Totally overate tonight. Help

If you’re under your calorie goal still in what way did you over-eat?

That’s a bit confusing unless I’m not understanding what you mean properly.

raspeary wrote: »

I just feel like i way over did sinner. It was 960 calories whereas my lunch was just over 400. I had exercise calories added back in to.

I guess My biggest challenge is eating a balanced diet with healthy portions

Don't sweat about it. It's a process, y'know? If you're under your calorie goal, it has no impact on your weight loss progress.

It's important to balance foods we enjoy (tastiness), foods we need for nutrition, foods we need to feel full - among other things.

When first trying to lose weight, it's a bit of an experimental process to figure out that balance. You can distribute your calories across the day however it works for you: People do everything from one meal a day (OMAD) to many tiny meals or even all-day grazing, and still lose weight. What matters is hitting the calorie goal the overwhelming majority of the days.

Sure, nutrition is important for health and energy level, but it's something we can work toward gradually, tweaking our eating to get there in a happy way. There's nothing magically evil about mac'n'cheese: It's got protein, fats, carbs, and some micronutrients you need. If you don't have a major diagnosed health condition, you don't get malnutrition from one day of weird eating. You just want to balance things out over time: Enough protein, enough healthy fats, plenty of varied, colorful veggies and fruits. And you can work toward that gradually, too.

You don't want to be eating lots less than your calorie goal (including a rational estimate of exercise calories), so it's fine if you're still within that. Stress is optional, really! :flowerforyou:

If you’re still under your calorie goal than you didn’t over eat. Not every meal has to be perfectly balanced. I think you seriously need to cut yourself some slack.

raspeary wrote: »

Shortgirlrunning wrote: »

If you’re still under your calorie goal than you didn’t over eat. Not every meal has to be perfectly balanced. I think you seriously need to cut yourself some slack.

Probably should cut myself some slack. On day 8 of this go around with trying to lose weight. and i am super hard on myself mainly cause I feel the meals arent healthy enough even though i have tossed salad with every dinner plus veggies at every meal

Weight loss doesn’t have anything to do with whether you believe your meals are “healthy.” It is 100% caused by consistently eating within your calorie goal. Nothing more or less than that.

I am in the Emotional Eating group here on MFP, and I see posts like this one alot. In fact, I have made posts like this one.

As an emotional binge eater, I get into situations like this pretty regularly. I find myself at the bottom of a pot of something and I'm like "what just happened? what do I do? am I ruined?"

Well, I may be "ruined" for a moment or an hour or a day, but it's because of the binge eating and it's not because I can't bounce back. And it doesn't mean that I can't turn it around and be "unruined." Unruining doesn't take much time. It takes compassion, at least for me.

During those times that I binge, I try to remain present in the moment, like "oh, ok, I'm binging right now." That's been the first step for me...just awareness. It's helped me to stop a binge, actually.

But if I continue to binge, then I am clear that I am CHOOSING to do it. A choice is something that I feel I need to take responsibility for. So, I don't try to weasel out of it.

Now, taking responsibility does not mean (as it once did for me) that I need to punish myself. A ten mile run! An extra hour at the gym! Nope. Not anymore. These days, it means that I sit with myself and I ask myself what it is that I really need. Lord knows it wasn't actually the food. I ask "is there a way I give myself what I really need right now?" Sometimes no, sometimes yes. But the point is that I ask, and I try.

Then I move on.

Letting go is really hard. Most of my life I haven't been able to actually do it, and you may not be able to either, maybe not for a long time. Binge and then recover from it immediately without any guilt or self-hate? I'm telling you, it's possible. You don't need to hate on yourself. You need to love yourself because then comes understanding; and that will enable you to stop binging again.

But, it's a journey like everything else. Hang in there.