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bspolk

I am 49 and have never been thin or even close, I understand the addiction to sugar and believe I am an addict. I have been divorced for 17 years. My focus has been raising my children so I haven't had any significant personal relationships in all of that time. I am now an empty-nester and find it very lonesome. I have been on the dating sites ony to be looked over because of my weight. The men seem to only be interested in the young, thin and very athletic women and don't even give you asecond look if you don't fit that mold. Unfortunately I think they miss out on some potentionally lasting relationships because they are so short sighted. I believe I have a lot to offer but don't even get the time of day because of my weight. I have tried so many times to lose weight and actually lost 70 lbs in 2003. Of course I was still fat because I started at 274 lbs. Over the years I put 40 lbs back on and opted for lap-band surgery in 2009. I was successful for about the first year and lost 60 lbs. Again still fat because I still weighed 186 lbs. Once again I have managed to put 18 lbs back on and am currently 204 lbs. The lapband is a very useful tool but doesn't help with sugar cravings at all. Sugar and carbs go down with no problem at all.
I think I am in a place right now to get serious about getting the weight off and keeping it off. I also know I can't do it on my own. It is too easy to do the "secret eating". Especially when I spend so much time alone. Somehow my brain says if no one sees me eat it then it must not count. Sound familiar?

tyroners

Hi bspolk, well your in the right place if you need motivation, I've only been here a few days and the friends I have made are fantastic, add me if you wish I'll help all I can, best of luck with your goals!!

lg3703

Well I'm almost 43 and used to be thin before the babies... my youngest is 7! But this sight is full of different people. I find the ones who are in great shape are the most helpful to me because I see them day after day DOING IT with jobs, family, obligations... they still do it! People heavier, older & busier ... it lets me know I can too! Just browse around and request friends! You can do it too... IF you want it =]

fittertanme

feel free to add me and see how I did it