The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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full disclosure, not AF. am a friend of Lois W. most of my friend are friends of Bill and Bob4
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Thanks, y’all! @Orphia, very likely tiredness is a factor. I’m still experiencing waking up in unexplainable panic and not in a regular sleep rhythm. Working out helps. Today I used a Korean sheet mask a friend gave me. First time. That is such a delightful dose of self-care that I ordered 10 more from Amazon.
I’m helping my mom navigate getting out of a horrible business partnership (guided by a good attorney) and it’s so damn stressful and I’m tired of having my new hobby be “not drinking”. Don’t mind me. Just venting in a safe place. Good news is I’m not even inclined to try to make things better with that alcohol crap.8 -
Thanks, y’all! @Orphia, very likely tiredness is a factor. I’m still experiencing waking up in unexplainable panic and not in a regular sleep rhythm. Working out helps. Today I used a Korean sheet mask a friend gave me. First time. That is such a delightful dose of self-care that I ordered 10 more from Amazon.
I’m helping my mom navigate getting out of a horrible business partnership (guided by a good attorney) and it’s so damn stressful and I’m tired of having my new hobby be “not drinking”. Don’t mind me. Just venting in a safe place. Good news is I’m not even inclined to try to make things better with that alcohol crap.
Best of luck with your mom and the lawyer. Sometimes, it feels like everyone leans on you and they probably do. Hence, why some of us used to turn to alcohol to escape.
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I Googled too. Who’s Bob?0
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Hi! Thanks for starting this thread. I'm on ... day #14... had to check that because honestly, I'm not sure I'm ready to give up alcohol, but I'm (was) certain that something had to change. Prior to the event that led to day #14, I had 3 weeks-ish under my belt. I've gone to a few meetings and I'm not sure they're for me, but I am happier now that I don't drink daily. My habit was typically one good beer per night while making dinner, but really GOING BIG at least once a week.... but then once a week turned into twice a week, and usually un-planned and whoops! Blackouts and hangovers! Totally unsafe. I stayed there for about a year before realizing I was out of control. Still... I like not drinking every day, and I like to having the control, energy, and focus for other things, but I sure miss those tasty IPA's and the other fancy craft beers. Maybe someday I can have them again, but not today. Cyber high-five to all those in this group addressing their issues with alcohol!10
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Welcome @joha5603! You will find support and encouragement here. You might like Craig Beck videos on youtube. He's very no nonsense. A lot of us watch them.
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OK I know who Bill W is. Who are Lois and Bob?0
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My mother was an alcoholic. She never quit. My husband and I quit drinking entirely in 2014. We used to try a glass of wine with dinner, which would then turn into a bottle (or two). In 2014 he eliminated alcohol from his life and in support of him, I quit too. Don't miss it at all.
For all of you, whether a day sober or 20 years sober, congratulations. It's not how many times you fall, but how many times you get up. Bless you all.11 -
One thing that I’ve noticed after stopping drinking for a long period of time is that my mood is steady and calm. I dont fly off the handle when confronted, I take a step back and think clearly when in a conflict. I just feel calmer overall.
Of course, I have bad days and feel sad sometimes but overall, my mood doesn't have those peaks and valleys anymore. Today, I am at Day 24 AF. I am going to beat my record of 76 days AF back in the winter.
School is back in session and I will go to the gym after work most days or go and get a veggie juice at a juice place in town. I’m so happy I will not be stopping by a bar for a quick glass of wine before going home like I used to.
@joha5603 Welcome to our thread. Congrats on Day 14!
I took a break from alcohol in January and lasted until St. Pat’s alcohol free even through a death in the family. Then I started to dip my toe back into drinking and it took me from March-July to get back to the binge drinking I tried to quell. I didnt drink every night but when I did, I could not stop. I just didnt want to accept that I had to give it up. That’s where I am today. I wish you well on your journey. I look forward to seeing where this journey takes you. Xo7 -
@mbaker566, I didn’t thank you for your reply earlier. You are quite right that maybe these little depressions have been there all along but the alcohol masked them. Good insight.
@Orphia I’ve lurked a little on the self-care challenge and even contributed a time or two a while back. It’s good inspiration. Checking 3 threads and now getting back to logging food is about more than I can handle. Thank goodness I’m (purposely) not on Facebook or I’d never leave my chair!3 -
Julie, I too have a calmer demeanor since giving up alcohol. It makes dealing with nearly everything much easier. Enjoy your new class!3
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Thanks for the info, @mbaker566. I guess I'm still immature despite my age, but the phrase "drunk proctologist" made me giggle.
Wow, that would be an interesting camping trip to observe and would lend itself to lots of "How many ____ does it take to change a lightbulb" jokes. Have fun!2 -
oh it was meant to make people giggle. and has been the subject of many a joke from the speaker podium.
imagine over 150 12 steppers at varying degrees of recovery...plus the day trippers on saturday descending upon an outdoor location that doesn't follow direction. we have had bad wiring in the main hall, noisy dogs, missing speakers, torrential downpours....old timers and young people. friends and family some in their own recovery some not.
it's a hot mess but it's our hot mess. rule 62. don't take yourself so seriously3 -
Day 24 here. I am no good at moderation. It is all too enticing to not indulge sometimes.. then the thought of 'lets keep this party going!" ends up with me being sick. I have started eating keto for the past two months and although I can drink liquor on keto if I overdo it my calorie allotment is blown for the night. It is easier to ignore the thought that I want a drink when I view alcohol under its true light... alcohol just is not fun for me. I used to think it made me have fun and be fun - but it made for more embarrassing moments than I have ever had while sober.9
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Hi all, I'm so glad to have found this discussion. I'll probably lurk a while. I'm a whole 4 days AF. My last drink was on 8/12. I've been trying to moderate my drinking for at least 2 or 3 years with varying degrees of success. I'm thinking this time that quitting is the answer. I love how I feel I struggle a lot because 1. I work part time in a brewery, and 2. my husband is an avid home brewer. It's just too tempting to not have a taste. My issue really isn't overdrinking due to those situations, but it's really hard to just quit, especially if hubby wants me to sample his latest and greatest. I've been reading This Naked Mind and it gives me hope that I can live without drinking, if not right this minute, someday. Right now I'm in the one day at a time phase. 4 days without even a sip is a pretty big accomplishment for me. I dread the weekends. It's so easy to be good during the week, but not having a drink on the weekend...I dunno, I'm just not sure I can. Anyway, just kind of rambling, I'm happy to know you all are here.5
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