Supporting Yourself/Family

geminigemz90
geminigemz90 Posts: 305 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
How to support yourself if your family members aren’t very supportive about your weight loss goals/journey. Do you say anything or just go about your business. It so weird when people comment on your goals but then questions your values.

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  • tinkerbellang83
    tinkerbellang83 Posts: 9,129 Member
    I don't really discuss my weight loss with my family at all. I discuss it with other MFP members and a couple of friends who have asked me about it.
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    edited October 2017
    Your weight loss and weight management is all about YOU matter what anyone else says.

    That said I only discuss this with my SO, the rest of my family doesn't know or need to know that I count and log calories. Its up to you how much information you divulge to others.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 17,956 Member
    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10605629/doing-weight-loss-getting-support
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,627 Member
    its none of their business.

    you know they are not supportive, dont enter conversations with them about it.
  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member
    Family members have their own stuff to take care of.
    Make sure that you are making yourself a priority and that you take care of your needs. <3
  • mysteps2beauty
    mysteps2beauty Posts: 494 Member
    Why do you feel a need to tell them? If they want to know they will ask. I'm sure when you start looking lean and trim, they will become intrigued and if interested in the how to, they know you can give them some answers. I like to shock and awe people so I haven't said anything. It will become obvious soon enough. Meantime, I keep my head down and keep at it.
  • EllieElla2015
    EllieElla2015 Posts: 67 Member
    I hear you on this one, especially if you live with them. I understand you don’t need to engage with them but people, especially family, go out of their way to say something about. They may think it’s harmless, they may think they have a right to because they’re family or they may really just not care about your goals.

    With my family, everyone felt the need to comment. My dad would tell me I’m getting “too skinny” and guys like curves. My mom would tell me I’m losing weight too fast, when in reality I wasn’t. And so much more. And this was all unprovoked. I’d be eating something, or getting ready to go out, and they’d just comment on it.

    You have two options- tell them if they won’t be supportive, to not say anything at all. Or learn to zone it out & not respond / acknowledge their comments. I chose the latter and eventually he comments stopped except for the occasional “you’re good, you don’t need to eat so healthily!) (which I don’t even by the way lol).

    You really just need to remember that you won’t change your goals to please them so what they’re saying is white noise.

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