Anybody here get "Facebook envy"?

4myB

I have started to feel that way lately. Many of my friends are doing "a nutritional cleanse" and my feed is blown up daily with the 20 lbs they lost in a month . I don't want to do it, it's not for me. But to know how hard I am working to lose my .5lb a week and they "magically" lose is sad.

splitdog79

I have started to feel that way lately. Many of my friends are doing "a nutritional cleanse" and my feed is blown up daily with the 20 lbs they lost in a month . I don't want to do it, it's not for me. But to know how hard I am working to lose my .5lb a week and they "magically" lose is sad.

I know the feelings. The question you need to ask yourself is if they're making long-term sustainable changes to their lifestyle or just doing some temporary "cleanse". Before I started trying to get into shape I saw lots of coworkers going to see a weight-loss doc that gave them B-12 injections and such and, yeah, they lost maybe 20-30 pounds and looked great!


For about two months until they gained it all back because they hadn't changed their lifestyle at all, or they lost the weight and went back to eating like they always had and wondered why they were gaining again.

All I'm trying to say is "Keep heart". 5 pounds a week is tremendous results and you should be very proud of yourself. If you're putting in the work and learning how to change your lifestyle for a lifetime you're much more likely to see real, lasting results than people who take the quick fix and never learn WHY they were overweight to begin with.

Best of luck to you!

Clovermoth

Watch this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QxVZYiJKl1Y

The video is called "What's on you mind" and is about exactly what you are talking about.

You are not the only one.

Loved this!!
OP I also left facebook....partly for that reason! and no I'm not twelve...just human

Kagemori

I believe that people who wallow in misery (barring health issues that cause it) allow it. If they are your friends and you envy their partying, then go party with them. If they won't let you, they aren't your friends.
You control how happy you want to be and while envy can be a motivator for some, for others it's a detriment. You want a more exciting life, go make it.

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This.

There was a long period of time where i felt stuck and miserable and just wallowed in self pity for a long time. I hated my job, my life, my lack of friends and how i would just be stuck at home unable to go anywhere.
It took me along time, and im still not where i want to be in life but early this year i finally started to take the steps i needed to take to get my life and myself where it is i want to be.

I quit my dead end job that i hated and moved down to fort myers with my mother. I got a new job doing something that i enjoy and that has the potential to become a career with time and effort on my part. Im finally being able to go out and do things. not glamorous things mind you but still things that are fun and that i enjoy. Im working to get myself both fit and healthy and one step at a time i can feel myself changing into who i want to be rather than settling.

I wont lie, i am a little scared but ive been stuck in the same "place" for so long and i wasnt happy at all. I miss my friends and family that i've left behind back home but atleast i can still visit them from time to time.

yesterdayusaid2morrow

Lmfao @ those acting six shades of self righteous by saying they are never envious. Is it hard to be so full of crap? Lol. OP, just remind yourself that if the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it's because it has been fertilized with bull****. Everybody gets green from time to time, and I mean everybody! If it's not causing negative issues in your life, no biggie! Personally at times I've channeled the occasional envy into motivation to make positive changes. Thanks for keeping it real OP.

MelsAuntie

Lmfao @ those acting six shades of self righteous by saying they are never envious. Is it hard to be so full of crap? Lol. OP, just remind yourself that if the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it's because it has been fertilized with bull****. Everybody gets green from time to time, and I mean everybody! If it's not causing negative issues in your life, no biggie! Personally at times I've channeled the occasional envy into motivation to make positive changes. Thanks for keeping it real OP.

Thank you SO much for being so omniscient that you know what everyone else is thinking. NO, I don't envy anyone, envy serves no purpose. Nor does the above quote, which presumes to speak for others.

Girlwithagoal86

Yes I do..
Mainly has to do with my inlaws..I've done everything I can to try and please them and I'm still not good enough for them and apparently all these wonderful girls they talk to all the time on there are just perfect and beautiful and I am nothing..but that's another story lol Thank goodness they live a few hours away!

But all that matters Is that My husband and I are happy, he understand how they are and I'm not gonna let them ruin us by putting me down.. sorry for the rant haha

ComradeTovarich

No way brah. They're all getting married and fat and popping out babies like Civil War era Hotchkiss Mountain Guns. Whatever the reverse of envy is, I get that.

enjayer

Have loved reading through all the comments! I finally twigged about the " experimentation" references after watching the news. Interestingly, mfp is starting to take over some of the Internet time for me that facebook used to consume! Why? Because its actually pretty interesting and the friends on here are pretty damn supportive all the time

Kitten2629

No, I do not envy other peoples lives. Maybe I am in the minority. I love seeing everyones success.. Just like here it helps me to strive to do more for my family. It is very petty to be jealous of others lives when we have full control of our own.