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Been Judged By Your Appearance?



  • futuresize8futuresize8 Member Posts: 477 Member Member Posts: 477 Member
    Long ago, I sold fine jewelry for a living. A big, burly fellow came in with a coat made of some kind of rugged fur, a bushy beard, a weathered leather hat and he looked pretty rough. None of my sales team made a move to help him. I jumped right in and welcomed him, talked to him for a little bit, learned about what he was after, and discovered that he'd just won a huge chunk of change at the casino in the next state. He was looking to commemorate his win so I sold him a giant - GIANT - men's diamond ring. Which he paid thousands in cash for. I was the store manager so no commission for me, but man, were my commissioned sales folks kicking themselves! What was our Saturday morning training session about that following weekend? Not judging people! It's necessary to watch for the twitchy indications of a shoplifter or diamond-switcher, but something else altogether to avoid serving someone for not looking like you think they should!
  • pie_eyespie_eyes Member Posts: 13,148 Member Member Posts: 13,148 Member
  • NKChicagoNKChicago Member Posts: 2 Member Member Posts: 2 Member
    I believe that appearance matters. I'm not saying that it should, but I think of myself as a realist and in my experience, looks are valued.

    The funniest time I was judged on my appearance: I was doing some freelance work as a merchandiser in my mid-20s and was setting up a front window display for a local boutique. I was wearing a vintage-style hoodie with heavily distressed designer jeans. Afterwards, I was sitting in a courtyard area adjacent to the boutique sipping on a bubble tea latte... when an older gentleman started talking to me and told me that his church has resources to help homeless teenagers like myself.

    Yep, this stranger came up to me and told me I looked like a teenage runaway.

    And, my husband just reminded me of the time one of our neighbors asked me if I was our dog's dog walker. THAT was hella awkward.
  • dozensofthreadsdozensofthreads Member, Premium Posts: 140 Member Member, Premium Posts: 140 Member
    tzkully wrote: »
    Oh yeah, try being a man with a slightly darker complexion and a beard and going to the airport.

    I can't imagine how awful that has to be.
  • chevelle_9903chevelle_9903 Member Posts: 630 Member Member Posts: 630 Member
    More times than I care to admit!
  • motterottermotterotter Member Posts: 705 Member Member Posts: 705 Member
    Not really no most people think i am skinnier than i am because i camouflage my weight well and walk fast
  • salembambisalembambi Member Posts: 5,654 Member Member Posts: 5,654 Member
    ummm i get stared at quite a lot

    and of course i get judged based on my appearance everyone does
  • yusaku02yusaku02 Member Posts: 3,491 Member Member Posts: 3,491 Member
    tzkully wrote: »
    Oh yeah, try being a man with a slightly darker complexion and a beard and going to the airport.

    Sir, you've been randomly selected...
  • ThatFatAsianNerdThatFatAsianNerd Member Posts: 1,430 Member Member Posts: 1,430 Member
    Apparently I look like some "Narco 'DIA'" guy according to the guy at the gas station today.

    Like I'm carrying a gun or wearing some sort of vest under my sweater.

    What's "DIA" dude?
  • _whatsherface_whatsherface Member Posts: 1,243 Member Member Posts: 1,243 Member
    I've been judged. I mean, all the time when I was growing up. I went through a lot of "looks" per say when trying to find myself. Now, there is something about my look that deems me "unapproachable" as I've been told from a few people. It could just be my RBF. Who knows. Lol.
  • MJFSHMJFSH Member Posts: 7,211 Member Member Posts: 7,211 Member
    Almost 20 years ago, I was called a ma'm, wherever I went, because of the extra weight and I guess not paying much attention to myself, since I was a busy mom, running after two kids
    And now, I'm never called ma'm, it's Miss Or bella or senorita. I call it aging in reverse
  • 00EmilyJo0000EmilyJo00 Member Posts: 65 Member Member Posts: 65 Member
    Unfortunately I think everyone does to some extent :/
  • PalePocahontasPalePocahontas Member Posts: 1,136 Member Member Posts: 1,136 Member
    I get told I look old fashioned sometimes. Kids used to pick out my flaws at school because I wasn't super thin like the rest and I have small ears.. Kids are idiots
  • PalePocahontasPalePocahontas Member Posts: 1,136 Member Member Posts: 1,136 Member
    And I also got made fun off a lot for being pale at school but now I've learnt to love my skin! Screw what others say I'm me!!!
  • WeekendWarriorTXWeekendWarriorTX Member Posts: 1,857 Member Member Posts: 1,857 Member
    I have to answer the question "did you play basketball?" on a monthly basis
  • csuharcsuhar Member Posts: 782 Member Member Posts: 782 Member
    It's not quite as dramatic, but as a 6'2", fairly broadly built 230-pounder, people keep asking me what position I played in high school. Then they get this really funny look when I tell them "I switched back and forth between bari and first alto".

    Before that, when I was in middle school and not quite as big but still big for my age, one of my classmate's mothers remarked to my mother (perhaps unknowingly) that "the big ones usually aren't that smart". That made it feel unusually satisfying when I would keep pace with and, at times, outpace her kid in the classroom. Most of the time, I don't care about stuff like that. But when she said that to my mom, it was game on.
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