As a guy I wanted to know what it was like as a woman...

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  • msf74
    msf74 Posts: 3,498 Member
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    If women lose access to online dating (or simply opt out due to the foolishness) don't (heterosexual) men, but default, lose access as well?

    Yes, that is exactly the point I was making.

    The behaviour of a minority of men (mainly though some women are guilty of the same to a lesser degree) crowd out both other men and women who may be eminently suitable for each other. It benefits all of us to call out this behaviour as being unacceptable and remedy the situation because as an avenue in the modern world online dating is probably the best way to go.
  • somefitsomefat
    somefitsomefat Posts: 445 Member
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    Wahhhhhhh!!! Too many guys want to buy me free meals!!!! Life as a woman is soooooooooo difficult. Let's be honest, you ladies have to put literally no effort in to meeting guys. You're basically just waiting for one to hit on you that meets whatever shallow standard you've imposed for looks. You then simply decide if his annoying qualities offset his looks and by how much.

    I was single for about 3 months this summer and it was miserable. I remember being single 4-5 years ago and not being so uncomfortable.

    This last year- was AWFUL. And this was with people I already knew- not complete strangers.

    My dating experience online a few years ago wasn't that bad- but it isn't pretty... and no- it's not easy.

    I didn't get free meals- or take advantage of men- or just waiting for them to hit on me. I'm not a meat market getting to picked up.

    that's just so incredibly inaccurate it's not even funny.

    Guy and a girl walk in to a bar. Which one is probably getting at least a couple free drinks from strangers? Just sayin'. Meeting someone is easy when you have to put no effort in to striking up a conversation.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
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    Wahhhhhhh!!! Too many guys want to buy me free meals!!!! Life as a woman is soooooooooo difficult. Let's be honest, you ladies have to put literally no effort in to meeting guys. You're basically just waiting for one to hit on you that meets whatever shallow standard you've imposed for looks. You then simply decide if his annoying qualities offset his looks and by how much.

    I was single for about 3 months this summer and it was miserable. I remember being single 4-5 years ago and not being so uncomfortable.

    This last year- was AWFUL. And this was with people I already knew- not complete strangers.

    My dating experience online a few years ago wasn't that bad- but it isn't pretty... and no- it's not easy.

    I didn't get free meals- or take advantage of men- or just waiting for them to hit on me. I'm not a meat market getting to picked up.

    that's just so incredibly inaccurate it's not even funny.

    Guy and a girl walk in to a bar. Which one is probably getting at least a couple free drinks from strangers? Just sayin'. Meeting someone is easy when you have to put no effort in to striking up a conversation.

    not this girl. I'm not a fan of getting drugged.
  • somefitsomefat
    somefitsomefat Posts: 445 Member
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    tl;dr whole thread, but... Years ago, I created a male profile online for a similar experiment. My alter ego could post the exact same thing that got me slobbering compliments and PMs... and he would be completely ignored by that online community. The difference is pretty interesting. Kind of bummed me out at the time to think I might not be as objectively witty as I thought. :ohwell:

    I want to point out I said this exact thing earlier and it was dismissed LOL. Hopefully coming from a woman the statement will actually carry some importance.
  • msf74
    msf74 Posts: 3,498 Member
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    One final thing before I have to go.

    This is an interesting article applying economic principles to the idea that online dating creates "a market for lemons".

    http://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2012/02/love-stinks-an-economic-manifesto/253064/
  • mmm_drop
    mmm_drop Posts: 1,126 Member
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    I honestly think it might depend on what site you use.

    I was on Match.com a little over a year ago, for a very brief time, about 3 weeks actually. I chatted with several men and never got creeped out by anyone, but only met up with one for coffee. Our coffee date lasted 7 hours and over a year later we are still going strong.

    Who knows, maybe my face says don't eff with me, but all in all, my one and only online dating experience was a positive one.
  • WoodChuckNorris
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    Single folks don't use phones, don't go to parties at their friends' houses

    Of course they do. At least in my circle, they do. I have friends from 22 years old to 60 years old. Many of them are single. My daughter and her group of friends are in college.

    I have people over to my house all the time and my friends have people to their houses. Whether it's for the Super Bowl, Halloween or a random, "Hey, we haven't seen each other in a while!" Friday night.

    Who are these people who never go to each other's houses?

    IDK...It was stated earlier in the thread that only teenagers go to house parties. It seems strange to me. That's my main "social life" is house parties.

    Everytime I see the words "house party", I think about kid n' play
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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    tl;dr whole thread, but... Years ago, I created a male profile online for a similar experiment. My alter ego could post the exact same thing that got me slobbering compliments and PMs... and he would be completely ignored by that online community. The difference is pretty interesting. Kind of bummed me out at the time to think I might not be as objectively witty as I thought. :ohwell:

    I want to point out I said this exact thing earlier and it was dismissed LOL. Hopefully coming from a woman the statement will actually carry some importance.
    It was not dismissed. Again, BEING REJECTED OR IGNORED IS NOT THE SAME AS VIRTUAL SEXUAL ASSAULT.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
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    Single folks don't use phones, don't go to parties at their friends' houses

    Of course they do. At least in my circle, they do. I have friends from 22 years old to 60 years old. Many of them are single. My daughter and her group of friends are in college.

    I have people over to my house all the time and my friends have people to their houses. Whether it's for the Super Bowl, Halloween or a random, "Hey, we haven't seen each other in a while!" Friday night.

    Who are these people who never go to each other's houses?

    IDK...It was stated earlier in the thread that only teenagers go to house parties. It seems strange to me. That's my main "social life" is house parties.

    Everytime I see the words "house party", I think about kid n' play

    glad to see I'm not the only one who thought that.
  • WoodChuckNorris
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    Single folks don't use phones, don't go to parties at their friends' houses

    Of course they do. At least in my circle, they do. I have friends from 22 years old to 60 years old. Many of them are single. My daughter and her group of friends are in college.

    I have people over to my house all the time and my friends have people to their houses. Whether it's for the Super Bowl, Halloween or a random, "Hey, we haven't seen each other in a while!" Friday night.

    Who are these people who never go to each other's houses?

    IDK...It was stated earlier in the thread that only teenagers go to house parties. It seems strange to me. That's my main "social life" is house parties.

    Everytime I see the words "house party", I think about kid n' play

    glad to see I'm not the only one who thought that.

    *does the kid n' play foot dance with you*
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
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    Single folks don't use phones, don't go to parties at their friends' houses

    Of course they do. At least in my circle, they do. I have friends from 22 years old to 60 years old. Many of them are single. My daughter and her group of friends are in college.

    I have people over to my house all the time and my friends have people to their houses. Whether it's for the Super Bowl, Halloween or a random, "Hey, we haven't seen each other in a while!" Friday night.

    Who are these people who never go to each other's houses?

    IDK...It was stated earlier in the thread that only teenagers go to house parties. It seems strange to me. That's my main "social life" is house parties.
    Maybe it was the term "house party"? I mean, we don't call them that. We just call them parties or get-togethers or whatever. Or, "So and so is having a few people over."

    that's exactly what it was - the term "house party". It reminded me of Kid N Play.

    Ahhh...my baby brother was into those guys. He used to run around saying "Pajama jammy jam." I have no idea what that meant. I'm not sure he did either. :laugh:

    But, yeah. Trade the crap music for rock and add 20-30 years to the folks, and that's not too far off from our parties. My husband and I usually split once certain people start getting too drunk.

    Now, is it strange that our two teens sit at home on FB and Tumblr or watch a movie and eat pizza while their parents are at a house party? Maybe I'm over-sharing by now. :laugh: :smokin:
  • jonnythan
    jonnythan Posts: 10,161 Member
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    Guy and a girl walk in to a bar. Which one is probably getting at least a couple free drinks from strangers? Just sayin'. Meeting someone is easy when you have to put no effort in to striking up a conversation.

    Getting free drinks is great.

    Now comes the hard part. Ever accept a free drink from a guy in a bar? Accepting the drink means an obligation to talk to them and give them a chance. Blow them off and you are a rude b*tch and likely to get yelled at, spat on, or pushed. They bought you something, now you owe them something and if you don't give it to them watch out.

    Sound crazy? It is. But it's how accepting drinks in bars works.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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    Single folks don't use phones, don't go to parties at their friends' houses

    Of course they do. At least in my circle, they do. I have friends from 22 years old to 60 years old. Many of them are single. My daughter and her group of friends are in college.

    I have people over to my house all the time and my friends have people to their houses. Whether it's for the Super Bowl, Halloween or a random, "Hey, we haven't seen each other in a while!" Friday night.

    Who are these people who never go to each other's houses?

    IDK...It was stated earlier in the thread that only teenagers go to house parties. It seems strange to me. That's my main "social life" is house parties.

    Everytime I see the words "house party", I think about kid n' play

    glad to see I'm not the only one who thought that.

    *does the kid n' play foot dance with you*
    Do we have a match?
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
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    Single folks don't use phones, don't go to parties at their friends' houses

    Of course they do. At least in my circle, they do. I have friends from 22 years old to 60 years old. Many of them are single. My daughter and her group of friends are in college.

    I have people over to my house all the time and my friends have people to their houses. Whether it's for the Super Bowl, Halloween or a random, "Hey, we haven't seen each other in a while!" Friday night.

    Who are these people who never go to each other's houses?

    IDK...It was stated earlier in the thread that only teenagers go to house parties. It seems strange to me. That's my main "social life" is house parties.
    Maybe it was the term "house party"? I mean, we don't call them that. We just call them parties or get-togethers or whatever. Or, "So and so is having a few people over."

    Maybe it's not my age then. Maybe it's a regional thing? *shrugs*

    I've never called it a "get-together." And to me "having people over" is more like a small dinner party. I'm talking about 40-50 people, loud music, kegs and coolers, lots of smoke in the backyard (or in the garage if it's winter...) To me, that's a house party, a party at someone's house. :bigsmile:

    see, that's what we did at 18. *shrugs*

    See, if my parents had let me party at 18, I might have outgrown this behavior. :blushing:
  • WoodChuckNorris
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    Single folks don't use phones, don't go to parties at their friends' houses

    Of course they do. At least in my circle, they do. I have friends from 22 years old to 60 years old. Many of them are single. My daughter and her group of friends are in college.

    I have people over to my house all the time and my friends have people to their houses. Whether it's for the Super Bowl, Halloween or a random, "Hey, we haven't seen each other in a while!" Friday night.

    Who are these people who never go to each other's houses?

    IDK...It was stated earlier in the thread that only teenagers go to house parties. It seems strange to me. That's my main "social life" is house parties.

    Everytime I see the words "house party", I think about kid n' play

    glad to see I'm not the only one who thought that.

    *does the kid n' play foot dance with you*
    Do we have a match?

    Nah, I just super perved her. Sorry, as a guy, I cannot control myself.
  • CMoeDee
    CMoeDee Posts: 102 Member
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    Wahhhhhhh!!! Too many guys want to buy me free meals!!!! Life as a woman is soooooooooo difficult. Let's be honest, you ladies have to put literally no effort in to meeting guys. You're basically just waiting for one to hit on you that meets whatever shallow standard you've imposed for looks. You then simply decide if his annoying qualities offset his looks and by how much.

    I was single for about 3 months this summer and it was miserable. I remember being single 4-5 years ago and not being so uncomfortable.

    This last year- was AWFUL. And this was with people I already knew- not complete strangers.

    My dating experience online a few years ago wasn't that bad- but it isn't pretty... and no- it's not easy.

    I didn't get free meals- or take advantage of men- or just waiting for them to hit on me. I'm not a meat market getting to picked up.

    that's just so incredibly inaccurate it's not even funny.

    Guy and a girl walk in to a bar. Which one is probably getting at least a couple free drinks from strangers? Just sayin'. Meeting someone is easy when you have to put no effort in to striking up a conversation.

    The two hours that girl put into her hair and makeup have some questions about you mean by "no effort."
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
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    Single folks don't use phones, don't go to parties at their friends' houses

    Of course they do. At least in my circle, they do. I have friends from 22 years old to 60 years old. Many of them are single. My daughter and her group of friends are in college.

    I have people over to my house all the time and my friends have people to their houses. Whether it's for the Super Bowl, Halloween or a random, "Hey, we haven't seen each other in a while!" Friday night.

    Who are these people who never go to each other's houses?

    IDK...It was stated earlier in the thread that only teenagers go to house parties. It seems strange to me. That's my main "social life" is house parties.
    Maybe it was the term "house party"? I mean, we don't call them that. We just call them parties or get-togethers or whatever. Or, "So and so is having a few people over."

    Maybe it's not my age then. Maybe it's a regional thing? *shrugs*

    I've never called it a "get-together." And to me "having people over" is more like a small dinner party. I'm talking about 40-50 people, loud music, kegs and coolers, lots of smoke in the backyard (or in the garage if it's winter...) To me, that's a house party, a party at someone's house. :bigsmile:

    see, that's what we did at 18. *shrugs*

    See, if my parents had let me party at 18, I might have outgrown this behavior. :blushing:

    there was no "letting" about it. I got my *kitten* handed to me for that. It was worth it, lol.
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
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    Maybe it's not my age then. Maybe it's a regional thing? *shrugs*

    I've never called it a "get-together." And to me "having people over" is more like a small dinner party. I'm talking about 40-50 people, loud music, kegs and coolers, lots of smoke in the backyard (or in the garage if it's winter...) To me, that's a house party, a party at someone's house. :bigsmile:
    My group is somewhere in the middle. Not usually dinner parties exactly, but some booze and a bonfire and potluck kind of deal. We just hang out, I guess. Nothing wild, but a little more exciting than just sitting around the dinner table.

    That sounds like a normal night at home to me.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
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    Single folks don't use phones, don't go to parties at their friends' houses

    Of course they do. At least in my circle, they do. I have friends from 22 years old to 60 years old. Many of them are single. My daughter and her group of friends are in college.

    I have people over to my house all the time and my friends have people to their houses. Whether it's for the Super Bowl, Halloween or a random, "Hey, we haven't seen each other in a while!" Friday night.

    Who are these people who never go to each other's houses?

    IDK...It was stated earlier in the thread that only teenagers go to house parties. It seems strange to me. That's my main "social life" is house parties.

    Everytime I see the words "house party", I think about kid n' play

    glad to see I'm not the only one who thought that.

    *does the kid n' play foot dance with you*
    Do we have a match?

    Nah, I just super perved her. Sorry, as a guy, I cannot control myself.

    hahahahaha *snort* hahahahaha. You didn't super perv me. You made me laugh. I was actually going over the dance in my head. Its been a few years, lol.
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
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    Wahhhhhhh!!! Too many guys want to buy me free meals!!!! Life as a woman is soooooooooo difficult. Let's be honest, you ladies have to put literally no effort in to meeting guys. You're basically just waiting for one to hit on you that meets whatever shallow standard you've imposed for looks. You then simply decide if his annoying qualities offset his looks and by how much.

    I was single for about 3 months this summer and it was miserable. I remember being single 4-5 years ago and not being so uncomfortable.

    This last year- was AWFUL. And this was with people I already knew- not complete strangers.

    My dating experience online a few years ago wasn't that bad- but it isn't pretty... and no- it's not easy.

    I didn't get free meals- or take advantage of men- or just waiting for them to hit on me. I'm not a meat market getting to picked up.

    that's just so incredibly inaccurate it's not even funny.

    Guy and a girl walk in to a bar. Which one is probably getting at least a couple free drinks from strangers? Just sayin'. Meeting someone is easy when you have to put no effort in to striking up a conversation.

    not this girl. I'm not a fan of getting drugged.

    ^^ THIS


    Back when I was single and going to bars, this was rule #1: NEVER take a drink from a stranger and NEVER leave your drink unattended.