The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Aww, @RubyRed427, I'm so sorry. And by no stretch of the imagination are you sounding like a brat. I wouldn't presume to offer any advice at all, but the old (trite) truism that God doesn't give us more than we can handle comes to mind . . . because I would not be able to handle that with quiet grace. I'd probably have reacted in a most unproductive way and then regretted it. I'm glad the Sober Squad is here for such venting, and it's a positive thing that you weren't tempted by the beer. That is awesome. As you would say, xoxoxo
The old me would have probably sulked and let it fester.... and then exploded. But now the new me, knows to keep perspective and keep calm. This too shall pass. Thanks for your support! Xoxo
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eriktherealviking wrote: »Just started a 4 month AF stretch today - last day December 31st.
Moderation is "easy" for me (its all relative) but the inner moron comes out every time I have a sip which leads to my inner fat man coming out when I raid the fridge. Reading this forum has inspired me to just quit altogether. Instead of going for a "forever" manifesto Ill start with what I know I will do. Jan 1st I will re-evaluate (but most probably re up for another year).
Thanks all for the support and being examples. Amazing people here.
(P.S. the inner fat man does make an appearance from time to time - without any liquid courage. But that's another challenge.)
You made me smile. Happy you are along for the ride! I plan on re upping too !2 -
Well, my first round at a big family weekend has come and gone, and no, I didn't drink! No problem, actually, but surprised by the coy little smiles of family members with beers in hand "gosh, I sure hope you don't feel tempted..." I'm disappointed by that kind of behavior, but meh... My family apparently also has a huge problem with over-eating and sugar and WOW. They all go together. Needless to say, I didn't have any alcohol, but oh boy am I ready for my swim tomorrow AM. My mid-section is uncomfortable. Ugh.5
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Walking home I pass the bottle shop.
Today I saw an elderly lady paying for her alcohol.
I checked my Nomo app and found out I have saved $1,233 since quitting on Jan 31.
($40 per week). 6 -
@Orphia that is amazing. Just think what you can do with all that money! Thanks for sharing.2
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@JenT304 I wish I could hug you in person
@Orphia WOO HOO!! Interestingly $40 was my guesstimate also for my weekly alcohol savings. $544.00 so far! You are an inspiration!
@joha5603 It feels really good to be in control eh? You never know what influence your sobriety may have on your family members. Sometimes it's the people we least expect that are paying attention.
Yesterday's Annie Grace Alcohol Experiment was about alcohol being a poison & how 80% of the population do NOT know that...not surprising though with all the marketing to convince us otherwise. It was also a good reminder of alcohol being an anesthetic & a few different countries that actually used it as an anesthetic in the 20's & 30's up until the 70's when it was banned because it was TOO toxic to the body. How it is a depressant & coming down produces anxiety, regret etc. And detoxing is even more toxic than drinking alcohol because of a chemical, Acetaldehyde, that our bodies produce to break down the alcohol. LOTS of good reminders of how it affects our body & brain. Annie also stressed the importance of social support in continuing to be AF...lots of ways to get that support with this site being one of them for me.
Today's (day 28) experiment was Annie videotaping herself as she consumed a bottle of wine after going 3 month AF...it was to show the effect as she mindfully relayed how she was feeling. It was her way of proving the true nature of intoxication & how it messes with our mind & body & is anything but glamorous!! It was quite interesting actually...but nothing I would want to do. I remember my experience quite vividly, no experiment necessary.
Hope everyone has a great AF day!5 -
I ran into my drinking best friend today. I knew she must have had a fun weekend because we used to go out on Labor Day weekend and drink and carry on. Anyway, I asked her what did she do. She said she went out on Friday night with a friend; she said it was a GREAT night. Then, she said, but I had a serious hangover on Saturday and just lied down all day.
Anyway, I was a little jealous for one second, like I missed the fun. BUT then, I remember the hangover part and I felt so relieved that I dodged a bullet. Instead my whole weekend was hangover free. Nice change from last year.12 -
@joha5603 I cant embrace after 90 days being AF drinking to see how it affects me. If I am at 3 months I wouldn't crawl back into that hole for an experiment.
@RubyRed427 I noticed the qualifier "drinking" best friend. You get to the point you cant build a friendship on drinking till you do things that could embarrass you the next day. while you suffer a splitting head ache. I still have friends that drink and as I said my wife drinks " some time" doesn't get drunk to have fun however. Eventually people treat you differently knowing you are AF, it shows a self control and self respect that you enjoy that the heavy drinker doesn't experience.
I don't really count days months or even years much anymore but it has just become the way I live and happily it isn't something I need to hang onto.7 -
Todays Sober School Video. https://thesoberschool.com/dont-let-your-excuses-hold-you-back/1
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I don't really count days months or even years much anymore but it has just become the way I live and happily it isn't something I need to hang onto.
I'm not really counting day to day that much either, although it's so early it's hard not to be aware of the number of days that have passed (36, but who's counting?). But as I posted earlier, I think, I've written down the dates of what will be days 50, 100, 150, 200, 250, 300, 350, and 365. If I didn't make note of those days, I wouldn't get the awesome prezzies I've promised myself!
After that, I imagine I'll just let the numbers go, but who knows. I do like prezzies.7 -
30 days AF today.11
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I don't really count days months or even years much anymore but it has just become the way I live and happily it isn't something I need to hang onto.
I'm not really counting day to day that much either, although it's so early it's hard not to be aware of the number of days that have passed (36, but who's counting?). But as I posted earlier, I think, I've written down the dates of what will be days 50, 100, 150, 200, 250, 300, 350, and 365. If I didn't make note of those days, I wouldn't get the awesome prezzies I've promised myself!
After that, I imagine I'll just let the numbers go, but who knows. I do like prezzies.
I like your idea. I may write it in my calendar too. I’m still counting days; the first 21 days took forever. Now, the days are adding up quicker. Can’t wait to hear about the prezzies.2 -
@JenT304 Thanks for sharing the video! I really liked her points. She also said “drinking IS the biggest time suck.” So, true. I have more time on my hands to do fun things or learn new crafts. I also remember back when I was pregnant twice; I didnt hesitate to quit drinking during pregnancy. It was non-negotionable.
In the video, she said what if someone paid you a million pounds to quit. Would you? Of course!
I think some of us are lucky and blessed; we quit before the stakes got toooo high - no DUIs, no major health ramifications from alcohol, etc.5 -
Good morning all Has anybody read The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober by Catherine Gray? It's release date here in the US is sometime in November or December, (somehow I got it in May from Amazon) and it's a delightful read! I follow the author on IG and she just used a quote from me in an article she wrote for Grazia magazine (UK) and I am totally fan girling! LOL I'll try and post a link to the article, she mentions some of the stuff from her book and on IG she said she completely expected the mag to soften her tone, but they let it go just as she had written it. If I weren't already hyper aware and committed to getting alcohol out of my life, an article like this would definitely have me thinking. Hopefully, it helps lots of people.
Not sure if this link will work, I had to make an account to read it..... https://www.pressreader.com/uk/grazia-uk/20180904/283656825712266
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I don't really count days months or even years much anymore but it has just become the way I live and happily it isn't something I need to hang onto.
I only remember b/c that last one was a doozy (thanks, 25th HS reunion!). I started down this path earlier, but have since had 2 "breaks". I was telling a friend I'd like to be able to say "80ish days minus 2" but I guess it doesn't work that way.
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@joha5603 its perfectly fine and true to say, "out of 82 days, I've been sober for 80." Good for you!!5
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I don't really count days months or even years much anymore but it has just become the way I live and happily it isn't something I need to hang onto.
I only remember b/c that last one was a doozy (thanks, 25th HS reunion!). I started down this path earlier, but have since had 2 "breaks". I was telling a friend I'd like to be able to say "80ish days minus 2" but I guess it doesn't work that way.
if you aren't in an abstinence only program, it can work that way. if you are, you have been sober since your last drink1 -
@joha5603 This group is an informal no accounting but encouragement for your betterment. If 82 days was primarily AF and you are trending AF and not fooling yourself then I will hope you can consider it 82 days ish
I stopped drinking May 22 2008 and I say I have been AF for over 10 years even though there was 2 flutes of champagne over 2 New Years Eves, that was one each year 3 years apart one glass of wine on vacation in Aruba in 2012 and wine at my daughters wedding toasts and celebration maybe 3 or 4 glasses that I paid for on my run the next morning in 2014. So technically I wasn't AF for over 10 years except in spirit and not completely in deed.7
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