The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Does anyone else live with someone who drinks? Today was my day six and if there would of been extra alcohol available I may have given in. Does anyone have tips for the early days and constantly being around alcohol at home?3
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Does anyone else live with someone who drinks? Today was my day six and if there would of been extra alcohol available I may have given in. Does anyone have tips for the early days and constantly being around alcohol at home?
Well I live with someone who drinks daily. I poured out my fav booze because I don't care for his (scotch and whiskey). Other than that, I just from and bear it and sometimes get annoyed at how nuch he is drinking (but I keep that to myself).4 -
Started the Annie Grace 30-day alcohol challenge this morning. It's the first day of the rest of my life.7
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RubyRed427 wrote: »Does anyone else live with someone who drinks? Today was my day six and if there would of been extra alcohol available I may have given in. Does anyone have tips for the early days and constantly being around alcohol at home?
Well I live with someone who drinks daily. I poured out my fav booze because I don't care for his (scotch and whiskey). Other than that, I just from and bear it and sometimes get annoyed at how nuch he is drinking (but I keep that to myself).
Thanks for responding Ruby. Yeah I try not to be nagging. I’m trying to stay my course and remind myself that my sobriety does not depend on the decisions he makes or doesn’t make.
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There was an interesting Annie Grace video about how to live with someone that continues to drink. I think it is helpful. My husband drinks still (though rarely like I did...more sensibly) and I TRY not to be resentful.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IX7YvkzRQC8&t=7s 1 -
Day 459. For me, it got a lot easier about 90 days in. I have longings more than urges. Longings are a desire to return to drinking someday so I can enjoy a sunset sipping a mai tai on a beach in retirement. Urges are "I want it right now". I have had maybe 5 urges in the last year; I had several in the first couple of months. Longings are harder; there really isn't a count because it is pretty much ebb and flow of the same one. It is currently less of a concern because it doesn't seem to pose an immediate threat, but I am only 3 months from 60 so it isn't all that far down the road where it might spur urges.7
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I've also been trying to stay away from the drinks. Maybe a couple weeks now, I didn't want to count the time.
It's difficult to live with someone who continues to do something you don't want to do anymore. I've lived with people who still smoked after I quit. It does get frustrating, which may be why I do better on my own. It's also good to find support somewhere, even if it's not at home.
Knowing how much better I feel (overall) without it, is what keeps me on track. I no longer have to consume extra calories and extra water weight to avoid hangovers and process the toxins. Plus I save some money.
Good luck!!6 -
To live with someone who does the things you are avoiding can be difficult. I find reasons to be outside more. My wife still smokes and drinks when we are on vacation or out to dinner when we are back home. I swim and run so the smoking annoys me even more than the drinking since it’s every day and around the house
I will be out early and again in the afternoon or read in another room, I have mentioned my feelings but after 45 years many of which I was the heavier drinker which she put up with I adjust and avoid being around if she is smoking4 -
There was an interesting Annie Grace video about how to live with someone that continues to drink. I think it is helpful. My husband drinks still (though rarely like I did...more sensibly) and I TRY not to be resentful.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IX7YvkzRQC8&t=7s
Thank you for sharing this video. It reminded me that I just need to focus on my journey. A lot of great insight.
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Well, last night didn't go so well in the "cutting back" department. I'm not beating myself up though. Today is a new day. I'm also checking out the Annie Grace 30 day challenge. I find the mobile app somewhat non-user friendly though. Any tips? My plan is to start it on October 1. A luck would have it, my 1,000 day on MFP is tomorrow. I want to let my days reset on Sunday (meaning not logging in) and start fresh with everything Monday. New day streak, new week, new month. Also a perfect time to try the 30 day experiment.7
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Good Morning to everyone
@SisterSueGetsFit Sounds like a good plan. New start!! You CAN do this! Hoping the best for you 
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »Good Morning to everyone@SisterSueGetsFit Sounds like a good plan. New start!! You CAN do this! Hoping the best for you
Thank you! I'm ready for a positive change.
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Day 2 on Annie's program and she focused on how drinking effects sleep, never realized the impact. Now I know why I would wake up at 3 AM, not be able to fall back asleep and feel like I never slept at all. Watched a Craig Beck video on peer pressure where he specifically addresses spouses who still drink. Guy is very good.5
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Day eight over here, my husband is in the other room drinking so I’m just keeping to myself tonight. I have a busy day tomorrow.7
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Good afternoon, all! Tomorrow will be day 70. I swear the first 30 days feels quite long but then the next many feel fast. My winter record was 76 days AF before St. Patrick’s Day started a slow and steady downward spiral. Went to Hofbrau Haus yesterday; I was with a big group. They did “shot skis” and drank huge beers and I drank my soda. The only bummer was the food never came!! We Waited for 1.5 hours and then had to go to a show at the theater. The waitress apologized and said that happens sometimes. WTH! As a non-drinker, I now look forward to the food element of a night out. Was bummed. I’m sure the Hofbrau Haus makes more money off the beer and liquor anyway and not so much the food.
Well I saved hundreds of calories and woke up ravenous today. Drinking tea and grading papers here.
@Nomseys Bravo on day 8. When you reach day 10 , it feels like all the toxins are out of the body.
@fdhunt1 Craig Beck is the best. He says things in such a way, you think why would i want to drink after hearing about all the drawbacks.
@SisterSueGetsFit Hope the weekend brings you peace and happiness.6 -
@RubyRed427 sorry you missed out on the food, such a bummer! Thanks for the encouragement I am starting to feel pretty normal again.4
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Lifelong non-drinker here.
To be honest, because of the social side of drinking, had I started drinking as a teenager, I might not have the crippling depression I have now! But I'm still glad I don't.
I don't drink because:
1) Physically, it's really not a great substance to put in your system
2) I resent how it's practically compulsory in our society - you're a weirdo/boring if you don't drink. Or if you do drink and choose not to one particular night, it MUST be because you're ill/pregnant/going insane
3) There's no escape from it. Out with friends? Have a beer! Sad? Have a whisky. Celebrating? Champagne! Nasty shock? You need a brandy!
4) The hypocrisy of the situation with regard to legality makes me furious
5) Drunk people annoy, depress, and sometimes scare the hell out of me7 -
massivepocket wrote: »Lifelong non-drinker here.
To be honest, because of the social side of drinking, had I started drinking as a teenager, I might not have the crippling depression I have now! But I'm still glad I don't.
I don't drink because:
1) Physically, it's really not a great substance to put in your system
2) I resent how it's practically compulsory in our society - you're a weirdo/boring if you don't drink. Or if you do drink and choose not to one particular night, it MUST be because you're ill/pregnant/going insane
3) There's no escape from it. Out with friends? Have a beer! Sad? Have a whisky. Celebrating? Champagne! Nasty shock? You need a brandy!
4) The hypocrisy of the situation with regard to legality makes me furious
5) Drunk people annoy, depress, and sometimes scare the hell out of me
Thanks for sharing. You made good points. I’m happy you never drank. It’s a curse, really.
Also, alcohol causes depression and anxiety in the brain. So, imagine how much deeper your depression would be now. I hope you have a good support system. I’m sorry your depression is crippling.3 -
How is everyone else doing? I had a pretty easy day nine full of friends and a 3.5 mile jog!4
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