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Valentine's Day around the corner...
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Why need a reason to be happy/silly/loving! I think as long as you do something that you personally enjoy then you take the power away from corporations to define what happiness and celebration are! Don't give up on such wonderful things, seize them back!
Here you go, I personally don't like Valentines day/don't enjoy it. So why should I recognize it at all?? I'm able to blow off Halloween and nobody gives a ****... and if valentines day has the same significance as made up, why am I told I have to do something.
Probably because of the mentality where you'd be willing to make your girl unhappy over your desire to NOT be happy.
I think you have this wrong... it would either be me making her happy and me unhappy, or me happy and her unhappy. Not caring for Vday doesn't make me an unhappy person... that would just be an assumption that goes along with my question of why do I have to do something on VDay... it's the norm to do something not an indicator of an attitude.
I guess... there are things that I don't care about but I do for friends because they care. I went to a photography exhibit or something in San Diego with a friend because no one else would go with her. I didn't give a rip about it but she really didn't want to go by herself. So we went, laughed, I was bored a bit and while I still have no interest in it, it made her happy that I did that for her. That's kind of how I see relationships (friends, family, so's). Unless it's something that you are deeply, morally offended by, there's no reason to not be a little uncomfortable to make someone you care about happy over a small gesture.
I think we're both barking up the wrong tree. I do plenty to show I care. What I don't get is, why the hell have I been asked 30 times today what I'm doingn for Vday?? I hate that it's been turned into this obligation for me to do something, it takes any bit of special out of the equation. If I now feel forced to put on a display for Vday, is it really special??
I'm not saying you don't show you care, but all I have to work with is when you posted earlier about how you will refuse to do anything on vday and if your girl doesn't like it then too bad (I'm paraphrasing).
It's not an obligation either, it's an honest question. It's like asking someone what they're doing for the weekend. Small talk. Do you get upset when someone expects you to have a couple of days off and maybe do something fun?0 -
Why need a reason to be happy/silly/loving! I think as long as you do something that you personally enjoy then you take the power away from corporations to define what happiness and celebration are! Don't give up on such wonderful things, seize them back!
Here you go, I personally don't like Valentines day/don't enjoy it. So why should I recognize it at all?? I'm able to blow off Halloween and nobody gives a ****... and if valentines day has the same significance as made up, why am I told I have to do something.
Probably because of the mentality where you'd be willing to make your girl unhappy over your desire to NOT be happy.
I think you have this wrong... it would either be me making her happy and me unhappy, or me happy and her unhappy. Not caring for Vday doesn't make me an unhappy person... that would just be an assumption that goes along with my question of why do I have to do something on VDay... it's the norm to do something not an indicator of an attitude.
I guess... there are things that I don't care about but I do for friends because they care. I went to a photography exhibit or something in San Diego with a friend because no one else would go with her. I didn't give a rip about it but she really didn't want to go by herself. So we went, laughed, I was bored a bit and while I still have no interest in it, it made her happy that I did that for her. That's kind of how I see relationships (friends, family, so's). Unless it's something that you are deeply, morally offended by, there's no reason to not be a little uncomfortable to make someone you care about happy over a small gesture.
I think we're both barking up the wrong tree. I do plenty to show I care. What I don't get is, why the hell have I been asked 30 times today what I'm doingn for Vday?? I hate that it's been turned into this obligation for me to do something, it takes any bit of special out of the equation. If I now feel forced to put on a display for Vday, is it really special??
I'm not saying you don't show you care, but all I have to work with is when you posted earlier about how you will refuse to do anything on vday and if your girl doesn't like it then too bad (I'm paraphrasing).
It's not an obligation either, it's an honest question. It's like asking someone what they're doing for the weekend. Small talk. Do you get upset when someone expects you to have a couple of days off and maybe do something fun?
See I don't think it is small talk... I haven't heard any people in long-term relationships asked about Vday, and when I asked them they said nothing... all ladies I asked btw.
My boss however had an interesting take: She said that when you're dating over 25 (she got married at 36), you have to go all in, because people expect more and you have fewer choices. What do you all think of that, agree or disagree with her??0 -
My parents were married for 40 years and every v-day they would do something small do each other so I think it is a personal preference and it doesn't matter if someone has been dating 2 months married for years.0
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My parents were married for 40 years and every v-day they would do something small do each other so I think it is a personal preference and it doesn't matter if someone has been dating 2 months married for years.
You look prepared (your hat) for another long season. I think they report to spring training next week.0 -
See I don't think it is small talk... I haven't heard any people in long-term relationships asked about Vday, and when I asked them they said nothing... all ladies I asked btw.
My boss however had an interesting take: She said that when you're dating over 25 (she got married at 36), you have to go all in, because people expect more and you have fewer choices. What do you all think of that, agree or disagree with her??
Ah, but you asked, which is exactly what you said annoyed you so much.
I disagree with that because so far we agree on one thing - no one should be OBLIGATED to do a specific thing because society expects it (big flowers, big dinner, big chocolates, big teddy bears). I just don't see the point of refusing to do -anything- because 1) fun reason to celebrate, be happy and be creative and 2) I find it silly to oppose a holiday because it's "made up" when at the root that's true of every day.
It's fine if you don't want to do anything, especially if your SO doesn't either. I just don't get WHY people would pass up a reason to be silly and party.0 -
My parents were married for 40 years and every v-day they would do something small do each other so I think it is a personal preference and it doesn't matter if someone has been dating 2 months married for years.
You look prepared (your hat) for another long season. I think they report to spring training next week.
Pitchers and catchers reported today.0 -
The Mariners and King Felix agreed on a new "holy **** t that is a ridiculous amount of money" contract today.My parents were married for 40 years and every v-day they would do something small do each other so I think it is a personal preference and it doesn't matter if someone has been dating 2 months married for years.
You look prepared (your hat) for another long season. I think they report to spring training next week.
Pitchers and catchers reported today.0 -
My boss however had an interesting take: She said that when you're dating over 25 (she got married at 36), you have to go all in, because people expect more and you have fewer choices. What do you all think of that, agree or disagree with her??
Is she related to DM?? lol
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I just don't see the point of refusing to do -anything- because 1) fun reason to celebrate, be happy and be creative and 2) I find it silly to oppose a holiday because it's "made up" when at the root that's true of every day.
It's fine if you don't want to do anything, especially if your SO doesn't either. I just don't get WHY people would pass up a reason to be silly and party.
That is my take too. It doesnt bother me or offend me. Clintons making a fast buck on selling cards is the least of my worries in life (Ermm didnt clintons just go bust??? Hmm!). And that goes for flowers and chocolates too. You really dont have to buy anything. But any excuse to have a party - friends, lovers, alcohol, food - and I'm there!!! Woooo hoooooo!!! :drinker: :drinker:
I've been known to invent occasions just to get friends out to the pub.....like 'oh look, the sun just came out, let go for a drink' or 'I sold a big kitchen today, lets go celebrate'.....etc.....:laugh:
What do you think of Mothers/Fathers Day Ponch?? (You have those in America, right?)0 -
My first one since my separation and divorce! But, yeah... kinda not so fun when your ex already has a girlfriend.0
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My boss however had an interesting take: She said that when you're dating over 25 (she got married at 36), you have to go all in, because people expect more and you have fewer choices. What do you all think of that, agree or disagree with her??
Yeah, it's not that big of a deal to me. If I'm with someone, I'll pick up lingerie....but I do that all the time anyway. It just gives me another reason to buy more. My daughter adores Valentine's Day though...so, I do make it special for her sake. Otherwise, eh. It's another day.
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I've been known to invent occasions just to get friends out to the pub.....like 'oh look, the sun just came out, let go for a drink'
You will be an alcoholic if you ever visit San Diego hahaha!0 -
A history of St Valentine's Day...for anyone who's interested! It's not an entirely made-up holiday, though its' origins are difficult to pin down absolutely.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/valentines-day/7187784/History-of-Valentines-Day.html
And the slightly-less-cynical Wiki version:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine's_Day0 -
I've recently become fond of the color pink, and I like seeing a bunch of it in the stores.
I don't really care about Valentine's Day either way... But if it's something that the person I'm with is interested in, then I see no harm in trying to make them happy.
Plus I love baking... So I'll take any excuses to make cupcakes, cake, or cookies.0 -
Well my plan for the day is to ignore it as much as possible, don't have a problem with it due to commercialism etc, just that am always single on that day.
Will refuse to log on to facebook as ex (who is now a close friend) will probably post something about how amazing the new guy is.
Plan for me is work, gym, home, chuck on a film, and maybe eat back a few more of my exercise cals than i usually do eating a more relaxed meal. Closest will get to date or anything romantic like that is might ask my drinking/cinema/occasional gym buddy if she fancies joining me at the gym!!!0 -
I’m not going to be ba humbug about the day. I’m actually looking forward to it. Sure it’s a commercialized day, sure my ex is spending time with someone else but it gives me an excuse to treat myself. I’m going to work, gym, home and shower then to my favorite watering hole. I’m going to enjoy a fat steak and some cold beer or red wine. I haven’t made my decision on the beer or wine, hell I may have both. :drinker: Consume 1500 calories; tell myself I’m glad I went to the gym today. Go home and sleep like a baby.0
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I’m not going to be ba humbug about the day. I’m actually looking forward to it. Sure it’s a commercialized day, sure my ex is spending time with someone else but it gives me an excuse to treat myself. I’m going to work, gym, home and shower then to my favorite watering hole. I’m going to enjoy a fat steak and some cold beer or red wine. I haven’t made my decision on the beer or wine, hell I may have both. :drinker: Consume 1500 calories; tell myself I’m glad I went to the gym today. Go home and sleep like a baby.
lol perfect! :bigsmile:0 -
The Mariners and King Felix agreed on a new "holy **** t that is a ridiculous amount of money" contract today.My parents were married for 40 years and every v-day they would do something small do each other so I think it is a personal preference and it doesn't matter if someone has been dating 2 months married for years.
You look prepared (your hat) for another long season. I think they report to spring training next week.
Pitchers and catchers reported today.
He's good and young... if they didn't pay him the Yankees, sox, or phillies would have.0 -
My first one since my separation and divorce and my ex already has a new wife! But you know what, I don't really care. I'm gonna do what I do every Thursday. I'll go to work, come home grab a quick bite to eat, head out to kickboxing class and then afterwards come home shower and relax with a Wood Chuck and watch The Big Bang Theory. It's just another day and I will survive because I would rather be alone than with someone who sucked the life out of me like my ex did (I just never realized it when we were together).0
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It's just another day and I will survive because I would rather be alone than with someone who sucked the life out of me like my ex did (I just never realized it when we were together).
Amen sista!! :flowerforyou:0
