The 'mom guilt' therapy thread.
LiftingSpirits
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Moms. I know a lot of you feel guilty that you're not doing enough to be a "good mom".
I bet that most of that guilt is unwarranted. Moms, can you come together here and offer some support and encouragement to someone who's feeling guilty when they're actually doing a pretty good job?
If you want to share something you're feeling guilty about, I'm sure other moms are feeling the same, and others still have gotten past it and can share how they got through it.
I bet that most of that guilt is unwarranted. Moms, can you come together here and offer some support and encouragement to someone who's feeling guilty when they're actually doing a pretty good job?
If you want to share something you're feeling guilty about, I'm sure other moms are feeling the same, and others still have gotten past it and can share how they got through it.
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Should i be concerned.
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Good Lord, please don't show this thread to my wife.
I'd be sleeping under a freeway overpass starting tonight.4 -
mustacheU2Lift wrote: »
Should i be concerned.
Only if you can't run faster than them.1 -
Mom guilt is real.5
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mustacheU2Lift wrote: »
Should i be concerned.
Only if you can't run faster than them.
Im screwed.2 -
Always feel guilty when I don’t feel good and can’t take my kids outside to play!3
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My child has been struggling with various things. She is in therapy and on medication and struggles to leave the house much less do things other kids her age are doing. Maybe I did something wrong when I was pregnant to mess her up. Maybe I was wrong to have only one child. Maybe I was wrong to homeschool her. Maybe we shouldn't have moved here. Maybe I should have put her in therapy years ago. Maybe I spent too much time with her. Maybe someone else could have done better as her parent.
In my brain, I know that I have tried really hard to be a good mom but still feel the guilt that I should've been better.28 -
this is pretty sweet of you @denny_mac1
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My child has been struggling with various things. She is in therapy and on medication and struggles to leave the house much less do things other kids her age are doing. Maybe I did something wrong when I was pregnant to mess her up. Maybe I was wrong to have only one child. Maybe I was wrong to homeschool her. Maybe we shouldn't have moved here. Maybe I should have put her in therapy years ago. Maybe I spent too much time with her. Maybe someone else could have done better as her parent.
In my brain, I know that I have tried really hard to be a good mom but still feel the guilt that I should've been better.
I think we will all have our regrets or hindsight guilt. But parenting doesnt come with a handbook. We try our best based on good and bad experiences from our own childhood. The fact that you reflect to see what you could do better as a mom...makes you a good mom.7 -
I have a teenager and a toddler. I am trying to balance each one's needs. Some may say that having children this far apart may be nice. Truthfully, I feel guilty, because I was young with my oldest and not making much money. I couldn't provide her with the things I can now provide to my youngest. There is such a difference of how each one is raised, and sometimes it makes me feel that my oldest thinks that I give the little one more attention.4
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Ahhh Denny I love you!3
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leut_underpants wrote: »More seriously, moms, the ones of you doing things right (and tight...thanks again autocorrect) matter so, so much. My wife suffers from the mom guilt. I spend some part of my time trying to help her realize how good she is, to point her to the fantastic things she does. That would be the thing I'd give you all if I could, just the appreciation that I feel for that job when well done. :smooched:
That's very nice of you as a supporting husband. I think if moms got this kind of support more often they wouldn't carry this guilt around everyday.4 -
My child has been struggling with various things. She is in therapy and on medication and struggles to leave the house much less do things other kids her age are doing. Maybe I did something wrong when I was pregnant to mess her up. Maybe I was wrong to have only one child. Maybe I was wrong to homeschool her. Maybe we shouldn't have moved here. Maybe I should have put her in therapy years ago. Maybe I spent too much time with her. Maybe someone else could have done better as her parent.
In my brain, I know that I have tried really hard to be a good mom but still feel the guilt that I should've been better.
I dealt with this guilt for over a year while my daughter was going through therapy for depression and other issues. I was so wrapped up in my own personal problems that I didn't see the signs of her struggle. Even now, I still carry some of it but I have learned that I can't place the blame on myself. I hope your daughter over comes her issues because there's hope. I've seen it with my own daughter. Just keep loving them and supporting them through it all ❤6 -
On a lighter note:
I feel guilty for letting my teen watch caillou and teletubbies when she was younger. Those shows are terrible!4 -
I don't even wanna go there...
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Feeling guilty for working to much and then for not enough a d helping out with the finances .1
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JustKeepTryin wrote: »I don't even wanna go there...
Right there with you. I think you’re an amazing mom, though.1 -
JustKeepTryin wrote: »I don't even wanna go there...
You are a wonderful mother.. doing her best.
Being a mum is one of the toughest jobs in the world but one of the most rewarding and fulfilling. Mine are grown now and I did a pretty damn good job mostly on my own, even if I do say so myself, even if I didn't always think so at the time.
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_Maid_of_Mischief_ wrote: »I often feel guilty for alot of things. It's not easy to do it all on my own and sometimes I'm just exhausted. I hope they will always know how much I try.
My brother, sister, and I were raised by a single mother. Growing up, I took her for granted. Unfortunately, it took me having my own “step” kids to appreciate the job she did. I appreciate her so much more as an adult and try to do as much as possible for my mother as I can.
Kids may not show it that much, if at all, but when they are older and are functioning members of society, they will look back and know you loved them molded them, and put them above everything else...7
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