Crying today..... Advice needed. So sad!

Sadly i suggest putting her down before she is in too much pain, do the treatment untill you fell it is time spend time with her and explain to your daughter that it is time to start letting her go. we had to take our 13 yr old blue healer in after he got bone cancer he had good days that looked like nothing was wrong other than the swelling in the leg but to see him on his bad days broke the kids hearts.

I'm so sorry

I have 2 girlfriends who just lost her dogs to lymphoma, they were both amazing... their names were Matrix and Daisy - both pittie mixes. My one girlfirend did do treatments on Matrix and it had gone away but she went into remission ( I think that's what it's called? ) and it came back more aggressively after 2 months.

She explained to me that if you do treatments, it can prolong their life, but it will come back more aggressively everytime. It's aweful.

Daisy, I'm not sure what happened. I feel puky thinking about it.

I have another girlfriend that had her dog Rocky and he lived for about 2 months after he was diagnosed but he was really sick. She finally had to say goodbye because he wasn't able to control himself any longer in the apartment.

I was told if they are not suffering, let them live as long as they can. If they are suffering, you know what to do. I just had to put my angel to rest back in March so this really hits home for me. She didn't have cancer. I didn't know what she had until the autopsy was completed. It was the most devestating thing I've ever had to do. It's hard, but it does get easier as the days go by.

I wish you and your family ALL THE BEST and I'm SO SORRY! :frown:

That is such a difficult situation to be in, I just had a friend who had to put her dog down due to cancer. We have a dog too, I could not fathem how difficult it will be when something like that comes up for him. We have had him since he was 4 weeks old and he is now 10. I miss him when he goes with my boys camping, the little noises that he makes and how excited he gets when we come home. Thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family and pup during this difficult time.

So yesterday my dog was diagnosed with having cancer of the lymph nodes. The vet is 99% sure she has lymphoma, but took some slides of the inside of the tumors to send away anyway. Husband and I were gone for 2 weeks in Germany and Ireland and when we got back we noticed all her lymph nodes were swollen. Now she's vomiting and not eating. She is a 12 year old German shorthaired pointer. We got her when she was 7 weeks old. Not sure yet if chemo will help her or not. We need to talk to an oncologist to see if chemo is worth it for only a few more months. My 7 year old daughter is not taking this well and woke me up 3 times last night crying.

So now I'm crying just thinking about life without our beloved doggie. We will miss her so much.

Sorry, just needed to vent.

Lisa

Lisa, vent all you want. I am so very sorry this has happened, my heart goes out to you all.

xxx

I am so sorry to hear this.

2 years ago my dog Jack was diagnosed with lymphoma. He had been sick on and off for 6 months but did not show the classic signs of cancer so it was not until the vet finally did a blood test to see because he was dumbfounded as to why jack was sick, that we finally got the diagnosis. It has spread to his organs as well.

It was stage 4 and while Chemo was an option, the outcome was not good. I spent the rest of my time with him letting him know how much he was loved and saying my final goodbyes. 8 days later I had to let him cross the rainbow bridge because the pain was obvious and his stool had turned red from the blood. It was the hardest decision I had to ever make and quite honestly, I am still not ready to let another dog in my heart.

Now that you have the diagnosis, the decision to do Chemo is yours but for a 12 year old dog, its hard to decide. Chemo is expensive. Maybe the time could be better spent letting him be a dog and saying goodbye but dont prolong it. Dogs can and do cry, its a sign of pain. Once you notice the pain, let him go.

This post made me cry. Almost identical experience with my dog.....

Awwwww, I'm sorry hun. I had this happen, too, with my 13 year old lab a couple of years ago. It's a personal decision on what you decide; however, we decided that chemo was not the best choice for him and us just to prolong his life when it most likely would be painful for him the entire time. We made him comfortable the last month and 1/2 of his life and when it was time we knew it.

It is VERY, very hard. Just love them while they are here.

Out of the mouth of a 4 year old:
"Everybody is born so that they can learn how to live a good life -- like loving everybody and being nice, right?" The four-year-old continued, "Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don't have to stay as long."

::hugs:: dogs can be just like family. My brother sent $15000 to teat his doggie daughter to have her pass anyways. Surgery and treatment is a difficult choice (especially w older individual) be they two or four legged...

I hate hate hate this Our pets are our children. I would hate for you to spend lots of money when it most likely means less quality of life. I think it's time to make plans to say goodbye You don't want her to suffer

I am sorry to hear that, I lost my first Labrador in 2007 from Lymphoma, just like you, he was just shy of 12 years old and we had him since he was 10 weeks old. He died just 3 weeks after his lymph nodes starting swelling. The cancer spread so fast and in just 3 weeks, he could no longer breathe normal, high doses of steroids did nothing to slow the growth.

Like others have said, extending their life is to benefit you, not them, but when they can't breath, it isn't right for them as they are in constant pain. The best thing that can be done is to ease their pain and suffering even though you don't want to let them go.

The pain of their loss will never go away, but neither will the memories of the 12 wonderful years you had either... It has been 6 years for me, and just typing this is making me cry here at work as if it was just happening all over again.

Enjoy them while you can, but in the end, just cherish them and do what is right for them.

Good luck, it is never easy.. but an unfortunate part of life....

So sad sorry:frown: