Everything happens for a reason....

RainbowNtheWaterfall

Hey everybody...I've been feeling a little low here lately. My love life has taken a deep plunge. What I thought I had in a relationship was clearly made evident to me just a few days ago....I kept trying to make the relationship work, it was a long distance relationship and I was willing to work on things that were brought to my attention that I knew I could benefit from but when he said things to me in a way that hurt me, and I brought it to his attention, he wasn't willing to change or "season his words with salt" as the Bible says but he decided that he wouldnt bring up the situation again. It's hard when you try to make it work and the other person after putting in effort decides that they don't want to go through with it any longer...I think I let myself get involved emotionally too soon but then again what is love if you can't take a chance or you aren't willing to make sacrifices?....maybe this was God's way of allowing me to grow a bit more and experience something different in life but as for now, that thing "hurts like the devil"....I pray that I will find someone that understands me and my needs and is willing to be patient with me but in the mean time, I'll just look at it as time for growth....

just felt like venting.....

RainbowNtheWaterfall

Hey everybody...I've been feeling a little low here lately. My love life has taken a deep plunge. What I thought I had in a relationship was clearly made evident to me just a few days ago....I kept trying to make the relationship work, it was a long distance relationship and I was willing to work on things that were brought to my attention that I knew I could benefit from but when he said things to me in a way that hurt me, and I brought it to his attention, he wasn't willing to change or "season his words with salt" as the Bible says but he decided that he wouldnt bring up the situation again. It's hard when you try to make it work and the other person after putting in effort decides that they don't want to go through with it any longer...I think I let myself get involved emotionally too soon but then again what is love if you can't take a chance or you aren't willing to make sacrifices?....maybe this was God's way of allowing me to grow a bit more and experience something different in life but as for now, that thing "hurts like the devil"....I pray that I will find someone that understands me and my needs and is willing to be patient with me but in the mean time, I'll just look at it as time for growth....

just felt like venting.....

tashjs21

*Hugs*

Everything will work out in the end. :flowerforyou:

megan0313

I'm sorry to hear that you're hurting right now. Breakups are so painful, so be gentle with yourself and let yourself heal. And remember that you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect and if you're not getting that you need to move on. I'm sure you'll find the perfect relationship (probably when you least expect it)...but now's the time to focus on YOU!
God Bless

thejarviclan

That's the perfect perspective to have on the situation! You will meet that man, and you will recognize him for those things he doesn't say and do to you...the ones that hurt.

Meanwhile, I'm so sorry about the heartache :brokenheart: but I'm very proud that you recognized what was happening and took the first step to ending an unhealthy relationship!

ivykivy

I know it hurts. But this is the testing and seasoning you have to go through so you will be ready when you do find the right one. And you will find the one for you.

*HUGS*
And let us not be weary in "loving" (mine): for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. Gal 6:9

fitchick99

Sometimes I wish I were a little kid again, skinned knees are easier to fix than broken hearts. ~Author Unknown

So very true....things will eventually get better :flowerforyou:

clewliss

It sounds like he may have lost a special person!! :flowerforyou: Hope you recover fast and focus on the "new" you!! ***hugs***

Alisha28

I always feel those in our past do not make it to our future for a reason. I have been hurt but I came out stronger and met someone better. If it is a good relationship we should not be trying to make it work it should work. Keep your head high there is someone else for you, God would never want you to allow yourself to be hurt by another person.:happy:


Alisha

memaw66

Aww honey, I'm so sorry to hear of your heartache but I think you made the right decision. And you're right "everything happens for a reason". God has a plan for you. Just be still and let God do what he does. Everything will work out for the best and one day you will look back and wonder why you got so upset.

Hugs to you.

Memaw

RainbowNtheWaterfall

thanks everyone for your support and comfort...it means a lot just to be able to get these thoughts off my chest and to know that someone understands and cares about how I'm feeling.

renae77

Hey girl! I am so sorry to hear you are going through such a rough time. It will get better I promise and there is one saying I always remember when things get bad. God will never give you more than you can handle. Hold your head up high and take good care of yourself! I am here if you ever wanna talk.

spicy618

I'm so sorry for your pain. Remember the saying ... peopele come into your life for a season... later on you will realize this experience was for the best.

Hugs and Stay blessed!

heal4444

:brokenheart: So sad to hear you're feeling a broken heart. Know how bad it could feel. Hurts to the core. Thank you for sharing your struggles and challenges through this time. Bravo to you for the courage to accept it is the end of the relationship. Ending a relationship is the toughest, most wrenching pain of all. A book that helped me in the past with breakups with my ex boyfriends, I would recommend to all:

Coming Apart: Why Relationships End and How to Live Through the Ending of Yours
By Daphne Rose Kingma

Especially this time leading up to Valentine's Day and all you see are V's Day reminders everywhere, know it can't be extra painful. Stay strong. You'll get thru it a more evolved soul and know that the relationship you had and ended was part of a growing experience.

It is very profound and insightful of you to subject this with "Everything Happens For a Reason.". It is one of my favorite phrases too along with "This Too Shall Pass."

Blah7997, if you truly believe that Everything Happens For A Reason, then you really gotta read Coming Apart. It's exactly what the book is about. It explores what love is and why it ends.

Check it out on amazon, it has a "What's inside the book" feature.

Best to you. Take good care. We are all here for you. :flowerforyou:

mrhappy

Words can be empty at a time like this, but feelings are full of meaning. Take comfort in all the people who sent you hugs, and know that you are indeed stronger, and richer, for having loved and lost. And; it will happen again.

Peace and beauty to you...

:glasses:

hibbler22

*HUGS*

THINGS FALL APART FOR BETTER THINGS TO FALL INTO PLACE. NOW ITS TIME TO FOCUS ON YOU, AND ONLY YOU. SO THAT YOU WILL BECOME A BETTER YOU! JUST TAKE IT AS A LESSON LEARNED.

heal4444

Blah7997,

Here are a preview of many many pages from all the chapters from the book Coming Apart.

http://books.google.ca/books?hl=en&id=OX9M0rOPArsC&dq=daphne+rose+kingma&printsec=frontcover&source=web&ots=nnvhVSf4ZQ&sig=LykFYAn0MpHvfH461pkd1AoN0eQ&sa=X&oi=book_result&resnum=9&ct=result#PPA102,M1

If you can't click on the link, pls copy and paste into your internet browser.

RainbowNtheWaterfall

Thanks again to all who have shared there thoughts with me...the book, Coming Apart , sounds like something worth reading, thanks for that suggestion as well... I woke up early this morning and couldn't get back to sleep, as much as I wanted to, for thinking about the pain and and this whole ordeal....I know that it may sound strange but I guess I was still in disbelief...even though the whole thing is very real...but I keep telling myself that there is a reason for it...I know that I want to be happy with my husband, whoever he may be, and I know it's not going to be peaches and cream all the time because we are both imperfect creatures but I do want to feel valued and appreciated. So even though it hurts...eventually I will see without a doubt, that this is what needed to happen for me to be the happiest me possible....

heal4444

:happy: Love yourself no matter what. Your words are showing us all that you're on the right track. I have recommended the Coming Apart book dozens of times to others and each time, they tell me, it was exactly what they needed to read.

My favorite quote in the book is, "Time does not heal all wounds. Insight does."

And this book is full of ah ha! lightbulb insight moments. Not only will it heal you, it will reveal to you. All my best to you on your journey of self-discovery. :flowerforyou:

RainbowNtheWaterfall

:happy: Love yourself no matter what. Your words are showing us all that you're on the right track. I have recommended the Coming Apart book dozens of times to others and each time, they tell me, it was exactly what they needed to read.

My favorite quote in the book is, "Time does not heal all wounds. Insight does."

And this book is full of ah ha! lightbulb insight moments. Not only will it heal you, it will reveal to you. All my best to you on your journey of self-discovery. :flowerforyou:

Muah!...thanks, i tried finding it today while at the school library, they only have the electronic version...i will use the links that you provided until I get the paper back copy....and thanks again to every one for your support....