different goals but we’re united in supporting one another to achieve them. Someone recommended tackling a larger weight loss goal in smaller increments so it’s more manageable. It may also feel less overwhelming from a mental health stand point to take things slowly and steadily. Our idea is to build habits that lead to incremental change that doesn’t feel daunting (i.e., sustainable instead of drastic). It’s great that you are taking this first step in understanding your nutrition needs. Feel free to post one or two goals for the week and then check in regularly to report your progress. Let us know how you’re doing...

    Today, I’m trying to cross off items from my long ‘To Do’ list but I’m not making any progress. I’m posting my plan here so I can be more accountable. I can certainly identify with @KMC55’s comment that addressing one item often leads to two more (or four more!) things that need to get done! So, one small goal for today will be to go through my stacks of papers and just lay them out in categories quickly, without taking a ton of time, and then deal with at least one pile until it’s gone. I’ll also prepare two ‘care packages’ for family members so they’ll be ready to mail tomorrow. I’ll also play soccer tonight as a way to wrap up the day. Anything else I get done on the household side will be a bonus.

    @beshamama and @skinnylw2016 - I’m glad to see so many of you enjoying the nice weather in healthy ways! I skipped a chance to kayak with some friends this morning - so I could catch up on cleaning - but, I’m regretting it now because I’ve been less productive than I expected (see above ... 😖). That’s why I’m so determined to get at least a few things done now! I don’t want to have any regrets by the time I’m heading to bed tonight. So, I’m signing off ... determined!! Go get those goals. No regrets!
    edited November 8
  • Katebook309yahoocom940Katebook309yahoocom940 Member Posts: 18 Member Member Posts: 18 Member
    Hey all. Also looking to lose weight. :) Would love the accountability. I love to exercise but junk food is my main coping mechanism/ reason for living :). I tend to be all or nothing so I'm doing a warm up to new years resolutions. 😅 ---- walked slow today for an hour while jaming to Spotify.

    Congrats 👏 on the spike ball. Did the bonus run/walk happen?
  • Katebook309yahoocom940Katebook309yahoocom940 Member Posts: 18 Member Member Posts: 18 Member
    Whoops missed 39 pages. :D Good luck everyone on your goals this week.
  • PatriceFitnessPalPatriceFitnessPal Member Posts: 119 Member Member Posts: 119 Member
    @Katebook309yahoocom940 - Welcome! I hope you didn’t have to read through 39 pages to get here 😀 ... but it’s never too late to join!

    I bought the ‘Spike ball’ game for my son in the early days of quarantining. The plan was for him to take it with him to college, but he left it here. So, it’s a good reminder to dig out the game when he comes home for the longer-than-usual break from Thanksgiving until mid-January. I’m going to guess I didn’t do the bonus walk/run ... unless my dog convinced me. 🐶

    You stroll to music sounds like a lovely way to enjoy the nice weather we had today (in my area). @Katebook309yahoocom940, have you
    set a specific goal to work towards this week?
    edited November 9
  • highmaintnancehighmaintnance Member Posts: 173 Member Member Posts: 173 Member
    Happy Monday everyone! I posted a really long post last Friday with inspiring things and uplifting encouragement and then I accidentally clicked something else and deleted the whole thing. I got pissed and just walked away instead of trying to recreate it, lol.

    Anyway, someone posted about eating when anxious. That was definitely my jam! I ate my feelings almost constantly, which is how I gained about 20lbs when my mom had cancer. What really helped me after that was learning about mindfulness, especially mindful eating. It's insane how closely linked psychology and food are, and they really shouldn't be. I still get the urge to eat when stressed, but I can now realize what I'm doing earlier in the gorging than I could before.

    So I missed two days of getting 7k steps last week. I pinpointed my crazy workplace and some unexpected issues as the main culprit. Everything else was pretty solid.

    This week's goals: Get 7k steps a day (repeat) and no drive thru food this week.
  • beshamamabeshamama Member Posts: 120 Member Member Posts: 120 Member
    New week new goals
    *Stay in my calorie budget
    *Get back to exercising but maybe do every other day and see if that helps my mood.
    *Go for a walk every day
    *Eat breakfast again!!
    *Log all my food on here again
  • leekatelynne0659leekatelynne0659 Member, Premium Posts: 21 Member Member, Premium Posts: 21 Member
    I need to lose about the same, feel free to add me!
  • StepWise123StepWise123 Member Posts: 107 Member Member Posts: 107 Member
    beshamama wrote: »
    New week new goals
    *Stay in my calorie budget
    *Get back to exercising but maybe do every other day and see if that helps my mood.
    *Go for a walk every day
    *Eat breakfast again!!
    *Log all my food on here again

    These goals seem really doable. I think I'll adopt each one myself. Thank you. I quit logging in food for several days and the scale started creeping up immediately. Something about ++carbs and sodium and my age aren't "jiving." (Now there's a dated word!) New policy that seems to be working: Love you, honey, but no, you cannot plate my food. (Smack! :D ) So inspired by everyone here ...
  • PatriceFitnessPalPatriceFitnessPal Member Posts: 119 Member Member Posts: 119 Member
    @highmaintnance - Ugh! That happened to me before ... I’ve lost information before I could post it, too! It was so frustrating!! The good news for all of you is that my second attempt was probably much more succinct than usual! 😂

    I was one of the people wanting to feed my stress last week but, even though I wasn’t completely satisfied with my week, I managed to cope well enough by focusing only on the things I could control. For example, in terms of the election, I made concrete plans about local actions I would personally commit to carrying out ... based on one outcome or another. It’s great that you recognize when things like your ‘crazy workplace’ require increased mindfulness; but, I’m sorry you had to learn about mindfulness following the difficult experience of supporting your mother through cancer. It’s so scary and stressful when our loved ones suffer but I’m glad you found a better way to cope ... mindfulness is critical as we help others and also essential to our own health and wellness!

    @beshamama and @StepWise123 - How are you doing with your shared goals? ... ‘Jiving’ yet? 😊

    Welcome @leekatelynne0659! - Have you set some manageable goals for yourself this week?

    I had to make some adjustments to my plans this week because nobody in my rowing group wanted to scull in the rain today or tomorrow. So, that cuts out two days of exercise I had planned. I’m going to join my husband’s personal trainer appointment for 30 minutes tomorrow but that won’t burn as many calories as rowing. I’ll have to figure out another way to make up the exercise deficit but that might be a good thing because we can’t row through the winter anyway. Typically, the fall season ends in November but we might keep rowing outside on the river if this warm weather continues. Anyway, I’ll probably have to build a new workout habit because I doubt we can meet inside on the rowing machines for winter conditioning. I might re-join the YMCA across the street from our house and go at ‘off’ times when it’s not as crowded. I welcome your ideas ... Any thoughts?

    On the positive side, I felt better on Sunday once I got some cleaning and other tasks completed. I was feeling a bit disappointed in myself for wasting a lot of the day just reading the news online, etc. Also, I find that I naturally stay fairly close to my macro nutrition goals and I’m fairly confident that I’ll be able to maintain my weight within the BMI ‘normal’ range. I still have about 10-15 pounds to reach my ideal weight but I think I’ll have a bit more work to re-build any muscle loss.

    I’m looking into getting a baseline body fat assessment once I reach my goal weight so I can set some new goals once I reach the next phase of ‘maintenance.’ I hope your week is going well, Accountability Buddies. Go get those goals!
    edited November 12
  • beshamamabeshamama Member Posts: 120 Member Member Posts: 120 Member
    🤦‍♀️ I didn’t do any of my goals this week....but lost 3lbs. 🤣

    Back at it. I am currently typing this while on my stationary bike 💪 I am determined again!

    Goals for the weekend:
    *Get back to exercising!!
    *Eat breakfast again!
    *log my food again!
  • PatriceFitnessPalPatriceFitnessPal Member Posts: 119 Member Member Posts: 119 Member
    @beshamama - Your stationary bike was a good investment! It’s great that you’re using it so much. Congratulations on the weight loss! I guess you’ve managed to embed some positive new habits and routines to keep you on track even if you didn’t hit your exact goals for the week. Good for you!
  • inshapeCKinshapeCK Member Posts: 3,858 Member Member Posts: 3,858 Member
    I am big on accountability as it having it as well as accountability partners has helped me in the past. Will be back to post again but wanted to mark this post so I don't lose it.
  • kmccromkmccrom Member Posts: 51 Member Member Posts: 51 Member
    Hi everyone! I’ve been away for a while but I’m back. Wanted to post my goals to hold myself accountable.
    1. Log meals
    2. Weigh in weekly
    3. Mindful eating
    4. Paying attention!

    Looking forward to supporting and getting support!
  • angelexperimentangelexperiment Member Posts: 1,889 Member Member Posts: 1,889 Member
    beshamama wrote: »
    Hello all! This week has been a week! I didn’t log my food and I didn’t exercise. And surprise to no one I gained weight ugh! 😑 I found out my little sister’s live in boyfriend has Covid. He and my sis both have weird health problems so I am worried about them.

    I do have one NSV though! My mom came over for some day drinking the day after the election 🤣 and she said I look like I’ve lost weight!

    Weird exercise question for you all. I keep reading and my hubby is always telling me that exercise is good for mental health. But when I work out right after I feel depressed and sad and just all around miserable. What gives? Does this happen to anyone else? I find if I go for walks or real bike rides I don’t get that depressed feeling. This weird bad mood happens whenever I do any indoor exercise.

    Alright new goals for the weekend.
    *Go on a outdoor bike ride
    *Go for a long walk
    *Get back to logging food
    *Don’t get down on myself

    Well one emotions are stored in fat and can be released as you lose, think like life traumas etc. 2 maybe it’s something you don’t actually enjoy or dread doing. If you walk or do something you have fun doing you have a happier feeling
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