Motivating Myself

Keep telling yourself you can't and you never will.

You might as well try, because the time will pass anyway.

"Lack of motivation" is yet another excuse.

Don't wait around for motivation. Just do it.

Motivation has to come from within. That said, have you considered rewarding yourself for establishing certain habits? Logging MFP, weighing regularly, and exercising are all habits that may have a positive impact on your weight while not being directly tied to your weight. That is, you're not rewarding yourself for losing a certain number of pounds, which can seem like an insurmountable task.

It's far too hard to start the difficult and emotional process of losing weight when you are feeling guilty and hopeless and focusing on someone else's perceived feelings about your body. You need to make this about you, before you start a diet. Start with those issues, and just log what you eat for now...

Losing weight by counting calories takes only a few things

1.Honesty - log everything you eat , exactly how much you eat
2. Consistency - do this every single day. Don't skip meals or days
3. Perseverence - make it a habit, like brushing your hair or teeth
4. Sacrifice - food is delicious. Eating less of tasty things is a sacrifice, whether you have a smaller meal, forgo a treat, or spend more time being active.

Motivation is irrelevant. When I stop eating because I'm out of calories, or will run out to soon in the day; or have half a cup of ice cream instead of a big bowl, motivation is not important. I answer to myself, and I decided that I want and need to be healthier, and that meant losing weight. For me.

Now...

I am saddened when you say you want your mom to be proud of you and you feel you have disappointed her. I truly hope she is already proud of you for other things. If you know she loves you, then it must be so. It sounds like you and she need a heart to heart talk.

I know if my daughter said what you posted, I would gather her in my arms with tears in my eyes and tell her all the things I am so proud of her for. And listen to her. And then if she wanted to lose weight for her health, and she was overweight, I'd try to help and support her in her goals. And when she succeeded I'd be proud of her again, but not because she lost weight. If be proud of her for accomplishing something that she set her will to do that required honesty, commitment, Perseverence, and sacrifice. I truly hope your mom feels the same way.

Beat wishes.

kbakhtawar69 wrote: »

UGH!!!! I'm just so frustrated! I'm so jealous of the people that can motivate themselves to lose weight! It hurts when my mom gives me a disappointing look when she looks at my body. I feel like I let her down, and I don't like that feeling. Its making me reach my breaking point. I want to make my mom proud again. Of course I know she loves me, but I still want to make her happy and proud of me. I want to lose this weight not only for her, but for me, too. BUT I JUST CAN'T!! No matter what, I'm always off track!!! Its just so frustrating that I want to hole up in a corner and cry! Guys PLEASE motivate me please! Evidently, I can't motivate myself!

First of I don't like your mum. My mum only mentioned my weight few times, then we had a talk. I made her understand it's my own body, and I am feeling good, if I want to change I will but not because someone is pressuring me.

If above doesn't work on her, but it should, just ignore her staring and comments. It's not her body to decide.

It's easy to give advice about habits like people above do, but it's harder to follow. I can give you only an idea, which have worked for me. Since I am obsessed with food, I decided it to be my mission to use that obsession to be healthy use the weapon of destruction I created, embrace this obsession. Don't change what you like to do.

I look up new recipes constantly, try to come up with ideas to cook. If you're like me and this is your obsession as well give me a shout. I am not a great motivator, but I might try and help. I have a few cooking tips as well if you'd like

kbakhtawar69 wrote: »

UGH!!!! I'm just so frustrated! I'm so jealous of the people that can motivate themselves to lose weight! It hurts when my mom gives me a disappointing look when she looks at my body. I feel like I let her down, and I don't like that feeling. Its making me reach my breaking point. I want to make my mom proud again. Of course I know she loves me, but I still want to make her happy and proud of me. I want to lose this weight not only for her, but for me, too. BUT I JUST CAN'T!! No matter what, I'm always off track!!! Its just so frustrating that I want to hole up in a corner and cry! Guys PLEASE motivate me please! Evidently, I can't motivate myself!

OK ... try approaching it the way I did.

I was convinced I couldn't lose weight ... same as you. You can't lose weight. No matter what you do you will not lose weight. Right?

In order to prove I couldn't lose weight, I joined MyFitnessPal.

I entered my details into MyFitnessPal ... chose sedentary as my activity level ... chose 0.5 kg as the amount I wanted to lose each week. Haha. As if that were possible.

MFP gave me 1250 calories to work with. (Plus 50% of my exercise calories.)

Right. I was going to stick to 1250 calories like glue for 5 weeks. I was going to weigh and measure and log everything. No one could accuse me of somehow cheating. In order to prove I couldn't lose weight, I was going to be the very picture of accuracy.

For 10 days, I was absolutely right. No weight loss. Not a gram.

Ha! I was showing them. And I was also going to quit this nonsense when I reached the 3 week point and hadn't lost anything.

By the 3 week point I had lost 3 kg. By the 5 week point I had lost 5 kg. By the 16 week point I had lost 15 kg. 8 months in ... I had lost 25 kg.

Guess I could lose the weight after all.