MADE FUN OF MYSELF B4 THEY COULD

MeIShouldB
MeIShouldB Posts: 578 Member
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Yep, I was THAT girl. You know, the one who would make jokes about herself being fat and laugh awkwardly because she was trying to beat everyone else to it. But, now I'm actually the girl that is so used to being fat that I don't know what to say when people tell me how good I look and point out my weightloss. I think (though I'm not yet at my goal) that I still have the "fat girl" mind frame. I am still waiting for my mind to adjust to my body. It will be awhile since my body isn't finished being reconstructed yet LOL.

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  • Tony_Brewski
    Tony_Brewski Posts: 1,376 Member
    Heck I still make fun of myself for being fat. It's not easy. I was nearing 260lbs I look in the mirror and I still see that guy. I think I always will. I hear compliments and think in the back of my head "Oh they are just being nice I know I'm really not". We live with that stigma of being fat for so long that we have to retrain our brain to match our new bodies. I don't think I'll ever truly get there. Which for me could be a good thing because I am too competitive as it is.
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    you may have beat them to it, but how do you know they would have said anything in the first place....

    now you're rewired your brain to be dismissive of your body and all comments/compliments about it...

    i know....i was there....

    it'll take time to rewire things back to where you know how to take a compliment.

    just be patient...and remember to smile and thank them.
  • CapnGordo
    CapnGordo Posts: 327
    IM NOT FAT IM FLUFFY LOLZ !!!
  • x311Tifa
    x311Tifa Posts: 357 Member
    Is it bad that I immediately think of the movie, Pitch Perfect, where the character Fat Amy has everyone address her as such so "skinny b*tches like you can't say it behind my back now." Or something like that. Paraphrasing since I can't quote exactly.

    And ya.. I do that a LOT. Unfortunately, I am very open about being the "big girl" now, since that's what my body is to me.
  • sperocras
    sperocras Posts: 60 Member
    I'm that girl too. Now, I have people commenting on my weight loss almost daily, and I've found I have no idea how to respond to positive feedback. It's kind of freaking me out.
    Plus, although I know my scale and my clothes are clearly demonstrating that I've lost rather a lot of weight (with still plenty more to go), when I look in the mirror, I just don't see it. I'm worried I have some kind of body image problem. Stupid brain.
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
    I'm that girl too. Now, I have people commenting on my weight loss almost daily, and I've found I have no idea how to respond to positive feedback. It's kind of freaking me out.
    Plus, although I know my scale and my clothes are clearly demonstrating that I've lost rather a lot of weight (with still plenty more to go), when I look in the mirror, I just don't see it. I'm worried I have some kind of body image problem. Stupid brain.

    I just smile and say "thanx, I'm trying my best" ...and change the subject.
  • MeIShouldB
    MeIShouldB Posts: 578 Member
    I think, to a degree, everyone has body image issues. I lived next door to a skinny girl who was openly jealous of big girls. We all have to work on this and help each other. Our minds are going to take twice as much wok as our bodies.
  • chunkydunk714
    chunkydunk714 Posts: 784 Member
    Im totally that girl.... tryin to change that.

    Its hard.

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