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Uncommon deal breakers
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oh, i thought of one....doesn't give oral.
wait there are honestly women who don't... I'm so sorry. Personally I think its fun :bigsmile:
Crap.... add that to my dealbreakers. A man that doesn't. Absolute dealbreaker.0 -
Ok, here we go -
- Under 31, Over 44
- Taller than 5'6"
- Police Officer (was married to one, dated one, I seem to be a target for them. Cops have a hard time being "people" outside of work)
- Someone that goes "clubbing". I enjoy small bars and live bands, just not the club atmosphere and not every night and definitely not to close it down.
ETA - One more. A man that has dated a woman that is in her early 20s (I've met a few men in their late 30s/early 40s like this). In one instant I realized we were looking for much different things in life.
And, to fix the first one...oops...supposed to be dealbreakers.
Screw Will. I'll give you 2 points.0 -
A man that doesn't like to get out of the house and do things. I can't stand being trapped up inside for too long.0
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oh, i thought of one....doesn't give oral.
wait there are honestly women who don't... I'm so sorry. Personally I think its fun :bigsmile:
My friend married a woman who doesn't give it except for maybe 2x in a year if he's lucky. He's currently cheating on her with a woman that does everything...go figure.
One woman i dated told me straight up that she doesn't give head right away due to being raped years ago and that I need to be patient and could take up to a year and that her last boyfriend waited that long and reaped the benefits....sorry about your story but I ain't waiting a year. More annoyed that she seemed to reset her wait time with each new guy...you'd think once she got over it with the first guy since her rape...she'd be good to go. Oh and add in the fact that you couldn't ejaculate ANYWHERE on her cuz she was grossed out by it. Another strike for her...other then that she was pretty awesome in bed.0 -
oh, i thought of one....doesn't give oral.
wait there are honestly women who don't... I'm so sorry. Personally I think its fun :bigsmile:
My friend married a woman who doesn't give it except for maybe 2x in a year if he's lucky. He's currently cheating on her with a woman that does everything...go figure.
One woman i dated told me straight up that she doesn't give head right away due to being raped years ago and that I need to be patient and could take up to a year and that her last boyfriend waited that long and reaped the benefits....sorry about your story but I ain't waiting a year. More annoyed that she seemed to reset her wait time with each new guy...you'd think once she got over it with the first guy since her rape...she'd be good to go. Oh and add in the fact that you couldn't ejaculate ANYWHERE on her cuz she was grossed out by it. Another strike for her...other then that she was pretty awesome in bed.
Yeah that would be a deal breaker.... You have to be sexually fun lol...... I'll leave it at that0 -
oh, i thought of one....doesn't give oral.
wait there are honestly women who don't... I'm so sorry. Personally I think its fun :bigsmile:
My friend married a woman who doesn't give it except for maybe 2x in a year if he's lucky. He's currently cheating on her with a woman that does everything...go figure.
One woman i dated told me straight up that she doesn't give head right away due to being raped years ago and that I need to be patient and could take up to a year and that her last boyfriend waited that long and reaped the benefits....sorry about your story but I ain't waiting a year. More annoyed that she seemed to reset her wait time with each new guy...you'd think once she got over it with the first guy since her rape...she'd be good to go. Oh and add in the fact that you couldn't ejaculate ANYWHERE on her cuz she was grossed out by it. Another strike for her...other then that she was pretty awesome in bed.
I had one who did oral and as I was close to getting off just stopped. She asked if I would finish it myself because she didn't want it in her mouth or on her hands.0 -
I had one who did oral and as I was close to getting off just stopped. She asked if I would finish it myself because she didn't want it in her mouth or on her hands.
lol, how annoying was that after awhile, right? Same with me...once I was about to go I had to pretty much pull out and jack myself off either on to a towel or on myself. Yaaah...hot.
Oh boy, was that too NC-17 for this group?0 -
oh, i thought of one....doesn't give oral.
wait there are honestly women who don't... I'm so sorry. Personally I think its fun :bigsmile:
My friend married a woman who doesn't give it except for maybe 2x in a year if he's lucky. He's currently cheating on her with a woman that does everything...go figure.
One woman i dated told me straight up that she doesn't give head right away due to being raped years ago and that I need to be patient and could take up to a year and that her last boyfriend waited that long and reaped the benefits....sorry about your story but I ain't waiting a year. More annoyed that she seemed to reset her wait time with each new guy...you'd think once she got over it with the first guy since her rape...she'd be good to go. Oh and add in the fact that you couldn't ejaculate ANYWHERE on her cuz she was grossed out by it. Another strike for her...other then that she was pretty awesome in bed.
I had one who did oral and as I was close to getting off just stopped. She asked if I would finish it myself because she didn't want it in her mouth or on her hands.
I'm sorry WHAT :noway: Where are you guys finding these women ......... Heres how you handle it don't let her know your close lol0 -
I had one who did oral and as I was close to getting off just stopped. She asked if I would finish it myself because she didn't want it in her mouth or on her hands.
No way!!!! That is I dont even have words for that.....
And Becky you lose a pt based on your dating challenge scoring system...a man tells a woman he loves her +100 the other way around is -1...right?0 -
I had one who did oral and as I was close to getting off just stopped. She asked if I would finish it myself because she didn't want it in her mouth or on her hands.
lol, how annoying was that after awhile, right? Same with me...once I was about to go I had to pretty much pull out and jack myself off either on to a towel or on myself. Yaaah...hot.
Oh boy, was that too NC-17 for this group?
Oh your knew lol.. not to much is too out there for here besides images0 -
Oh your knew lol.. not to much is too out there for here besides images
Here's TMI for the day...the first time we had sex...all over her stomach. She just looked at me while pointing to the mess on her stomach saying ..."nuh uh.....nuh uh" and told me how it grosses her out and to never do that again. We lasted about 3 months.0 -
I was at a fitness class a couple of weeks ago, started a conversation with a woman and I was asking open ended questions and getting 1-4 word responses. That was adolescent, high school behavior to the extreme and she was probably 23-26. Too old to pull that sort of nonsense.
You either have such a massive ego you can't comprehend that she couldn't possibly be into you, or you have such terrible social awareness that you didn't comprehend she wanted you to go away and leave her alone.
It's not games to not be into a guy. I know you have all the answers in your worldview but DM, seriously? Seriously. Don't be that creeper.0 -
I was at a fitness class a couple of weeks ago, started a conversation with a woman and I was asking open ended questions and getting 1-4 word responses. That was adolescent, high school behavior to the extreme and she was probably 23-26. Too old to pull that sort of nonsense.
You either have such a massive ego you can't comprehend that she couldn't possibly be into you, or you have such terrible social awareness that you didn't comprehend she wanted you to go away and leave her alone.
It's not games to not be into a guy. I know you have all the answers in your worldview but DM, seriously? Seriously. Don't be that creeper.
Yeah, i would have taken those 1-4 word replies as "not interested in talking to you, brah" and walked away. Not really anything to do with her being adolescent, IMO.0 -
I was at a fitness class a couple of weeks ago, started a conversation with a woman and I was asking open ended questions and getting 1-4 word responses. That was adolescent, high school behavior to the extreme and she was probably 23-26. Too old to pull that sort of nonsense.
You either have such a massive ego you can't comprehend that she couldn't possibly be into you, or you have such terrible social awareness that you didn't comprehend she wanted you to go away and leave her alone.
It's not games to not be into a guy. I know you have all the answers in your worldview but DM, seriously? Seriously. Don't be that creeper.
I did go away after about 2-3 questions of that bull****. I got the point. My social awareness was there. My point was that the bull**** should not have happened to begin with.0 -
I was at a fitness class a couple of weeks ago, started a conversation with a woman and I was asking open ended questions and getting 1-4 word responses. That was adolescent, high school behavior to the extreme and she was probably 23-26. Too old to pull that sort of nonsense.
You either have such a massive ego you can't comprehend that she couldn't possibly be into you, or you have such terrible social awareness that you didn't comprehend she wanted you to go away and leave her alone.
It's not games to not be into a guy. I know you have all the answers in your worldview but DM, seriously? Seriously. Don't be that creeper.
I did go away after about 2-3 questions of that bull****. I got the point. My social awareness was there. My point was that the bull**** should not have happened to begin with.
not everyone's nice though...i guess her being short with her answers was her way of letting you know she's not interested speaking to you? Who knows.0 -
Men who don't like watching sports on TV -- or a sport. Any sport. Yes, there are men out there who don't like watching sports. And in my experience, they are strange across the board. I avoid them now.
I also strongly prefer a man over 6'0". I've dated shorter guys...but...didn't like it that much.
My list of deal breakers has gotten much shorter as I've gotten older. I can't believe some of the stupid things that used to be on my list when I was in my 20s. Now I could really care less how a guy dresses as long as he is a good person and we have fun together.0 -
I had one who did oral and as I was close to getting off just stopped. She asked if I would finish it myself because she didn't want it in her mouth or on her hands.
I'm sorry WHAT :noway: Where are you guys finding these women ......... Heres how you handle it don't let her know your close lol
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^^ This. That just blows my mind about some women.
Bill - Gotcha....I'm blonde, hard to keep up sometimes.
Lucky for me, I'm just scorekeeper and not playing. 
Dave - And, now you are my favorite. :drinker:0 -
Men who don't like watching sports on TV -- or a sport. Any sport. Yes, there are men out there who don't like watching sports. And in my experience, they are strange across the board. I avoid them now.
I also strongly prefer a man over 6'0". I've dated shorter guys...but...didn't like it that much.
My list of deal breakers has gotten much shorter as I've gotten older. I can't believe some of the stupid things that used to be on my list when I was in my 20s. Now I could really care less how a guy dresses as long as he is a good person and we have fun together.
I'll watch sports on TV if others are or when at a bar but for the most part I couldn't give a crap about sports. I will watch Devils hockey if they're in the playoffs though or go to a game or two during the season. Otherwise I don't go outta my way to watch a football game. Last girl I dated loved the Eagles, i only watched to make her happy.
Not sure why you consider a non sports watching guy strange across the board...what does that even mean? Strange how? CUz they don't like watching sports? lol.0 -
I was at a fitness class a couple of weeks ago, started a conversation with a woman and I was asking open ended questions and getting 1-4 word responses. That was adolescent, high school behavior to the extreme and she was probably 23-26. Too old to pull that sort of nonsense.
You either have such a massive ego you can't comprehend that she couldn't possibly be into you, or you have such terrible social awareness that you didn't comprehend she wanted you to go away and leave her alone.
It's not games to not be into a guy. I know you have all the answers in your worldview but DM, seriously? Seriously. Don't be that creeper.
I did go away after about 2-3 questions of that bull****. I got the point. My social awareness was there. My point was that the bull**** should not have happened to begin with.
WHAT bullsh*t exactly? I don't understand why not wanting to talk to someone and giving them short, clipped responses as an indicator gets you all up in arms about how juvenile she is. What exactly should she have done in your perfect world?0 -
Dave - And, now you are my favorite. :drinker:
That makes me want to do a mud run!
Edit: Oh ****. I actually meant a mud run. Not that I wanted to do you.0 -
Not sure why you consider a non sports watching guy strange across the board...what does that even mean? Strange how? CUz they don't like watching sports? lol.
I mean that any guy who I've ever gone out with who didn't watch sports turned out to be strange in some way or another. Whether it was connected to their not watching sports or not, I have no idea, but it was the one consistent factor across all of them. Maybe you're an exception. I have no idea.0 -
Not sure why you consider a non sports watching guy strange across the board...what does that even mean? Strange how? CUz they don't like watching sports? lol.
I mean that any guy who I've ever gone out with who didn't watch sports turned out to be strange in some way or another. Whether it was connected to their not watching sports or not, I have no idea, but it was the one consistent factor across all of them. Maybe you're an exception. I have no idea.
lol, aight, just asking. Don't think that ALL non-sports watching guys are strange...although I do watch SOME sports.0 -
I was at a fitness class a couple of weeks ago, started a conversation with a woman and I was asking open ended questions and getting 1-4 word responses. That was adolescent, high school behavior to the extreme and she was probably 23-26. Too old to pull that sort of nonsense.
You either have such a massive ego you can't comprehend that she couldn't possibly be into you, or you have such terrible social awareness that you didn't comprehend she wanted you to go away and leave her alone.
It's not games to not be into a guy. I know you have all the answers in your worldview but DM, seriously? Seriously. Don't be that creeper.
I did go away after about 2-3 questions of that bull****. I got the point. My social awareness was there. My point was that the bull**** should not have happened to begin with.
WHAT bullsh*t exactly? I don't understand why not wanting to talk to someone and giving them short, clipped responses as an indicator gets you all up in arms about how juvenile she is. What exactly should she have done in your perfect world?
Just said right away I'm not interested and left. If a girl approaches me, and I'm not interested, I say right away that I am not interested.
Also Kits, your 'tude is abysmal and your responses are rather condescending.0 -
Just said right away I'm not interested and left. If a girl approaches me, and I'm not interested, I say right away that I am not interested.
Also Kits, your 'tude is abysmal and your responses are rather condescending.
I hear ya but I suck at being upfront and honest like that...could never tell someone "i'm not interested"...silly goose me would probably talk to them just because I'd feel bad to even try to give them a hint of going away. lol.0 -
I was at a fitness class a couple of weeks ago, started a conversation with a woman and I was asking open ended questions and getting 1-4 word responses. That was adolescent, high school behavior to the extreme and she was probably 23-26. Too old to pull that sort of nonsense.
You either have such a massive ego you can't comprehend that she couldn't possibly be into you, or you have such terrible social awareness that you didn't comprehend she wanted you to go away and leave her alone.
It's not games to not be into a guy. I know you have all the answers in your worldview but DM, seriously? Seriously. Don't be that creeper.
I did go away after about 2-3 questions of that bull****. I got the point. My social awareness was there. My point was that the bull**** should not have happened to begin with.
WHAT bullsh*t exactly? I don't understand why not wanting to talk to someone and giving them short, clipped responses as an indicator gets you all up in arms about how juvenile she is. What exactly should she have done in your perfect world?
Just said right away I'm not interested and left. If a girl approaches me, and I'm not interested, I say right away that I am not interested.
Also Kits, your 'tude is abysmal and your responses are rather condescending.
I'm sorry but that is ridiculous. The basic premise of most sales is that people are not confrontational. Most people will not be as direct as you expect. Do you really think it is a better attitude to say "Do you really think I'd be interested in you? How cute. Now go away little fella!" I am sure most people who avoid being direct perceive that that is exactly how they come across.0 -
well this is goin' great. Can we get back to non-head giving non-sperm accepting women stories?0
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Just said right away I'm not interested and left. If a girl approaches me, and I'm not interested, I say right away that I am not interested.
I'm so oblivious to a man flirting sometimes and I hate to assume because some guys are just chatty (and not trying to hit on me). If it's a guy I don't want to talk with, I will keep my answers short. In my mind it serves two purposes.
1. If he is just chatty, he knows I'm not (and I don't embarrass myself).
2. If he is trying to hit on me, he thinks I'm an inconsiderate b*tch, so he's not "rejected", his ego remains intact and we both go about our business.
Win/Win0 -
One woman i dated told me straight up that she doesn't give head right away due to being raped years ago and that I need to be patient and could take up to a year and that her last boyfriend waited that long and reaped the benefits....sorry about your story but I ain't waiting a year. More annoyed that she seemed to reset her wait time with each new guy...you'd think once she got over it with the first guy since her rape...she'd be good to go. Oh and add in the fact that you couldn't ejaculate ANYWHERE on her cuz she was grossed out by it. Another strike for her...other then that she was pretty awesome in bed.
:noway:Did I read this correctly???
Ok, I get that this woman may not have been compatible with you in a million other ways, but really, really, this rude attitude toward her because she was the victim of a rape and most likely has trust issues? Not saying your aren't allowed to want a bj, but to be so callous about it compared to her mental state from being in a situation like that is very telling.0 -
:noway:Did I read this correctly???
Ok, I get that this woman may not have been compatible with you in a million other ways, but really, really, this rude attitude toward her because she was the victim of a rape and most likely has trust issues? Not saying your aren't allowed to want a bj, but to be so callous about it compared to her mental state from being in a situation like that is very telling.
It was more than just that in the relationship. Also, i didn't understand how she would make each new guy wait up to a year to get oral? Like I said, i'm sorry to hear she got raped but the waiting game is ridiculous. Its ok to have sex with her, go down on her but I have to wait up to year to gain trust? Sorry, its just how I feel and didn't think she was worth the wait due to other annoyances about her. She was a feisty Puerto Rican woman that ended up being way too *****y for my liking.
Sorry you feel that way but I don't feel guilty about it at all.0 -
well this is goin' great. Can we get back to non-head giving non-sperm accepting women stories?
Agree 100%.One woman i dated told me straight up that she doesn't give head right away due to being raped years ago and that I need to be patient and could take up to a year and that her last boyfriend waited that long and reaped the benefits....sorry about your story but I ain't waiting a year. More annoyed that she seemed to reset her wait time with each new guy...you'd think once she got over it with the first guy since her rape...she'd be good to go. Oh and add in the fact that you couldn't ejaculate ANYWHERE on her cuz she was grossed out by it. Another strike for her...other then that she was pretty awesome in bed.
:noway:Did I read this correctly???
Ok, I get that this woman may not have been compatible with you in a million other ways, but really, really, this rude attitude toward her because she was the victim of a rape and most likely has trust issues? Not saying your aren't allowed to want a bj, but to be so callous about it compared to her mental state from being in a situation like that is very telling.
This is a difficult situation. Rape is a horrible trauma. I can't even imagine how horrible it is.
I do give her credit for being communicative about her needs.0
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