So Bummed

akaMrsmojo · April 2011

So I went to college for Public Relations at the University of Florida. Since I got out , there has not been one job out there for me. I did really well in school and had a high grade point average.

I gave up and just went on with my life and I fixed me. I lost weight, I focused on the only things in life I could control.

Two and a half weeks ago, I had a job interview with the local power company for an entry level PR job. I was so happy but did not want to get my hopes up. I did well and got a second interview. It was a group interview with a panel of four people and I was so nervous. The head of the department told me I did great and hopefully they would call me soon. I was on top of the world.

I just got an email that they choose someone else. I am so incredibly bummed, I want to buy a bag of chocolate and a bottle of wine and go over on my calories for today.

You know you buy into the American dream and do what you are suppose to but does not seem to matter. Not in this day and age at least.

lisy28 · April 2011

Dont be bummed there is something great out there waiting for you!

I agree with the wine heheh sit back enjoy a glass or 2 leave out the chocolate and u never know you might still be under your calories!

Good Luck and dont give up!

lindalee0315 · April 2011

I am so sorry. I understand the disappointment. I could insert a platitude here, but I won't. It's a horribly tough job market and it speaks volumes for you that you got two interviews, given that the competition is fierce out there.

AggieCass09 · April 2011

I'm so sorry that you weren't selected for the job, I know how excited you were about it. However, eating chocolate and drinking wine will not make the company change their mind and will only make you feel crappy later. I was unemployed right after I graduated too and I know how frustrating it feels. YOU feel like something is wrong with you, even though its really the economy. Something will come up for you, I'm certain of it. Maybe you can follow up with that company and ask them if they had tips for your next interview or if they have other contacts you can try networking with. I ended up finding my job by doing a google search on the title I wanted...you just have to keep searching for a job in all possible places (careerbuilder.com, monster.com, google jobs, yahoo jobs, linkedin.com, etc) and one will come up. You are a fabulous, smart, and strong woman and I'm confident you will find a wonderful job very soon!

Please hang in there, you are in my thoughts.

~Cass

JLPearce12 · April 2011

So sorry....don't give up!!

jacquejl · April 2011

For every closed door, a better opportunity presents itself! A professor once told me that and so far it's proven to be true. Your dream job awaits, this just wasn't it. I'm sorry :flowerforyou:

Cheer up and keep your eyes open for the next opportunity

Bella1hud · April 2011

We'll pray that an even better opportunity comes your way!

keepsiejess · April 2011

listen buddy. it is not your fault. you have done all that you could to get that job and you are going to keep plugging away at it. It is sad to say but its true: the american dream is a myth. but you can and will get work that you are good at and enjoy. You dont know what that job was really like, and I have found that sometimes you get something better than what you thought you wanted.

I suggest you go get that chocolate (I suggest green and blacks maya gold- whole foods or any other hippie store will have it) and get that wine (invite a buddy). and go over those cals by a couple hundred if you have to. you are entitled to wallow. just make sure you get up tomorrow and do your thing, cause you have come real far with your fitness. you can afford the luxury of needing to drown in the sorrows of a tiny dream lost. The key to it will be getting back on that horse and giddy-up, homes!

Onesnap · April 2011

1. Check out free networking events in your area and start using LinkedIn for job searching if you are not already (you can contact the job poster/hiring manager directly--even call them to follow-up on your resume).
2. Take the non-traditional approach (see above).
3. I had to switch industries 1 year ago after a layoff (I spent 14 years in high tech and switched to insurance)
4. Don't be afraid of #1, networking can be fun. I go to one in my area called Mass Innovation Nights (where new companies launch each month). It's amazing. I also like the Downtown Women's Club (look for a chapter in your area).
5. In this economy you have to do something different. I was 1 of 100 candidates for my job. What I did was contract/freelance work while I looked and it helped me interview better--I had no resume gap!
6. Visit your career center from your former college. You can use their services for free for LIFE

Good luck, it's not easy. I was laid off from my dream job in January 2010 due to budget cuts. And I had two mortgages to pay! No fun.

JPod279 · April 2011

Everyone has a ton of things in life that happen to them that seem like bad things. However, everything that happens leads us to our next place. I wound up taking a job in insurance and my degree is in criminal justice. Not what I wanted, but it is dang near recession proof since people have to have insurance and claims have to be handled. That led me down a path I thought I would have never have been on. I had some more things happen that seemed bad at the time, the main one being I was nearly killed in 1999. I had 3 more near death experiences after that due to complications from the original injury. All of that delayed my wife and I starting a family but it eventually led us to our twin girls. Had all the things not happened we would not be where we are today and we might not appreciate what we have. It was a horrible day for me when I almosted died but I am still here and I have a wonderful family. Don't go for the chocolate. Get on a treadmill, eliptical, etc.... and take out your frustrations that way.

JMJohnson1005 · April 2011

Sorry to hear you didn't get the job, it just means that God has something better planned for you. Keep your head up and stay focused!

daniran · April 2011

I'd probably indulge myself with wine too. But don't be down on yourself. You've done all you can do. There definitely is something better out there for you. Think positively - the more interviews you go on the better you'll get at the questions, reading body language, and just plain sharpening your pr skills for you. That's it! Approach it as if you are your new client. I wish you all the best and pray that you open the right door soon!

akaMrsmojo · April 2011

Thanks for all your support.

I am on Linkedin and use it constantly. I have a job but it does not pay the bills or for the massive student loans I gained getting my BS and Masters. I am fortunate to have a job but man this was my dream job. I wanted to at least try public relations and see if I liked it. If I hated it, I could move on.

The thing is my husband has been in radio for 15 years and we have bounced our family from town to town and house to house. I wanted this position because I could pay my loans and get on a track to have a home. We lost our apartment in a fire, lost his car in an accident, and two family members to cancer. I keep picking myself up and going but damn.

I know I am on a pity party right now. I know that you are right, I may have hated it or something better is on the horizon. But man I could really see me working there and being happy. Thanks for letting me whine a little. I love my MFP's family.

Good news, in my past I would bought a big bottle of coke and snickers bar and gained a pound or two.

This time I had three hershey kisses with coconut and nothing else. The wine is still on tap for tonight.

I am just so over the bad stuff but I know it makes me the person I am.

sam363 · April 2011

I know your bummed. I too was just turned down yesterday for a job that I really want. Thankfully mine was over the phone and I was able to ask "Why not me?" It came down to more experience and the recruiter gave me suggestions on where I could get more experience to be considered the next time. Is there a way that you could e-mail back thanking them for their time and asking for feedback as to what you could have done better? suggestions that would make you a better interviewee?

This was just practice for the your next gig. Think of the great things that you have. Don't be discouraged because something better is coming your way, it's just hard waiting for it that's all.

edithreynolds · April 2011

charity i am so proud of the person you have be come you have worked so hard with school your waight hang in there and it will pay off love mom

broadsword7 · April 2011

I understand how you feel. I have had similar situations where I have interviewed well and then gotten passed up for the job. But in each situation like that, I look back and think, wow, I am SO glad that they didn't hire me, because I ended up in much better positions! Don't give up and don't beat yourself up. You have the right attitude on taking control of your body and your health. Keep it up because everything else pales in comparison. Keep going! The right job will come!

kateanne27 · April 2011

2.5 degrees and I work at an unethically run subway at the moment :P Jobs are scarce right now and being well qualified just means you deserve to be paid more, some companies aren't down with that.
I cried for two days when the job I was sure I was going to get and finally have a job I enjoyed and would use my skills I didn't get, and was not called back after 3 interviews, and my own calls were not returned, I found out through the grapevine that they wanted someone they could pay minimum wage, so the supervisor hired her cousin :P
I hope your search gets better

logicalloss · April 2011

I'm sorry you didn't get the job. Just means God has better things planned. One of the things I started carrying in my car were blank thank you cards that I got at Target. When I left an interview I would send a card to whoever interviewed me thanking them for the interview, and made sure to put something in the card that mentions something we talked about. Its a little thing, but a lot of people don't do this. Then mail it on the way home from the interview. Chin up. Remember you increase you chances of getting hired, and getting future raises by being in shape.

akaMrsmojo · April 2011

I want to thank everyone again, I am much better today. I did fall off the wagon and have a snickers.

I feel much about my future, I just needed my pity party. I know it is hard out there and I know I am not alone. It is just a tough market.

I blame myself for not going to college until I was 26 and waiting. I know we have our own paths but I have faith that this will lead to bigger and better things. I was offered a different job in marketing at a small company. The pay is not great but there is room for growth. So I made peace with it.

I think in reality, I know this was not my path but man the rejection hurts.

So Bummed

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