WHY do people CHEAT?

Maybe because people are afraid to speak the truth and to say what they really want.

I think cheating on your partner makes you the lowest form of pond scum on earth, especially when you use the old "it just happened" excuse.

If you're not happy with your partner, put on your damn big girl or big guy panties and tell them. Either fix things or end them.

For those guilty parties, remember this. If they'll cheat with you, they'll cheat on you.

LyndaBSS wrote: »

I think cheating on your partner makes you the lowest form of pond scum on earth, especially when you use the old "it just happened" excuse.

If you're not happy with your partner, put on your damn big girl or big guy panties and tell them. Either fix things or end them.

For those guilty parties, remember this. If they'll cheat with you, they'll cheat on you.

i disagree

I have no idea honestly...I have never and I don't think anyone has on me....I can imagine it being extremely difficult for all parties and would hope that if someone I was with was contemplating it, they would tell me first so I could prepare ...but maybe that's part of it....they want their cake and to eat it too....or maybe they are missing something and unhappy but feel trapped...regardless its a tough subject that I don't really like to think about nor could I do it...I stayed in a very bad place for years because it was the right thing to do I thought....and if I had met someone then, who knows...I'd like to think I wouldn't but I'm not going to judge anyone else and since I can't speak on my own behalf I just wanted to add....I'm sure its easy to blame and name call...but unless you are dealing with it....we really don't know right?

I will say this my heart breaks for those who have gone thru it and have been blindsided by a cheating partner...I think there are few other things that would hurt as badly. Its really a sucky situation and perhaps communication is the only thing that would stop something like that....welp! hugs and hope no one is dealing with this...if you are..there is nothing absolutely nothing wrong or lacking in you....its the cheater who has the issues....its obvious and it doesn't make it right....but you will be stronger if you just focus on you.

stepping off my soapbox....

I thought this was gonna be about eating a whole pizza in bed on a frisky Sunday afternoon.

• They realized too late that they weren't supposed to be monogamous.
• They've been shamed over their sexual preferences (that don't involve extramarital affairs) and have gone to someone who fulfills those desires without judgment.
• They weren't in love.
• They are capable of loving more than one person.
• They don't feel love or validation in their relationship so they seek it elsewhere.
• They're just a "player" who was never interested in a long term relationship and somehow roped someone into it.
• They have issues they never worked through and still aren't working through.
• It's opportunistic.
• Someone is paying them attention and it makes them feel good.

I mean, there can be soooooooo many reasons a person ventures outside of their relationship. Sometimes it's just for sex, but a lot of times, it's because something is missing and they either didn't communicate with their partner, or worse.. they can't. You'd be surprised how hostile some partners can be when you broach some certain topics.. and unfortunately, you only find out some of these things after you're already deep into a relationship, married, have kids, etc.

This is why they hound the whole "communication is important" bit. Some folks just learn the lesson way too late.
Also, not every person who cheats once will always cheat. It entirely depends on the person, the situation and whether or not they grow/change as a person.

Geez, when I read the post's title, I thought you were talking about cheating on your logging... you know, putting down fake calorie counts in the data base or in your log to make you feel better about your overeating! I'd say people cheat because they want to have their cake and eat it too!