Please stop feeding my child junk!!
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Your child, your rules. If people you are trusting to care for your child don't follow those rules, then find someone else. You are allowed to tell someone - even family - no. My little girl has a severe dairy allergy...even the slightest amount triggers anaphylaxis...and it's in a TON of stuff...so my husband and I are very serious with no means no. Great grandma was dying to give her some chocolate pudding, but you are in charge of your childs' well being. Not others. If you don't want them feeding your kid junk, don't let them. It's really quite simple.4
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Your daughter probably gonna hate eating healthy when she's grown if she's deprive from junk food all her childhood life
My n=1 reflects the opposite - I was "deprived" of junk as a child and it made it really easy for me to return to healthy eating. I believe it positively affected my taste buds as well.8 -
chunky_pinup wrote: »Your child, your rules. If people you are trusting to care for your child don't follow those rules, then find someone else. You are allowed to tell someone - even family - no. My little girl has a severe dairy allergy...even the slightest amount triggers anaphylaxis...and it's in a TON of stuff...so my husband and I are very serious with no means no. Great grandma was dying to give her some chocolate pudding, but you are in charge of your childs' well being. Not others. If you don't want them feeding your kid junk, don't let them. It's really quite simple.
Not the same situation IMHO1 -
SarcasmIsMyLoveLanguage wrote: »chunky_pinup wrote: »Your child, your rules. If people you are trusting to care for your child don't follow those rules, then find someone else. You are allowed to tell someone - even family - no. My little girl has a severe dairy allergy...even the slightest amount triggers anaphylaxis...and it's in a TON of stuff...so my husband and I are very serious with no means no. Great grandma was dying to give her some chocolate pudding, but you are in charge of your childs' well being. Not others. If you don't want them feeding your kid junk, don't let them. It's really quite simple.
Not the same situation IMHO
No means no. It's not situational. No = no. If you don't want someone feeding your child something, it's your job as the parent to ensure that.8 -
OP just took a look at your profile, and I am a bit confused.
You have a lot of weight to lose, so there is something wrong with what you all have been eating as a family, at least in the past, and the problem is not the occasional treat your kid gets from others. It is also surprisign your own diary contains daily treats, including the ones you do not want your kid to eat? Not saying that treats are bad, but when it comes to kids, lead by example. Learning good habits at home will not be undone by eating a cookie at school.14 -
First child. Ha ha ha ha ha! You'll soon get it.8
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kshama2001 wrote: »Your daughter probably gonna hate eating healthy when she's grown if she's deprive from junk food all her childhood life
My n=1 reflects the opposite - I was "deprived" of junk as a child and it made it really easy for me to return to healthy eating. I believe it positively affected my taste buds as well.
That was my experience as well. The reasons might be different (we didn't have the money to eat junk food regularly) but growing up eating proper meals made it easy and familiar to go back to eating a healthful diet. Being "forced" to eat healthy made me appreciate and enjoy those foods, not hate them.
Good for you @mell4now for limiting the junk - your daughter will appreciate it when she's older.
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I think you may be looking at this wrong. Your daughter will spend a lifetime exposed to junk food. This is a perfect opportunity to teach her the word "no" and how she can apply it to her own life. If you don't start now (experience speaking here, I've raised three to adulthood) by the time she gets into school she will eat the worst crap ever. Some schools even have vending machines. Even if you homeschool like I did, she will be exposed because you can't control her entire environment every moment of every day. You don't say how old she is, but starting about age two her favorite word is (or was) "NO!" anyway. Good time to begin teaching her WHEN to say no and why!1
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Aside from being the enforcer of tough consequences, "letting go" is one of the hardest parts of parenting. Especially when it stems from fear regarding your child's well-being....and what parent doesnt have that?
But over-bearing controlling parents make it tough on their little ones though. All we want to do is our best- and do right by them.
Im 32 and still have to put my hand up and remind my sweet mother that Im an adult.
(She gives them Icees and a donut after school on occasion- totally ruins their appetite when she does that- so that night they eat plain cheerios/milk for dinner and go to bed happy- as do I.)
I pick my battles-and with 3 kids there are plenty to choose from!4 -
AlabasterVerve wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »Your daughter probably gonna hate eating healthy when she's grown if she's deprive from junk food all her childhood life
My n=1 reflects the opposite - I was "deprived" of junk as a child and it made it really easy for me to return to healthy eating. I believe it positively affected my taste buds as well.
That was my experience as well. The reasons might be different (we didn't have the money to eat junk food regularly) but growing up eating proper meals made it easy and familiar to go back to eating a healthful diet. Being "forced" to eat healthy made me appreciate and enjoy those foods, not hate them.
Good for you @mell4now for limiting the junk - your daughter will appreciate it when she's older.
There's a big difference between "I ate healthy meals at home" and "I was shielded so much from treats that when every other child in my daycare program was eating an Oreo I was given a granola bar."
You can eat a healthy diet at home, learn how to eat properly, and still have an Oreo at snacktime after school every few days.3 -
Diabetes, heart attack, hypertension obesity and other diet related illnesses run in mine and my husbands family, so ever since my daughter started solid foods, I've been feeding her predominantly balanced and healthy food choices. Her diet includes lots of fresh fruits, veggies, cheeses, eggs, nuts, seeds, beans, yogurts whole grain bread/pasta/cereals I give her a mix of both lean and fatty cuts of meats because children NEED a certain percentage of animal fats in their diets. For beverages either whole milk, or home/made vegetable smoothies. She gets the occasional cookie or cracker every now and then, and we let her eat whatever she wants at birthday parties, holidays and special events. We might even go out for ice cream once every few weeks or so, but it is not an every day occurence The problem we are having is that whenever she is someone else's care or around other people despite having her own food people offer her JUNK! They know she loves to eat a banana dipped in peanut butter or a cup of yogurt with some raspberries and would intentionally give her a bag of cheese curls or a plate of cookies instead! She has a nice whole grain honey-oat cereal but has been given a commercial sugar-loaded bowl of junk. Of course after eating junk food for a day she has a bit of resistance when returning home and is offered a healthy dinner. I just don't understand why it gives people so much pleasure to feed my child junk food when she is accustomed to and LIKES her healthy eats?!? I recently interviewed a potential child care provider for when I return to work full-time and even after I just got done explaining to her that I like my daughter to eat healthy, she waved a cookie in my daughters face and asked if ok to give my daughter an Oreo along with the other kids...I thought it was a joke!! But absolutely nothing I said sunk in. I kindly said (as I pulled it out of the diaper bag) "I'd rather her have this whole grain snack bar instead"
Any tips on how to politely and effectively suggest that certain people stop doping up my kid on the junk food, or at least limit it?!
Unless you use an in-home care provider or a personal nanny in your own home or luck out and find a daycare that will actually let you bring your food in for your own child each day then unfortunately they will be eating whatever they are served at the center you put her in. You just have to flat out tell someone how to feed your child once you hire someone (if you are allowed to use your own food), make a list if you have to. But keep in mind that if you choose a center that prepares their own meals it will all be canned, processed and frozen foods just like they serve in most school cafeterias.1 -
I'm not a mama, but I am an auntie. I love my babies and often feel like a second mother to them. They are the lights in my life. That said, as an aunt and NOT a mother, I am guilty of what you and other mamas are trying to avoid (GOOD FOR YOU). Why is this? Because those are my babies and I want to give them whatever they want. It is that simple. We are really, really bad at saying NO. We love the adoring looks and best buddy friendship we have with them and deep down, we're afraid of them getting pissed at us and not wanting another sleepover in 3 weeks. My ego can't handle that! Why? 'Cause I'm not a mom.
But quite honestly, as long as my brother tells me "knock that *kitten* off," I will. I won't do it anymore. They are his kids. His. Not mine. Even if I have to deal with them being angry with me, I adhere to his and his wife's rules now. I respect my brother's parenting even if I want to slip the kid a cookie under the dinner table. I try my best to obey now, even under my roof (except I will always slack a bit and allow an extra 5 minutes of TV time =P )
Get STERN with them. Even if they get mad at you. Demand respect because YOU are the parent.4 -
Your daughter probably gonna hate eating healthy when she's grown if she's deprive from junk food all her childhood life
She didn't say she deprived her daughter of anything. She said she gives her occasional treats. And there was such a time when processed foods didn't exist and people lived off the land they lived on and the animals on their land. Sugar can be found in fruits. Anything processed isn't good for us. I limited my kids from drinking sodas from a young age and saved them from having cavities like most kids they knew and helped them have stronger bones by drinking more milk and water. It's a personal choice for people.
A child will hardly suffer in their adult life because they weren't given oreos and sodas on a daily basis, lol. That's a first world problem for sure. I'm sure in some countries there are children that would love to just get a bite of bread or drink of water on a daily basis. This mother is merely trying to raise her child to make the best choices possible when it comes to food.3 -
AlabasterVerve wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »Your daughter probably gonna hate eating healthy when she's grown if she's deprive from junk food all her childhood life
My n=1 reflects the opposite - I was "deprived" of junk as a child and it made it really easy for me to return to healthy eating. I believe it positively affected my taste buds as well.
That was my experience as well. The reasons might be different (we didn't have the money to eat junk food regularly) but growing up eating proper meals made it easy and familiar to go back to eating a healthful diet. Being "forced" to eat healthy made me appreciate and enjoy those foods, not hate them.
Good for you @mell4now for limiting the junk - your daughter will appreciate it when she's older.
There's a big difference between "I ate healthy meals at home" and "I was shielded so much from treats that when every other child in my daycare program was eating an Oreo I was given a granola bar."
You can eat a healthy diet at home, learn how to eat properly, and still have an Oreo at snacktime after school every few days.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with the OP's view on junk food. Here's her stance again:
"She gets the occasional cookie or cracker every now and then, and we let her eat whatever she wants at birthday parties, holidays and special events. We might even go out for ice cream once every few weeks or so, but it is not an every day occurence"
That so many people think that's an unrealistic expectation or makes her some sort of overzealous new parent speaks volumes... just not about the OP.9 -
if it was my child and someone didn't respect my wishes they wouldn't see my child again until they did. It's pretty simple in my mind. I've dealt with these types of issues before not only for my step son, but foster children that were under my care. (strict dietary guidelines and people not following them, I didn't enforce a diet on a foster child before you accuse me of being crazy)1
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AlabasterVerve wrote: »AlabasterVerve wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »Your daughter probably gonna hate eating healthy when she's grown if she's deprive from junk food all her childhood life
My n=1 reflects the opposite - I was "deprived" of junk as a child and it made it really easy for me to return to healthy eating. I believe it positively affected my taste buds as well.
That was my experience as well. The reasons might be different (we didn't have the money to eat junk food regularly) but growing up eating proper meals made it easy and familiar to go back to eating a healthful diet. Being "forced" to eat healthy made me appreciate and enjoy those foods, not hate them.
Good for you @mell4now for limiting the junk - your daughter will appreciate it when she's older.
There's a big difference between "I ate healthy meals at home" and "I was shielded so much from treats that when every other child in my daycare program was eating an Oreo I was given a granola bar."
You can eat a healthy diet at home, learn how to eat properly, and still have an Oreo at snacktime after school every few days.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with the OP's view on junk food. Here's her stance again:
"She gets the occasional cookie or cracker every now and then, and we let her eat whatever she wants at birthday parties, holidays and special events. We might even go out for ice cream once every few weeks or so, but it is not an every day occurence"
That so many people think that's an unrealistic expectation or makes her some sort of overzealous new parent speaks volumes... just not about the OP.
I agree.
It's funny how as adults we are all here to try and change our eating habits so we can be healthier individuals but yet bashing a mother for trying to start her child out in life to make better food habits and choices from a much younger age. Perhaps had we all started out the way this mother is doing with her child then we wouldn't have a need to be on this type of site? Just sayin.10 -
Your baby is still a baby right? Just wait. Hopefully your kid isn't doesn't start being a picky eater at 2.2
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Your daughter probably gonna hate eating healthy when she's grown if she's deprive from junk food all her childhood life
Due to health reason I was not allowed to eat sweets (cakes, cookies, chocolates etc), fried food, gravies, sauces, pizza, and even ice cream, with the exception of strawberry flavor. I was raised with lean meats roasted or baked, fish (from rivers and lakes not from the ocean), vegetables and fruits and once in awhile when my liver was not acting up, I was allowed to enjoy a piece of homemade lemon cake.
The results: I don't like/eat chocolate and I eat sweets only once in awhile. I can live without pizza and ice cream. I don't care for gravies or dishes with lots of sauce. I don't eat or miss "junk" food. I have never been fat or overweight. I love my vegetables, fruits, fish (all kind now), beef, chicken and some pork.
Above all I don't hate my parents for my healthy eating. I just hate that I was a sick as a child and was deprived of fun and of many other children activities (I am making up for that now ). I am happy that my tastes buds were only exposed to healthy food.
To the OP: good for you for teaching good eating habits to your daughter, especially when there are so many health concerns in your family history. I am a grandmother, and I will never offer or give my grandchildren any food without asking their parents if that is OK with them.
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Oh, welp, once me clarifying an argument turns into snarky jabs at my childhood, I'm out. Have fun with your superiority!3
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