At goal but still not happy....

82EC wrote: »

Danp wrote: »

82EC wrote: »

Danp wrote: »

Just to clarify something. At no stage did I say that you weren't good enough. In fact quite the opposite, I was trying to convey that you ARE good enough, that you are worthy just the way you are. But if you don't believe that how can anyone else?

Ok well that was the most backhanded compliment I have ever got! In future, if you want to tell someone they are good enough, say that (though I don’t know how you would know from an Internet forum) - don’t go on about how a quality they may have in spades is a total turnoff for the very people they have said they are trying to appeal to...,

I don't need to know you to think you have value. I just assume that everyone is worthy and has value.

Well unless you're a child murderer or someone who fires up their smartphone screen in a cinema during a movie.

Well if you think I am worthy and have value, you have a pretty funny way of showing it!! Your words really hurt me.

Nope. I'm sorry but that's just not true and I'm not going to own that. My words were just simple advice and insight and I can't be held responsible if you decide to take my (and everyone elses) words and twist them into a weapon to use against yourself. That's on you.

I don't think you came here for advice. You say you want "kind" posts? Well you've got a bunch of people who have very kindly offered congratulations, advice and support, but you aren't really looking for kind. You came here seeking confirmation of your inner monologue, to elicit a pity party and be fed a bunch of placating lies. Feeding, bolstering and enabling your self destructive insecurities isn't kind and it's not something a bunch of kind people would do.

Unfortunately for you (but fortunately for everyone else) the MFP community doesn't work that way. One of the greatest attributes of this community is that it refuses to coddle with empty platitudes. The strength of this community is that it will give you the truth you need to hear rather than the lie you want to be told.

I genuinely wish you the best and hope that at a later date you can revisit this thread when you're in a healthier mindset and see the posts for what they really are. I hope you find the strength to deal with the struggles you're facing and realise that seeking help to achieve emotional/mental well being isn't a sign of weakness or something to be ashamed of.