What nobody tells you about losing weight
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After loosing 75 lbs in one year with 30 to go to hit my goal:
1) I can tie my shoes without having to sit down first.
2) I can walk up stairs without getting "winded"
3) I can mow my lawn and maintain the garden without taking breaks
4) I don't smell like bacon when I sweat
5) I am always cold...
6) I can see the blood vessels in my arms... turns out I have garden hoses for blood vessels.
7) I no longer have never ending hemorrhoids
These are all positive things about losing weight; with the exception of #5 but one thing NO ONE tells you (maybe because its too much information) is that:
8) your sex drive goes through the roof. As does your anxiety level because there is literally NOTHING you can do to calm things down. I have tried everything I can think of and none of it works.... it really is frustrating.16 -
alancorey1979 wrote: »
8) your sex drive goes through the roof. As does your anxiety level because there is literally NOTHING you can do to calm things down. I have tried everything I can think of and none of it works.... it really is frustrating.
Sure there is. Take a SSRI anxiolytic for that anxiety known to kill libido. Thousands (millions?) of people do every day...
Pretty sure that's all I can say without getting flagged off the boards for impropriety. First world problems being what they are and all, lol.
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Sitting with your legs crossed is the most comfortable thing ever. For twenty years I was too fat to comfortably cross my legs, and I HAVE NO IDEA HOW I LIVED.
(I used to sit with my belly brushing the edge of my desk. Now I can cross my legs under it and still have space left over. That's weird.)24 -
grinning_chick wrote: »alancorey1979 wrote: »
8) your sex drive goes through the roof. As does your anxiety level because there is literally NOTHING you can do to calm things down. I have tried everything I can think of and none of it works.... it really is frustrating.
Sure there is. Take a SSRI anxiolytic for that anxiety known to kill libido. Thousands (millions?) of people do every day...
Pretty sure that's all I can say without getting flagged off the boards for impropriety. First world problems being what they are and all, lol.
Hahaha yeah first world problems exactly.
I should be thrilled about reason 8 since before losing the weight I found more pleasure in a cheeseburger than sex and thats just simply not right. 😂
But I’d rather have the anxiety than start popping pills. 🤣9 -
ExistingFish wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »The fat seems to re-distribute. At least it did for me. When I lost my 20lbs of weight, my butt was much smaller, stomach still poochy, and boobs totally deflated. Several months later of maintenance, my boobs have filled back in a bit, and my stomach seems less poochy. So there's hope that all the wierd places you're* losing will balance out.
*You as a general audience. Not any one person in particular.
Unfortunately, I've had the opposite reaction. I lost the first 35lbs (of 42lbs) rather quickly, over 6 months. I retained my boobs.
Lost 7lbs over the next 6 months, lost my boobs.
Of course, I'm also a lot closer to my ultimate goal. I'm down into the "normal" body fat range (by estimates, haven't had dexa or anything). It may just be that my body held on to my boobs as long as it had "extra" fat, but when I got down to less fat they had to go.
It's kind of funny how fat loss seems to go. My boobs are always the first to go. My stomach being dead last. As a matter of fact, I'm going in for the last 10 (maybe 15) lbs by summer/fall right now. They're deflating again! Gah! But when I maintained my current weight for 6 months, they did seem to fill in a little. So maybe they'll come back again.. I hope.2 -
Crafty_camper123 wrote: »ExistingFish wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »The fat seems to re-distribute. At least it did for me. When I lost my 20lbs of weight, my butt was much smaller, stomach still poochy, and boobs totally deflated. Several months later of maintenance, my boobs have filled back in a bit, and my stomach seems less poochy. So there's hope that all the wierd places you're* losing will balance out.
*You as a general audience. Not any one person in particular.
Unfortunately, I've had the opposite reaction. I lost the first 35lbs (of 42lbs) rather quickly, over 6 months. I retained my boobs.
Lost 7lbs over the next 6 months, lost my boobs.
Of course, I'm also a lot closer to my ultimate goal. I'm down into the "normal" body fat range (by estimates, haven't had dexa or anything). It may just be that my body held on to my boobs as long as it had "extra" fat, but when I got down to less fat they had to go.
It's kind of funny how fat loss seems to go. My boobs are always the first to go. My stomach being dead last. As a matter of fact, I'm going in for the last 10 (maybe 15) lbs by summer/fall right now. They're deflating again! Gah! But when I maintained my current weight for 6 months, they did seem to fill in a little. So maybe they'll come back again.. I hope.
I feel y our pain; my boobs are always the first to go! It's how I decided on my maintenance weight, in the end; I'm not entirely happy with the amount of fat around my belly/hips/thighs, but I absolutely know that if I try to dip any lower my body'll take it from my boobs first. And I don't have any boobs left to lose. I'm BMI 23 but you can see my ribs, for pity's sake...
Oh well, in the great scheme of things it's a minor annoyance. And the reason padded bras exist7 -
Crafty_camper123 wrote: »ExistingFish wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »The fat seems to re-distribute. At least it did for me. When I lost my 20lbs of weight, my butt was much smaller, stomach still poochy, and boobs totally deflated. Several months later of maintenance, my boobs have filled back in a bit, and my stomach seems less poochy. So there's hope that all the wierd places you're* losing will balance out.
*You as a general audience. Not any one person in particular.
Unfortunately, I've had the opposite reaction. I lost the first 35lbs (of 42lbs) rather quickly, over 6 months. I retained my boobs.
Lost 7lbs over the next 6 months, lost my boobs.
Of course, I'm also a lot closer to my ultimate goal. I'm down into the "normal" body fat range (by estimates, haven't had dexa or anything). It may just be that my body held on to my boobs as long as it had "extra" fat, but when I got down to less fat they had to go.
It's kind of funny how fat loss seems to go. My boobs are always the first to go. My stomach being dead last. As a matter of fact, I'm going in for the last 10 (maybe 15) lbs by summer/fall right now. They're deflating again! Gah! But when I maintained my current weight for 6 months, they did seem to fill in a little. So maybe they'll come back again.. I hope.
Right there with ya! I was so excited to have a little fullness when I was bulking. Now that I'm cutting... :sad:3 -
When I lost weight years ago I ended up buying silicone bra inserts to keep from being completely flat chested. They're annoying to wear but helped my clothes fit better.8
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Sitting with your legs crossed is the most comfortable thing ever. For twenty years I was too fat to comfortably cross my legs, and I HAVE NO IDEA HOW I LIVED.
(I used to sit with my belly brushing the edge of my desk. Now I can cross my legs under it and still have space left over. That's weird.)
This!4 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »ExistingFish wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »The fat seems to re-distribute. At least it did for me. When I lost my 20lbs of weight, my butt was much smaller, stomach still poochy, and boobs totally deflated. Several months later of maintenance, my boobs have filled back in a bit, and my stomach seems less poochy. So there's hope that all the wierd places you're* losing will balance out.
*You as a general audience. Not any one person in particular.
Unfortunately, I've had the opposite reaction. I lost the first 35lbs (of 42lbs) rather quickly, over 6 months. I retained my boobs.
Lost 7lbs over the next 6 months, lost my boobs.
Of course, I'm also a lot closer to my ultimate goal. I'm down into the "normal" body fat range (by estimates, haven't had dexa or anything). It may just be that my body held on to my boobs as long as it had "extra" fat, but when I got down to less fat they had to go.
It's kind of funny how fat loss seems to go. My boobs are always the first to go. My stomach being dead last. As a matter of fact, I'm going in for the last 10 (maybe 15) lbs by summer/fall right now. They're deflating again! Gah! But when I maintained my current weight for 6 months, they did seem to fill in a little. So maybe they'll come back again.. I hope.
Right there with ya! I was so excited to have a little fullness when I was bulking. Now that I'm cutting... :sad:
I feel your pain. There’s the initial excitement of having boobs stick out farther than your stomach, then the boobs deflate. I’m hoping to keep belly in check enough to keep it even & keep building some chest muscle, since I have more muscle than boob and my stomach would have to be concave at this point to let them have any glory. And then there’s the issue of having too much back/shoulder muscle to let you comfortably fit in the training bra size that actually fits, cup wise 🙄
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gradchica27 wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »ExistingFish wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »The fat seems to re-distribute. At least it did for me. When I lost my 20lbs of weight, my butt was much smaller, stomach still poochy, and boobs totally deflated. Several months later of maintenance, my boobs have filled back in a bit, and my stomach seems less poochy. So there's hope that all the wierd places you're* losing will balance out.
*You as a general audience. Not any one person in particular.
Unfortunately, I've had the opposite reaction. I lost the first 35lbs (of 42lbs) rather quickly, over 6 months. I retained my boobs.
Lost 7lbs over the next 6 months, lost my boobs.
Of course, I'm also a lot closer to my ultimate goal. I'm down into the "normal" body fat range (by estimates, haven't had dexa or anything). It may just be that my body held on to my boobs as long as it had "extra" fat, but when I got down to less fat they had to go.
It's kind of funny how fat loss seems to go. My boobs are always the first to go. My stomach being dead last. As a matter of fact, I'm going in for the last 10 (maybe 15) lbs by summer/fall right now. They're deflating again! Gah! But when I maintained my current weight for 6 months, they did seem to fill in a little. So maybe they'll come back again.. I hope.
Right there with ya! I was so excited to have a little fullness when I was bulking. Now that I'm cutting... :sad:
I feel your pain. There’s the initial excitement of having boobs stick out farther than your stomach, then the boobs deflate. I’m hoping to keep belly in check enough to keep it even & keep building some chest muscle, since I have more muscle than boob and my stomach would have to be concave at this point to let them have any glory. And then there’s the issue of having too much back/shoulder muscle to let you comfortably fit in the training bra size that actually fits, cup wise 🙄
You feel me! I buy bras now by trying to get them fit my lats more that my actual breasts! :laugh:12 -
Sitting with your legs crossed is the most comfortable thing ever. For twenty years I was too fat to comfortably cross my legs, and I HAVE NO IDEA HOW I LIVED.
(I used to sit with my belly brushing the edge of my desk. Now I can cross my legs under it and still have space left over. That's weird.)
This!
I'd like to add this with arm crossing too. I've never been able to cross my arms comfortably while at a higher weight, so now I want to do it all the time. My mother once asked me why I was crossing my arms (framing it in a "is something wrong?") sort of way, and I had to explain that I just like doing it, lol.12 -
When I lost weight years ago I ended up buying silicone bra inserts to keep from being completely flat chested. They're annoying to wear but helped my clothes fit better.
I already have to wear one on the left side. Mine are significantly asymmetrical. They are surprisingly easy to wear though.6 -
ExistingFish wrote: »When I lost weight years ago I ended up buying silicone bra inserts to keep from being completely flat chested. They're annoying to wear but helped my clothes fit better.
I already have to wear one on the left side. Mine are significantly asymmetrical. They are surprisingly easy to wear though.
Except when it's really hot, which it is half the year here. Then they're wet and sweaty.
And, once when I had a very conservative friend over visiting, our labrador walked in with one of my inserts in her mouth. At first I thought it was a chicken breast and wondered how she'd gotten it. Once I realized what it was I was mortified and tried to pry it out of her teeth without damaging it because they're expensive! My friend looked on in horror while I wrestled a silicone object sporting a nipple away from the dog,and finally asked what on earth it was. I explained it, but I'm convinced she thought it was some kind of perverted sex toy.
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quiksylver296 wrote: »gradchica27 wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »ExistingFish wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »The fat seems to re-distribute. At least it did for me. When I lost my 20lbs of weight, my butt was much smaller, stomach still poochy, and boobs totally deflated. Several months later of maintenance, my boobs have filled back in a bit, and my stomach seems less poochy. So there's hope that all the wierd places you're* losing will balance out.
*You as a general audience. Not any one person in particular.
Unfortunately, I've had the opposite reaction. I lost the first 35lbs (of 42lbs) rather quickly, over 6 months. I retained my boobs.
Lost 7lbs over the next 6 months, lost my boobs.
Of course, I'm also a lot closer to my ultimate goal. I'm down into the "normal" body fat range (by estimates, haven't had dexa or anything). It may just be that my body held on to my boobs as long as it had "extra" fat, but when I got down to less fat they had to go.
It's kind of funny how fat loss seems to go. My boobs are always the first to go. My stomach being dead last. As a matter of fact, I'm going in for the last 10 (maybe 15) lbs by summer/fall right now. They're deflating again! Gah! But when I maintained my current weight for 6 months, they did seem to fill in a little. So maybe they'll come back again.. I hope.
Right there with ya! I was so excited to have a little fullness when I was bulking. Now that I'm cutting... :sad:
I feel your pain. There’s the initial excitement of having boobs stick out farther than your stomach, then the boobs deflate. I’m hoping to keep belly in check enough to keep it even & keep building some chest muscle, since I have more muscle than boob and my stomach would have to be concave at this point to let them have any glory. And then there’s the issue of having too much back/shoulder muscle to let you comfortably fit in the training bra size that actually fits, cup wise 🙄
You feel me! I buy bras now by trying to get them fit my lats more that my actual breasts! :laugh:
I have been having a quiet giggle at this conversation as I identified with so much of it.
Then, all of a sudden a light bulb went off.
@quiksylver296’s last comment explained why, for the past 3 years I have had a hard time finding bras that fit.
I thought I was a pretty conventional 32 B, C, depending on make, but the cups are always somewhere under my armpits, and I have no side boobs to tame.
What I realize now is that my frontage is a 30 B,C, but my back needs a 32.
Convoluted I know, and won’t help too much with bra buying, but at least now I know the why, and it isn’t getting old.
Happy that a small bralette is good enough for most days.
Cheers, h.5 -
middlehaitch wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »gradchica27 wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »ExistingFish wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »The fat seems to re-distribute. At least it did for me. When I lost my 20lbs of weight, my butt was much smaller, stomach still poochy, and boobs totally deflated. Several months later of maintenance, my boobs have filled back in a bit, and my stomach seems less poochy. So there's hope that all the wierd places you're* losing will balance out.
*You as a general audience. Not any one person in particular.
Unfortunately, I've had the opposite reaction. I lost the first 35lbs (of 42lbs) rather quickly, over 6 months. I retained my boobs.
Lost 7lbs over the next 6 months, lost my boobs.
Of course, I'm also a lot closer to my ultimate goal. I'm down into the "normal" body fat range (by estimates, haven't had dexa or anything). It may just be that my body held on to my boobs as long as it had "extra" fat, but when I got down to less fat they had to go.
It's kind of funny how fat loss seems to go. My boobs are always the first to go. My stomach being dead last. As a matter of fact, I'm going in for the last 10 (maybe 15) lbs by summer/fall right now. They're deflating again! Gah! But when I maintained my current weight for 6 months, they did seem to fill in a little. So maybe they'll come back again.. I hope.
Right there with ya! I was so excited to have a little fullness when I was bulking. Now that I'm cutting... :sad:
I feel your pain. There’s the initial excitement of having boobs stick out farther than your stomach, then the boobs deflate. I’m hoping to keep belly in check enough to keep it even & keep building some chest muscle, since I have more muscle than boob and my stomach would have to be concave at this point to let them have any glory. And then there’s the issue of having too much back/shoulder muscle to let you comfortably fit in the training bra size that actually fits, cup wise 🙄
You feel me! I buy bras now by trying to get them fit my lats more that my actual breasts! :laugh:
I have been having a quiet giggle at this conversation as I identified with so much of it.
Then, all of a sudden a light bulb went off.
@quiksylver296’s last comment explained why, for the past 3 years I have had a hard time finding bras that fit.
I thought I was a pretty conventional 32 B, C, depending on make, but the cups are always somewhere under my armpits, and I have no side boobs to tame.
What I realize now is that my frontage is a 30 B,C, but my back needs a 32.
Convoluted I know, and won’t help too much with bra buying, but at least now I know the why, and it isn’t getting old.
Happy that a small bralette is good enough for most days.
Cheers, h.
Ah yeah, that's when the style of bra really makes a difference. I need more coverage on the sides with my cups due to my shape so sometimes even though it's the right "size" as far as band and cups, it doesn't really fit.1 -
RelCanonical wrote: »middlehaitch wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »gradchica27 wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »ExistingFish wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »The fat seems to re-distribute. At least it did for me. When I lost my 20lbs of weight, my butt was much smaller, stomach still poochy, and boobs totally deflated. Several months later of maintenance, my boobs have filled back in a bit, and my stomach seems less poochy. So there's hope that all the wierd places you're* losing will balance out.
*You as a general audience. Not any one person in particular.
Unfortunately, I've had the opposite reaction. I lost the first 35lbs (of 42lbs) rather quickly, over 6 months. I retained my boobs.
Lost 7lbs over the next 6 months, lost my boobs.
Of course, I'm also a lot closer to my ultimate goal. I'm down into the "normal" body fat range (by estimates, haven't had dexa or anything). It may just be that my body held on to my boobs as long as it had "extra" fat, but when I got down to less fat they had to go.
It's kind of funny how fat loss seems to go. My boobs are always the first to go. My stomach being dead last. As a matter of fact, I'm going in for the last 10 (maybe 15) lbs by summer/fall right now. They're deflating again! Gah! But when I maintained my current weight for 6 months, they did seem to fill in a little. So maybe they'll come back again.. I hope.
Right there with ya! I was so excited to have a little fullness when I was bulking. Now that I'm cutting... :sad:
I feel your pain. There’s the initial excitement of having boobs stick out farther than your stomach, then the boobs deflate. I’m hoping to keep belly in check enough to keep it even & keep building some chest muscle, since I have more muscle than boob and my stomach would have to be concave at this point to let them have any glory. And then there’s the issue of having too much back/shoulder muscle to let you comfortably fit in the training bra size that actually fits, cup wise 🙄
You feel me! I buy bras now by trying to get them fit my lats more that my actual breasts! :laugh:
I have been having a quiet giggle at this conversation as I identified with so much of it.
Then, all of a sudden a light bulb went off.
@quiksylver296’s last comment explained why, for the past 3 years I have had a hard time finding bras that fit.
I thought I was a pretty conventional 32 B, C, depending on make, but the cups are always somewhere under my armpits, and I have no side boobs to tame.
What I realize now is that my frontage is a 30 B,C, but my back needs a 32.
Convoluted I know, and won’t help too much with bra buying, but at least now I know the why, and it isn’t getting old.
Happy that a small bralette is good enough for most days.
Cheers, h.
Ah yeah, that's when the style of bra really makes a difference. I need more coverage on the sides with my cups due to my shape so sometimes even though it's the right "size" as far as band and cups, it doesn't really fit.
Ooh don’t I know it!
I have tried most North American brands and styles, available in shops (wouldn’t dare buy on line) and most UK brands/styles. What I ended up with was a bra from Tesco (UK supermarket) that was going out of production. I bought all that were available in local stores, and the on line stock, last year when I was over. (Drove my sisters crazy bra shopping)
I now have 13 of them. They will probably last the test of my life , so long as I don’t lose or gain any weight.
Cheers, h.9 -
middlehaitch wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »middlehaitch wrote: »
Ooh don’t I know it!
I have tried most North American brands and styles, available in shops (wouldn’t dare buy on line) and most UK brands/styles. What I ended up with was a bra from Tesco (UK supermarket) that was going out of production. I bought all that were available in local stores, and the on line stock, last year when I was over. (Drove my sisters crazy bra shopping)
I now have 13 of them. They will probably last the test of my life , so long as I don’t lose or gain any weight.
Cheers, h.
.... and I’m heart broken that they’ve gone out of production ...1 -
How much better and comfortable you'll sleep AND even more better (more better, I love saying/thinking that ) you will wake up a lot of the times filled with enthusiasm, vim and vigor. Gone will be the days of waking up wishing you would have woke up dead. Gone will be the days of feeling all stiff, sore and grouchy. As you get down to size, you will find yourself (a lot of times) waking up with a smile and with a positive YAY, I get another day to take on the day, with all it's yays and ughs, I get another day to roll with the punches and kick butt (mainly my own) and take names.
You'll find yourself feeling, ummmmm, good--instead of all yuck and bad. Will this happen to/for everyone? I believe so--but we know everyone is different, but it's happening to me, waking up to face a new day is now so much BETTER than when I was obese and overweight. Waking up is FUN now and I'm GLAD to report it!15 -
ExistingFish wrote: »When I lost weight years ago I ended up buying silicone bra inserts to keep from being completely flat chested. They're annoying to wear but helped my clothes fit better.
I already have to wear one on the left side. Mine are significantly asymmetrical. They are surprisingly easy to wear though.
Except when it's really hot, which it is half the year here. Then they're wet and sweaty.
And, once when I had a very conservative friend over visiting, our labrador walked in with one of my inserts in her mouth. At first I thought it was a chicken breast and wondered how she'd gotten it. Once I realized what it was I was mortified and tried to pry it out of her teeth without damaging it because they're expensive! My friend looked on in horror while I wrestled a silicone object sporting a nipple away from the dog,and finally asked what on earth it was. I explained it, but I'm convinced she thought it was some kind of perverted sex toy.
Mine are fabric with a silicone/water/oil insert inside the fabric, it's like 75% fabric and fabric padding, with a weighted liquid feeling bubble. It is a good balance of shape and appropriate weight/texture, way more comfortable than silicone type.
https://www.target.com/p/fashion-forms-women-s-water-wear-push-up-pads/-/A-15751081
I have the C/D size, as I'm making up a large difference.2
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