The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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@RubyRed427, my wish for you is that you find some unexpected delights you never would have discovered if you were drinking. Are these the islands in Lake Erie perchance? I ask because Kylie Logan has some cheesy cozy mysteries set there— on South Bass Island. They are pure bubble gum but could be a fun guilty pleasure if that’s where you’ll be.
Anyway, hoping you are surprised by joy.4 -
@RubyRed427 .... this weekend sounds like it will be challenging, but just remember how awesome those non-hangover mornings feel: AMAZING! Be strong, Ruby!
I was woken up this weekend by drunk neighbors at 2 AM. It was hilarious! I wasn't mad (seriously, they were having so much fun I couldn't be mad) but it was funny to listen to them talk. No one heard each other, cared about what anyone else was saying... it felt vaguely familiar... vaguely... Lol.5 -
@RubyRed427, my wish for you is that you find some unexpected delights you never would have discovered if you were drinking. Are these the islands in Lake Erie perchance? I ask because Kylie Logan has some cheesy cozy mysteries set there— on South Bass Island. They are pure bubble gum but could be a fun guilty pleasure if that’s where you’ll be.
Anyway, hoping you are surprised by joy.
Good morning ☀️ yes the islands Put-n-Bay.0 -
RubyRed427 wrote: »
Good morning ☀️ yes the islands Put-n-Bay.
Oh, boy! Hang in there, that is a helluva party spot! Stay out of the pool! ;-) I say that because of a video my friends were sharing. I'm in suburban Detroit and know many who go every year. I remember how successful your Nashville trip was and how proud you were of yourself, I know you can do it again.
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@RubyRed427 Good morning ☀️ yes the islands Put-n-Bay
Julie I have not been to Put-n-Bay in 31 years, when I used to live in Ohio. That is a fun spot. My regret is not being able to remember a majority of how much fun there was to be had. Wish I could be there to experience an alcohol free weekend with you. I am pretty sure we could tear up the place even AF.
Will be thinking of you.
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RubyRed427 wrote: »Good morning ☀️ yes the islands Put-n-Bay.
OK, then. You might enjoy the Ladies' Literary League. That's where they're set.2 -
When someone asks me why I don't drink anymore, I say, "I actually just kind of lost my taste for it." Who can argue with that? No one is going to tell you to eat or drink something you don't "like" anymore, right? People usually just nod or say "oh!" and that is the end of it.7
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RubyRed427 wrote: »Good morning ☀️ yes the islands Put-n-Bay.
OK, then. You might enjoy the Ladies' Literary League. That's where they're set.
Thanks, I’ll check it out. I’m sure I’ll even find the books in a gift shop there.0 -
@joha5603 I think it works because it doesn't involve anyone else's drinking habits. If I say what I am REALLY thinking, "Because it's poison and it is killing me....and you" that would not go over so well LOL.3
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I like that response Jen! When we took our road trip to California over the weekend my son in law kept wanting me to drink,saying it was my birthday,I should have fun,etc,,I just told him i went there TO have fun,NOT be all sweaty,tired and grouchville the next day(like he ended up being haha) Ruby,do you think the trip will be easy? I hope so,back in May I went to visit my family and I thought I was strong but ended up drinking,,,a lot,I'm sure you'll be fine though you seem like you're in a good headspace,have a great day all!2
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@whitpauly I think I will try to have fun and I do know for sure I won't be drinking . I'm determined to stay the AF. I hope I don't get annoyed with the drinkers however; some of them repeat themselves a lot BUT so did I. 😊 I'll make the best of it and I think I'll gain willpower muscle and more pride in myself. Since I declined staying for two nights, l only be on the boat and island for 24 hours.5
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3 weekends have gone by since my first post on here and I’m still sober! Even poured my half empty bottle of vodka down the sink. I could of given it away but, pouring it out felt better. Been definitely feeling a lot better and enjoying my weekends more without the worry of a hangover. Anxiety still pops up every now and then but hopefully it goes away with time. 🙂8
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RubyRed427 wrote: »@whitpauly I think I will try to have fun and I do know for sure I won't be drinking . I'm determined to stay the AF. I hope I don't get annoyed with the drinkers however; some of them repeat themselves a lot BUT so did I. 😊 I'll make the best of it and I think I'll gain willpower muscle and more pride in myself. Since I declined staying for two nights, l only be on the boat and island for 24 hours.
This is excellent Ruby,,following my May drinking trip to visit family we also went in July,I purposely made it a one day trip just to be safe cuz I honestly wanted to see my family and remember each detail,the one day sober trip seemed to last longer than the few day drink visit and I remember it all,not bits and pieces so yep a win!3 -
Nice observation : Last night, I was at my AA book club which is literally 20 min. Walk away from my house. (That’s a coincidence )
So, I get a lot of steps there and back which is a good thing. We sit around a big table and read the book and discuss. Anyway, I was sitting there and I noticed that all the ladies around the table had such lovely skin. It took me awhile to realize, duh, they all don’t drink, hence their skin isn’t red or dehydrated or aged from alcohol consumption. It’s a silly observation, but it made me smile.5 -
@whipauly We think alike. I think for now, we have to do what’s best for US. So, if we think we can stay at a function for a shorter period of time, we should. The others will not even notice or miss us, if we leave a party early or whatever. I think in early sobriety, it’s ok to be a little selfish and think about ourself, so we stay strong. Xo5
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@Kenni94 Bravo! So happy for you! I poured out some alcohol, too. Down the drain it went. I think the anxiety will lessen with time as your brain readjusts.1
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When someone asks me why I don't drink anymore, I say, "I actually just kind of lost my taste for it." Who can argue with that? No one is going to tell you to eat or drink something you don't "like" anymore, right? People usually just nod or say "oh!" and that is the end of it.
Great idea Jen! I like that reason- it’s short and sweet. And non-negotionable.
Also, remember my sister would say in the beginning “ I have a bleeding ulcer.” People shut up right away.1 -
I've noticed I've been replacing alcohol with food. When i'm out with everyone and they're all drinking, I find something that'll distract me from wanting a drink, and that will make me as equally happy as having one, so I turn to food. And when you're out at a bar or sports pub, etc. the food choices aren't the healthiest. I need to figure something else out, or maybe I just need to acknowledge that i'm not ready to be around those social scenes until I get more comfortable with the idea of not drinking and don't feel the need to replace its absence with food.4
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OK, y'all I need to vent. I'm looking for a job. It doesn't have to pay the professional salary I left in May. It just needs to be reasonable and a job I find at least somewhat fulfilling. I had what I thought was my "dream job" back in May, but it fell through in a bizarre way. No need to elaborate. This weekend, I saw an ad for another "dream job" and applied. It was perfect for me and I am perfect for it. This morning I received an email asking me to choose a time for a web interview with HR tomorrow, which I did. I got a thank you and a confirmation of the interview. I've been so excited all day! Then, about 2 hours ago, I got another email saying that the interview is cancelled because the position has been filled. Man! I was SO despondent. I decided the Universe just enjoys playing cruel tricks on me, the whole nine yards. I've talked myself down somewhat and even sent applications for 2 more jobs. I'm frustrated because I'm very talented and qualified, but I'm also 62, so that's a thing. The age didn't matter for these "dream jobs," so I know there are some out there for which my age might even be a benefit, but I'm still frustrated. But the main thing is . . . I WANT A DRINK SO BADLY!!!! Today is Day 43, and I've been enjoying sobriety, but right now it sucks. I want a big glass of vodka and Perrier, or a big glass of wine. I'm angry that I can't have it. I'm mad at myself for starting this whole sober thing. I don't think I'll drink, but I'm not sure. Just thought I'd vent to people who understand. ARGGGGHHH!9
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