Guys honest opinion : The Belly
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Lilloops1985 wrote: »Sound advice y’all. Just Mel. I need some of that confidence you got over there girl!
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Lilloops1985 wrote: »Sound advice y’all. Just Mel. I need some of that confidence you got over there girl!
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Here here!
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Any man that would have an issue with that is not worth your time. Seriously. If I came across a guy that was grossed out by that I honestly would feel sorry for him for being such a douche bag. I have had 3 children, 2 c sections. There's nothing to be insecure about, it's just a scar. I made people. That's pretty cool. I know it's cliche but these "imperfections" are my battle scars. Pregnancy, child birth, surgery, then taking care of a newborn, that's no joke. It's not easy. You should be proud.5
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Any man that would have an issue with that is not worth your time. Seriously. If I came across a guy that was grossed out by that I honestly would feel sorry for him for being such a douche bag. I have had 3 children, 2 c sections. There's nothing to be insecure about, it's just a scar. I made people. That's pretty cool.
Why feel sorry for him?0 -
Any man that would have an issue with that is not worth your time. Seriously. If I came across a guy that was grossed out by that I honestly would feel sorry for him for being such a douche bag. I have had 3 children, 2 c sections. There's nothing to be insecure about, it's just a scar. I made people. That's pretty cool.
Why feel sorry for him?
For being such a lame *kitten*1 -
Any man that would have an issue with that is not worth your time. Seriously. If I came across a guy that was grossed out by that I honestly would feel sorry for him for being such a douche bag. I have had 3 children, 2 c sections. There's nothing to be insecure about, it's just a scar. I made people. That's pretty cool.
Why feel sorry for him?
For being such a lame *kitten*
I wouldn't waste the emotion. So many others are deserving.2 -
i've dated a girl who had that done. it not a turn off. she was more bothered by it then i was and that was a turn off. her negativity was a turn off7
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It should not matter at the end of the day longest your heart is a beauty it will win anyone over ..4
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I think it just depends on the guy. I've always had an unattractive belly flab area. It bothered my ex husband who was obese himself. My current husband has an incredible body and perfect flat belly...but he isn't at all bothered my belly flab, he focuses more on other parts of my figure that he loves. He'll even kiss my belly and my ex wouldn't really even touch me in that area ever...finding the right guy makes a big difference, that's for sure.13
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As long as you're not into immature DB's, it's not going to matter at all...
All the rest... 100/100 ❤️
And for that matter, even the immature DB's... 100/100 😂
So be careful who you share it with 😘
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Dont ever let it get you down think of it as any scars or stretch marks you have due to having children it's your CHILDREN'S FIRST DRAWING ON YOUR BODY think of that when you look at them and you will soon look at them a different way sounds like your an amazing women and any man that turns his nose up is a prick lol sorry but it's not about looks it's about personality and the person you are inside keep up the good work hun you'll get there😘😚😊 xx10
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nathanthurman9371 wrote: »Dont ever let it get you down think of it as any scars or stretch marks you have due to having children it's your CHILDREN'S FIRST DRAWING ON YOUR BODY think of that when you look at them and you will soon look at them a different way sounds like your an amazing women and any man that turns his nose up is a prick lol sorry but it's not about looks it's about personality and the person you are inside keep up the good work hun you'll get there😘😚😊 xx
@nathanthurman9371 your post's the best that I've ever read, anywhere!3 -
I’ve never had kids, but admire the hell out of people who are strong enough to handle it, so first of all, bravo! 👏
I’ve grown up with scars and weight fluctuations my whole life.
I had really low self-esteem, and ended up marrying a DB (now ex-DB 🎉) who only made me feel worse as the years went on. I was terrified to get back into the dating scene when I wasn’t 100% happy with my body and feeling super vulnerable, but decided to give it a shot, just to see how things go.
I don’t know if I’ve just been lucky, have a knack for spotting/weeding out DBs, or that most guys are just nicer and more respectful than I’m used to, but it has been such a positive, eye-opening experience. Makes me feel like an idiot for not getting out of this toxic relationship sooner.
Anyway, dating has definitely given me a boost, but I’m also being cautious, because while validation from others feels awesome, I’m learning that self-validation and self-worth is WAY more important. Be happy and confident in who you are, no matter what stage of your life you’re in! It’s not always easy, but it’s totally worth it 😊9 -
Deadman_Diggingup wrote: »I think any man that takes issue with what your body has done for your babies isn’t a man worth your attention. I hope your struggle with this insecurity eases over time.
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I've also had 2 c-sections, one was a vertical cut. So I'm all scarred up and it's jiggly. It will never be flat. I've NEVER had it stop any guy from wanting to get with me. Do I feel self conscious when I'm intimate and get on top? Hell nah. Confidence is more sexy than anything else.
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I love this thread. What a sincerely cool and brave op and what amazingly legit men (and women) commenting. As someone who was dumped after I did a “dirty dancing” strip tease for a dude because he considered me to posses too much juggle, I totally get the insecurity part even without a c-section scar. Nice to hear all of these perspectives 💟🌟10
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therealmarceline wrote: »I love this thread. What a sincerely cool and brave op and what amazingly legit men (and women) commenting. As someone who was dumped after I did a “dirty dancing” strip tease for a dude because he considered me to posses too much juggle, I totally get the insecurity part even without a c-section scar. Nice to hear all of these perspectives 💟🌟
Holy crap. That dude totally did not deserve you. Or any other woman for that matter,
I sincerely believe that MOST men would be focused on the strip tease and not the jiggle.4 -
I personally like scars because there is always a story behind them. You learn more about the person and what their life has gone through. I know it can be hard, but be proud of your scars. It makes you who you are.3
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theresa120 wrote: »I’ve never had kids, but admire the hell out of people who are strong enough to handle it, so first of all, bravo! 👏
I’ve grown up with scars and weight fluctuations my whole life.
I had really low self-esteem, and ended up marrying a DB (now ex-DB 🎉) who only made me feel worse as the years went on. I was terrified to get back into the dating scene when I wasn’t 100% happy with my body and feeling super vulnerable, but decided to give it a shot, just to see how things go.
I don’t know if I’ve just been lucky, have a knack for spotting/weeding out DBs, or that most guys are just nicer and more respectful than I’m used to, but it has been such a positive, eye-opening experience. Makes me feel like an idiot for not getting out of this toxic relationship sooner.
Anyway, dating has definitely given me a boost, but I’m also being cautious, because while validation from others feels awesome, I’m learning that self-validation and self-worth is WAY more important. Be happy and confident in who you are, no matter what stage of your life you’re in! It’s not always easy, but it’s totally worth it 😊
Sending a virtual hug 🤗1
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