I just want to scream!

nmwhitney12

Sorry guys, I just need to vent! I have no one I can talk to about this.

Okay, so long story short my brother has run into some money issues. My mom is barely supporting herself, she owns her own business and it is about to fold. My dad has an entire family that is not my brother and me...so, we get left to the dust at times. My brother has been dependent on my grandparents since he started college and they can't help him anymore. He has 2 jobs and idk where his money goes but @ the end of the month he never has enough. (Before you say it IK he is not on drugs) One of the jobs is his apartment complex so that automatically pays his rent every month. Any ways, he is freaking out because all of his utilities are about to be cut off and I can't help. I bust my *kitten*, I am a full time student with an almost full time job and barely pay my bills (but I get them paid) I just cant take it anymore. Every other day he texts me asking me for money here or to pay a bill there. To top it off my granddaddy is in horrible health (all he does is sleep anymore and I know what that means) So i'm freaking out about that because my grandparents are like my parents, they raised us. Everyone calls me fussing about my brother but idk what I am supposed to do? I am only a year and a half older than him!!! I am at my breaking point and IDK what to do any more


Sorry. I just needed to vent or something. I am here in tears that won't stop and no one to talk to

supplemama

Just keep repeating to them all: I can't help. I have no money to help.

Don't be rude about it, just keep calmly repeating it.

svelt123

Hi, God Bless you!
Remember your faith. (I know it is hard when you want to help) but sometimes, you have to allow them to help themselves.)
Don't lose yourself. Don't forget to take care of yourself. Maybe direct them to someone or a counselor, group support.
Help to to locate help. You have done all that you can. Now, it's time for them to seek help on their own.
Take care.

pamfin

You can't do anything further to help, he needs to address this himself. You've done all you can.

He needs to draw up a list of his essential bills and what he's earning from his jobs. From there he can do a budget (or look to see if he can cut his outgoings in any way) which, if he sticks to it and assuming that his income is greater than his essential outgoings, should ensure that everything is covered.

My job is to help people from falling into arrears with their mortgage and helping them to sort out that situation if it does occur. When I do income and expenditure forms for people we define food, rent/mortgage, utilities and local taxes (called council tax over here) as essential. Basically stuff where you'd be cut off, made homeless, jailed or starve if you didn't pay it!

The most important thing though is for him to contact the companies that he's having difficulty paying as soon as possible to see if there is any assistance they can offer.

Hope that helps. Good luck.

sydnisd183

I just got my electric bill today, and at the bottom it says

"If you find you need assistance with your bill payment you can find a list of payment assistance agencies here....."

maybe he has something like that on his bills, or he can google "bill payment assistance" for his city. at least he can get help with his essential bills.

good luck and sorry for your situation, keep your head up!

edited to add: there are also churches and other outreach programs that help pay rent and get you food.

LilMissSunshine_

Sounds like he needs a little though love. Let him get his stuff turned off.