I e-mailed this cougar on Match a few months back.. no response.

I join a new gym closer to my house and I see that same no response Match MILF at the gym every Saturday and Sunday morning. She's like clockwork first thing in the AM, right when I go.

Weird thing is.. she stares at me while I'm deadlifting and squating (I catch her in the mirror). Doesn't really smile at me, just stares with these cold beady "shark eyes". :indifferent:

Guaranteed I'll see her this Saturday so I'm going to strike up a convo. She doesn't look like much of a conversationalist.. might get awkward quickly.

I e-mailed this cougar on Match a few months back.. no response.

I join a new gym closer to my house and I see that same no response Match MILF at the gym every Saturday and Sunday morning. She's like clockwork first thing in the AM, right when I go.

Weird thing is.. she stares at me while I'm deadlifting and squating (I catch her in the mirror). Doesn't really smile at me, just stares with these cold beady "shark eyes". :indifferent:

Guaranteed I'll see her this Saturday so I'm going to strike up a convo. She doesn't look like much of a conversationalist.. might get awkward quickly.

I'm ambivalent on this one Mike. It doesn't seem like she wants you. If she wanted you, you'd be getting better body language. I like warm, open and inviting body language.

But hey, at least she's not wearing ear buds (or so it seems). Most females at the gym I go to wear them to be anti social.

Fitness classes are a better way because it is more difficult for women to use technology to avoid men. You can't really wear the ear buds because you have to listen to the instructor.

Seconding this. I stare all the time at the gym especially at people lifting (and if they're huffing or grunting they get the evil eye). It doesn't mean I want them.

See I think this girl is just begging me to go over and talk to her. :laugh:

I'm going to give it a shot. I see her always doing abs and planks, so I can open up the conversation and give her some pointers on that. I'll move the conversation to what she did for new years and sprinkle in some humor about the "new years resolution" crowd. I'll ask for her number after 10 minutes or so.. then call her 5 days later.

Nah man, the no call 5 days later thing is best for a woman closer to your age. With this 40 something cougar, you want to close it sooner. If she's open to your flirtatiousness, why not go from the gym to elsewhere and possibly invite her back to your place?

See I think this girl is just begging me to go over and talk to her. :laugh:

I'm going to give it a shot. I see her always doing abs and planks, so I can open up the conversation and give her some pointers on that. I'll move the conversation to what she did for new years and sprinkle in some humor about the "new years resolution" crowd. I'll ask for her number after 10 minutes or so.. then call her 5 days later.

Nah man, the no call 5 days later thing is best for a woman closer to your age. With this 40 something cougar, you want to close it sooner. If she's open to your flirtatiousness, why not go from the gym to elsewhere and possibly invite her back to your place?

And for the love of God.... Don't give her "pointers" on how to work her abs.

It's a small talk conversation starter. I don't give a hoot about her plank form, it's just something to spur on a conversation that will lead to better topics.

How would *you* liked to be approached at a gym?

Sam, I think they're kidding, haha!

I receive an OK Cupid message saying she had seen me at the gym. I rePlied saying she should say hello Next time she sees me. A few days later I saw her walking court side and I approached her. She waved me off and then ignored me. That evening she sent me another message apologizing and saying she didn't want to be seen at gym talking to any guys.

I replied saying if she couldn't speak to me in public then I wasn't interested. Made it seem like she was trying to hide something.

She should prolly choose a different gym than her husband then lol.

Ive noticed that some guys are embarassed to admit they use a dating website in real life but yet they chat it up online. Just makes the online thomg more of a joke to me. So frustrating.

So youre in a bar/resturaunt, and you walk up to this guy and start a conversation asking about his daughter and and how she's excited about dance classes she got to do this year.
He converses with you back that she's enjoying them gets a puzzled as hell look on his face :huh: and then he asks......

"Who the hell are you and how did you know about my daughter?"

Response: Plentyoffish, do you not remember our conversation a week or so ago? :flowerforyou:

THATS WHEN YOU KNOW YOU LIVE IN A SMALL TOWN!!!!!! :noway:

I know I freak people out when I do that....but I think it's sooooooo funny. :laugh:

I have yet to continue a conversation and hit it off with anyone....I think my approach is a little off.

Maybe if you do approach someone from online dating you should start with that as your openner and not dive right into their personal life.

But hey, at least she's not wearing ear buds (or so it seems). Most females at the gym I go to wear them to be anti social.

But hey, at least she's not wearing ear buds (or so it seems). Most females at the gym I go to wear them to be anti social.

I wear them because I hate the gym music!

But hey, at least she's not wearing ear buds (or so it seems). Most females at the gym I go to wear them to be anti social.

I wear them because I hate the gym music!

Everybody hates gym music. Unfortunately, the ear plugs are the universal sign that someone doesn't want to converse. They want to do their workout and bail.

That is an out dated concept. If you see someone with ear buds, try and make eye contact and smile. If they smile and make eye contact back go ahead and talk to them if they look inviting. I barely ever see anyone at the gym without ear buds but most people are open to talk to others.