My not so positive side effects of massive weight loss.

Jilliankosto · May 2017

I think the easy thing to do would be to criticize you for what you have said, but I actually find it a step in the right direction. For one, you acknowledge you have some issues and secondly you have sought some sort of help by posting your unfiltered commentary on this community.

I am not a therapist but it sounds like you never really knew who you were when you were overweight and your just as lost now if not more so. I have found that e-v-e-r-y-t-h-I-n-g in life needs balance. Going to the extremes is never helpful mentally, physically or emotionally.

I think you should seek out some sort of therapy for your dilemmas as they will not be solved quickly. Good luck to you.

KirbySmith46 · May 2017

You were better fat!

SiegfriedXXL · May 2017

Honestly, I don't think we change when we lose weight. We are who we are and society allows us to express our true selves more easily when we look "normal" or "attractive." You're right. You were always a womanizer, you were always vain, and you always had an addictive personality. Without the food and fat to shield you, these other issues came to the fore and started expressing themselves.

I hope you get therapy. I hope you get help. I hope you stop using women, and I hope you stop abusing yourself. It seems ironic that you would strive so hard for health only to start slowly destroying yourself in a different way.

I hope the next success story you post on here will be of you getting rid of all this extra garbage and being a content individual.

Jthanmyfitnesspal · May 2017

Troll.

solieco1 · May 2017

I agree that identifying and wanting to change is a good step. I see a common thread in all of these behaviors related to a very egocentric worldview. May I suggest you step out of yourself and your circumstance a bit? Go help someone else. I would suggest NOT in the weightloss world. Go feed someone. Go volunteer. Go build a fence for someone who needs it. Find gratitude. Understanding what's important in life and doing some real and focused activities not for your own immediate benefit may me a great next step.

fostersu · May 2017

I appreciate the brutal honesty and recognize the vulnerability it takes to do that with what you admit are negative and unhealthy feelings. I hope you find an outlet for this tension that's causing so much negativity

leejoyce31 · May 2017

I agree regarding troll. I especially don't believe the part about bringing in so much business the firm can't handle the influx. Sounds like a load of stuff to me.

Geocitiesuser · May 2017

Absolutely 100% agree with folks saying this is a troll post. So hard to bite my lip, but if I post what I think, I'm the one who gets reprimanded.

charliet2010 · May 2017

I want to thank everyone for taking the time out of their day to respond to my situation with constructive criticism and insight. I mainly just wanted to get all of that off my chest and this gave me the opportunity to do so in a somewhat anonymous fashion. I wanted to be as brutally honest about the situation as I could muster as I felt this would net me the most genuine feedback. I really do not have anyone in my life that I can express such concerns to.

I am frankly embarrassed in most respects of what my life has become in the last 2 years, despite outward appearances and sentiments to the contrary by those around me. I was especially moved by response of Crystal Rose as she expressed feelings that I could immediately identify with, and that is what all of us are looking for on the whole; someone who understands.

I am not going to speculate on what next steps I plan on taking, but I felt the first step is coming to grips with the reality that is my life minus the huge facade I attempt to put forward to those around me.

Again, I thank you for taking the time out of your busy lives to respond.

tabletop_joe · May 2017

Good luck. I mean that.

STLBADGIRL · May 2017

I don't know if this is a troll or not, but this is some real stuff and real issues and I appreciate the honesty. And I'm sure if some are really honest with themselves they can identify with one of his issues after losing weight and reaching their goals.

I agree. Therapy might be in order. And I appreciate how candid and accountable you are. Now I hope you can address these issues and make some changes.

DasItMan91 · May 2017

LOL @ $75 haircuts

JoJosAnatomymfp · May 2017

Geocitiesuser wrote: »

The community policy forbids me from giving my honest reply to this.

^^^^this also

STLBADGIRL · May 2017

I'm surprised about some of the comments in here about HIS experience. It's raw and direct, but he is sharing his revelation. Maybe this could help someone else that is traveling down the same path.

AliceDark · May 2017

Why is this in "Success Stories"?

mom23mangos · May 2017

STLBADGIRL wrote: »

I don't know if this is a troll or not, but this is some real stuff and real issues and I appreciate the honesty. And I'm sure if some are really honest with themselves they can identify with one of his issues after losing weight and reaching their goals.

I agree. Therapy might be in order. And I appreciate how candid and accountable you are. Now I hope you can address these issues and make some changes.

I wholeheartedly agree. I see no reason to criticize this post. It's someone being brutally honest. How many of us have looked deep enough to be able to list out our character flaws the way he has? That level of self awareness is not very common, especially in a man. And the fact that he can recognize them gives me hope that he will do something about them.

OP, who knows? Maybe your next obsession will be on spiritual and mental self-improvement to go with your new body. I do agree with the others in that seeking out a qualified therapist may help you work through some of these issues.

icecreambecky · May 2017

I like this post. I like that this person is acknowledging a lot of seemingly successful-on-the-outside situations as having other effects. Nothing wrong with someone sharing something they are feeling. It's not like he feels justified or okay feeling the way he does; he clearly struggles with these feelings. I find myself feeling this way too; I love those around me, but it's hard when you're restricting your diet and spending free time on fitness and not judge your "curvy" friends/coworkers who aren't giving a damn about their health.

I still love, them, but...really? Too lazy to even go on a damn walk? Come on.

Are me and OP the only ones who struggle with this dilemma caused by disciplined self-improvement?

If you don't like what OP is saying, then go read another board, maybe? I appreciate his brutal honesty with himself. I find it relatable in a few places and fairly insightful.

MoiAussi93 · May 2017

I'm surprised so many people are so negative regarding your post. I think you have demonstrated self-awareness and have been honest enough to admit to faults. So many people NEVER do that.

For what it's worth, there are many formerly fat people who now judge fat people very negatively. There are also many people who have never struggled with weight who do exactly the same thing. So that piece of it is not shocking or unusual. Hopefully, you will become more empathetic, but if not...well, we all have character flaws.

As for the rest, I don't think you need therapy. If you want to do it (some people like therapy and benefit from it, others are much better off working through things on their own), then do it, if not, I don't see anything seriously wrong with you that would necessitate it.

The one thing that does concern me is the stimulants...you know they aren't good for your health. So you really should try to wean off of them. BTW, this is also not at all unusual. MANY people in their 20s and 30s take adderrall every day...not because they need it, but because it is very easy to get a prescription and it gives them increased focus so they can excel at school and work and it cuts appetite so they can easily lose/maintain weight. This is also abuse...but so common that most of these people don't see anything wrong with it. Be careful...we don't necessarily know all the health risks that these drugs pose with long term use.

As to the womanizing and the rest...you have had a major life change. You may just need a little more time to get used to being in your new form. If it persists and you find yourself wanting something more, you will change your ways. If not, perhaps this is just the lifestyle you want. As long as you aren't lying to/misleading people, that is simply a lifestyle choice.

ConnieT1030 · May 2017

Someone (several someones, its a massive thread) in the community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10087100/what-nobody-tells-you-about-losing-weight#latest thread pointed out that losing weight will NOT solve all your problems. It may just reveal more.

Losing weight is a physical change in our bodies.
Your own psychological and personality issues that may be a response to change are a totally different thing that everyone has to deal with sooner or later, because the only thing that never changes, is change.

Most people choose to face the new challenges or problems rather than the ones they were facing due to being overweight.

bfanny · May 2017

Hey show us the money!!!
Before & after photo, or I don't believe anything you said

My not so positive side effects of massive weight loss.

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