scaryann1 wrote: »

It doesn't help that I have hEDS (Ehlers Danlos Syndrome hypermobility type), I can and have dislocated my knees and ankles by walking. I have dislocated my right shoulder three times this year by simply sleeping. My right wrist dislocates 10+ times a day, even with a brace on. I can't cup vegetables, and I despise fruit. Tomatoes make my throat swell shut. All I have to do is smell a cucumber to get heartburn so bad I can't concentrate for an entire day.

Anyway, I'm just discouraged and need some new ideas. If no one has any ideas that's okay, I'm used to being left out.

I suspect I would qualify for a hEDS diagnosis. I can do thumb to forearm, used to freak people out with hypermobility, managed to dislocate 5 different joints in a single day (unloading a truck - don't remember which specific ones). When my wife first saw my naked back, she thought I had been whipped, and I have some ridiculous atrophic scarrings where my legs meet my body, and have both the steinberg sign and the walker-murdoch sign.

My left shoulder is destroyed (bicycle accident), and dislocating my knees is trivial - all I have to do is cross them and bounce. I used to dislocate walking down stairs - I'd turn wrong, and my hip or knee would go out. I've dislocated once while driving, and it freaked my wife when I'd call out for her lying on the floor, unable to move.

Over time, I've learned to be careful in how I move - I've learned the motions that dislocate and avoid them. I don't think I've had any dislocations in the past year, and only one or two in the two years before that. When I got married in 2010, it was once every month or two, generally in the legs or hips. In college, it was once every few weeks, and as a teenager, it was up to multiple times a day.

For me, it's basically been physical therapy. I can feel when a dislocation is starting, and have learned to relax the muscles. I'll go limp take a fall rather than dislocate. When I turn in bed, I rarely start the motions that would dislocate, and if I do start, I tense my muscles before it gets out of the socket to keep it in. If it gets past that point, I relax the muscles so as not to pull it out.

I don't know what your insurance situation is, but it might make sense to look into physical therapy, if you haven't already.

scaryann1 wrote: »

All I have to do is smell a cucumber to get heartburn so bad I can't concentrate for an entire day.

I used to get heartburn almost every time I'd eat anything spicy. One day, I ended up delaying eating, and still got the heartburn. I realized at that point that for me, it was psychosomatic - caused by mental factors, rather than physical ones. I decided not to do it anymore, and (using some biofeedback techniques I've learned over time) stopped.

A decade later, I've slipped up only a couple times (I could count them on one hand). The heartburn is gone, and I can "feel" the thought pattern in the brain that would cause it. I had set up a pattern between a physical symptom (the burn of spicy foods) and heartburn, and broke that pattern when I realized that the link was mental, not physical.

As for your issues with vegetables, have you tested to see if you are allergic to the pollen (pollen food syndrome), or chemicals on the food themselves? Does cooking help? For some people, cooking lets them tolerate most foods - celery being one of the notable exceptions where cooking won't help.

I'm so glad you have something beautiful to focus on with the rest of life having so much difficulties.
Sorry to hear about sister - does she have some close support - or are you going to be the winner there?
And I only say that from the perspective that at some point, even if someone has the desire to help another - you reach a point where it can negatively influence your own life to a big degree.

It's like the warning on a flight - parents take the oxygen first so you can help your child - does no good if you attempt to help them first and you pass out in the effort.

At the beginning of my weightloss program, I was eating 1200 calories a day (give or take). Now, I am 15 lbs from my goal weight and I work out a lot! I have a sedentary job, but I play soccer 4 times a week and hit the gym at least 5 days a week. I have hit a major plateau and know I need to up my calorie intake. My problem, is that I don't feel hungry. I'm having a hard time adjusting the foods I eat to meet a higher calorie goal. I'm totally up for suggestions if any ladies out there have some!

Side note, I'm in a biggest loser competition (and currently in 1st place with 5 weeks left to go), so it is important to me to see a drop in the scale each week if possible.

Try to make yourself smoothies made of fruits and veggies.

twb6513 wrote: »

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whenever you click on a member, one of the options is friend request.

when you receive that request, option right there to accept, that is how you add.
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That's great news about the hand use improving the hand pain.

Now if you could just slowly get other parts of the body involved without the side effects that hit you so bad.

Glad you are having a good time with the hobby/business moving to business level. You have enough shows within easy reach to get to that are reasonable?

And you found that local business that'll let you sell in their store?

energy dense over nutritionally dense.

More fat over more fiber.

With 1800 cal - you can easily get nutrition in - so you'll have excess calories that can be filled with things that have fat in them, and protein, and carb, but perhaps not much nutrition.
Which doesn't matter then when you need the calories too.

Obviously more frequent meals to get the calories in. Cheese added to many things can help, as can butter.

I'd suggest with only 20 lbs to go, if your TDEE is really around 1800, than 1440 is way too low.
1/2 lb weekly should be your amount of loss attempt. 15% is 270 cal deficit, so 1/2 lb and leave 200 cal in the green.

But log exercise done on MFP, and eat to new goal. That's how it works.
You do more, you eat more.
You don less, you eat less (that's the kicker for many).

In a diet, a tad less in either case.

A good full summer, and getting to do what you enjoy to boot - glad it's going well enough.
And yeah, think how the body would be falling apart if malnourished. well, don't think about it too much, but good job.