WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2020
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1948Peachy wrote: »KIM ~ We have not received a stimulus check! As for what the future looks like, who knows. Our son has worked in restaurants ever since he was 16 and now at 44 has not job to return to. I just keep telling him there is a job out there just for him.
REBECCA ~ Thanks for the photo. For some reason, I had it in my mind that you lived in a secluded area and now I see that there are houses right across the street. LOL
I was outside from 1:20 until 2 hoping to see/hear the blue angels fly over but they never appeared over my neighborhood.
We went for a long ride along the river before noon and boy were there a lot of bicyclists out there. We had to dodge a lot when there were ones on either side of the road and cars were coming both ways. Kind of scary!
Our street is a dead end court, but we are side by side to homes, and our back "yard" butts up to a walking trail that goes to an open field with play equipment in the middle. We are fairly close to the low fence of our backyard neighbors. Our next door neighbor has barbed wire on the top of his fence separating our yards. When we moved in I asked him what was up with the prison fence look? I guess the previous renters here had dogs and they didn't want them jumping over to their dogs. 💖Rebecca5 -
Glenda- If your friend cares for you for real doesn’t just want someone to keep pace with her as she drinks so she doesn’t feel guilty then a simple explanation should be enough. If she can’t accept it she has a problem that’s not something you can control. If your choosing not to drink to either stop completely or for diet reasons cutting back she needs to be understanding as you drink a water. Maybe even suggest doing other things together other than social drinking places like the movies or Netflix masks on with a nice meal you cooked (that way you control the menu). Walk in the park together masks on . Even grocery shop together. Doesn’t have to be a drinking situation every time . If she can’t handle your new life decisions that speaks volumes about your relationship in her eyes. She should be able to understand your new plateau in life that’s for you your benefit. My friend is cheering me on Daughter too they have made changes for their visits in the future after this pandemic y before to eat at healthier places for me. Real friends survive our growth in life which is constant. Friends who don’t feel closely to us will drop away for silly reasons. I had many drop away because I became pregnant late in life or remarried silly reasons to drop someone here I supported them through their ups y downs they didn’t meet me half way! So in the end left with 1 True Friend. That’s not a bad thing.
I was born allergic to alcohol 🍷 🍺 y wines y even balsamic vinegar. So pressure to drink when you can’t is real hurtful. Been there done that. Some understood I drank a diet soda or water even a plain juice while they drank. Real friends or ones willing to be temporary friends on the road of life even check the menus of a restaurant before deciding which one. They’d say after the list of drinks for the other gals they ended with tea for Amber. We went to events without alcohol together they had their alcohol only events without me or I’d look at a dress shop while they weant in for the hour long wine tasting ,then we met up after to look at things or hit a restaurant. Navy Daughter has chosen not to be a drinker so like I tell her sometimes if it’s a new friend they just won’t take no for an answer belt out allergic. They’ll back off or you can guilt trip them for wanting you to die lol 😂. If it’s an old friend stand your ground say simply I don’t guilt you for not wanting to eat “state something you know they hate to eat or drink or do even perhaps it’s clowns 🤡 “ . Say as my friend I expect you to understand my choices back me up if someone else doesn’t! There is low cal alcohol feee drinks out there also.
Lucky for you I used to serve alcohol at my jobs first TABC licensed person allergic to alcohol they came out studied me for future allergic bar tenders to restaurant workers. Heineken nonalcoholic beer 69cal at Walmart. http://www.walmart.com/ip/Heineken-0-0-Alcohol-Free-Beer-6-pack-11-2-fl-oz-bottles-69-Calories/478508608
Sparkling cider instead of wine just look for low cal ones. 20cal small http://www.walmart.com/ip/Whitehouse-Apple-Cider-Vinegar-Grape/368839146
Fre wine is Alcohol removed wine (I can’t have this one like a peanut allergy reasons) 90cal http://www.walmart.com/ip/Fre-Alcohol-Removed-Moscato-Wine-750-ML/123995403
Tea with lemon 🍋 low cal sweetners .
Amber Tx
Bars to dance clubs ask your bar tender do not be afraid to ask calories y a list of nonalcoholic options of food to drink. Some have a few diet cokes or juice or even tea bottled waters etc behind the counter to may even have a hidden bar menu item they’ll suggest from salad to kettle chips.
Don’t ever be scared to stick up for yourself just say no. Have a bag of veggies in a purse to bottled water in there. Hang in there she’ll catch on soon enough to the fact you won’t cave.3 -
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Day one of my new walking program! It's amazing how much effort it took to go a few blocks. I am so out of shape! But maybe by Summer it will be easier.
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Irish Terri - You say my sourdough bread puts yours to shame. Well geez! My sourdough, as presented a few pages back, used the extremely simple raise-in-a-basket trick! I promise, sourdough or not, just let the dough rise for the last time in a basket (or any concave object with a bit of structure to it, such as a colander), tip it onto the baking sheet without kneading, bake it, and you've got a professional-looking loaf!
Bread is easy. But your esthetic sensibility is of a higher order. Years later, I still remember your pictures of the table settings you designed for your daughter's wedding. Now THAT'S talent. :flowerforyou:
Speaking of bread, yesterday's loaf was especially intended for toasting (as I wanted to use it under thin slices of gravlax — sugar/salt/dill-cured salmon). It had sunflower and sesame seeds for extra flavor. Here 'tis:
The tray in the background was a Christmas present from our son. Ain't it great? They'd decorated several useful household objects with the hand- or footprints of our first grandchild.
(((Hugs to you and your husband, Kylia))) The rest of my message to Kylia is a bit long and may feel depressing for some, so I'm putting it in a spoiler.I remember when my grandfather died, and my father wrote to inform those of us living on the other side of the Atlantic. He gave us the date and time, and wrote "I was with him when he died." Then came the clincher: that he hoped for something similar when his time came, perhaps with me being there. I didn't really understand that back then. I was well under 30 years old and couldn't relate to it.
Ten years later, when his mother was failing, he wrote to us about his last visit to her in her retirement community, stating simply: "We've said our goodbyes." In both cases, his stoicism was beyond my comprehension at the time, but I understand far better now.
Both my parents are still with us, but I was present when my father-in-law died. My husband had gone to try to fetch his father's girlfriend and our son to what he assumed was his father's deathbed, but he was too late, and none of them were there at the critical moment. However, our daughter had arrived at the hospital about a half-hour earlier. My father-in-law had been unconscious for some time, but just before he died, he roused himself and looked around with a surprised expression. (A nurse who came into the room just then said, very, very softly: "These are the last breaths he will take.") His eyes latched onto my daughter, his first granddaughter. She smiled at him and said "Hi Grampa!" And that was probably the last thing he experienced.
Even now, a decade and a half later, I can feel an electric, poignant joy that my daughter's beautiful smiling face was the last thing he saw.
Let me also clarify that the nurse's comment ("last breaths") was anything but intrusive. She was calm and empathetic and infinitely knowledeable. She helped me see reality and focus on the importance of that moment.
I'm glad you and your husband got to spend time with his mother before the end. Even though that's a lot to deal with, I believe it's much better than the unresolved situation many people now face when they lose loved ones to covid-19. My heart bleeds for you, but also for all those who didn't/don't/won't have the opportunity for the closure of a last farewell — in person, hand-in-hand.
Lastly, I want to share an image that describes how children grieve. For them, grief is like a tiger with dark stripes and bright orange stripes. They cry for a while, then they go play as if nothing bad had happened: they oscillate between happy and sad, taking breaks from grief when they need them.
You say you're focusing on work right now. That's fine. That's understandable. And maybe that's your "tiger". Let the grieving take the time it needs. Massive (((hugs)))
Norway has opened up for some activities. Here in Longyearbyen, choirs are now allowed to rehearse provided there aren't too many of us in the same room and we maintain a good distance. Here's what social distancing looks like at choir rehearsal. (Photo courtesy of Vegard, one of the basses. I'm second from the right with the attitude and the ponytail.)
Walking home from choir rehearsal at ten that evening, I couldn't help but observe the unexpected social distancing on Sugarloaf Mountain just east of town. Four mountain climbers are circled in red. (The blue box identifies a cairn.) A man passing by with two dogs wondered why I was laughing. When I explained and pointed to the mountain, he laughed too.
Now, just in case you feel any anxiety about these people on their way up a mountain at 10 pm, remember that the sun won't set until late August. They'll be home well before dark. :laugh:
/Penny, practicing for Norway's Constitution Day Parade at the
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Kim — Sorry, but I don't understand exactly what you're getting at. Can you clarify your question?I have a question at this point where it seems most places in the US and in some other locations are beginning to open up at some level from very little to a bunch, What have you learned from this experience that surprised you?
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Good afternoon ladies!
I decanted my "fire cider" this morning. Rebecca, it looks like your chicken broth with turmeric.
Taste is not as hot as I thought it would be, but it still has plenty of zip. It will be great in salad dressings, and to make my nose run/eyes water when my sinuses are acting up. I'll try a teaspoon of it next time I get a sinus headache and let you know the outcome. 
Heather - what a neat picnic with the kids and grands. Glad your son is making some progress selling the AF beverages, but what a bummer with bars and restaurants closed down. Crossing fingers relax a bit with summery sunny weather.
Regarding stimulus check - the IRS silently slipped ours into our checking account on April 15th. Had I not gone through the bank statement when I saw we had a larger balance than I anticipated, I never would have known. It is labeled "Federal Tax Refund." The IRS already had our bank account number from the refunds we get nearly every year.
Shopping at Walmart and Safeway was busier than I expected this morning, but stores still weren't that crowded. I was able to speak to a long-time checker at Walmart who said not a single cashier has gotten the virus to her knowledge, despite being with hundreds of customers each day. Only within the past week have they put up the sneeze guards and made mask wearing mandatory for employees. So something's working and I'm very grateful.
Lanette
Rainy and windy SW WA State
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(((Kylia))) prayers!
Heather love the picnic and wisteria!1 -
Penny - here is my example - So I am surprised at how much I was spending per month by entertaining, I always choose having folks over, instead of meeting at a restaurant as it is so expensive to eat out. But I did not realize how much that was costing me. So that has been a surprise.
Also the social distancing and living alone, I did not realize how much almost physical pain (probably really emotional pain) I would feel at 6 weeks with no physical contact. At moments it is almost debilitating Levi is doing his best to fill in for friends and family. But it is not the same.
Kim
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Kylia, many hugs to you and your husband. Thinking of you.
Amber, such good advice and once my oldest son told me the best lesson I ever taught him was how to say "No". It is important through all stages of our lives with friends and family. I liked how you explained it.
Barbie, thanks for the new beginning.
I'm another grandmother without grandkids nearby. I miss them and I enjoy all the pictures of babies and kids. Mid-May my sister will have her last chemo treatment and then will have tests to see if the treatments have been successful. She is amazing, her attitude is good. I work at not getting in a funk and most of the time I am somewhat successful. :-)
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Good afternoon. Tom (dh) and I went for a ride this morning - almost 20 miles, and a lot of hills, so it was a harder than usual ride for us. Neither of us slept well last night, so it took a lot out of us. Well, that and the fact that when we left at 8:30 it was already 83, and by the time we got home 90 minutes later it was 92. Life in the desert, I guess.
When we got home and had lunch/brunch we did the floors, which were sadly in bad shape. So to say I’m wiped out right now is an understatement. Normally on a day like this, we would look forward to going out to a nice place for dinner, but alas that is not to be. And getting it delivered just isn’t the same because I still have to clean up! I am so ready for this to all be over!
Things are slowly starting to open up here. We went to Costco yesterday and for now our freezer is pretty full and we are well stocked. My daughter has a second job at Sprouts, a store similar to Trader Joe’s for those who do not have one (but much cheaper) and she gets most of my produce for me when she works.5 -
I didn’t have a chance to catch up last night. Our social worker was calling all families yesterday to advise them that we would be allowing visitors once we found a safe way to do so. He was also advising them that we wouldn’t if we were in Outbreak and we wouldn’t if it was raining. We will only allow 4 visits at a time and they will be monitored to ensure social distancing and masks remain in place. He was also reminding families that we didn’t agree with this order and we didn’t encourage it as we wanted to keep their loved ones safe.
The province of NB has reached 0 active cases and 14 days with no new cases. They also had 0 deaths. I am so thankful most of my family is there.
Kylia - My condolences to you and your husband.
Allie - my eldest daughter would love to self isolate with you. She loves all those old shows as well.
Today I finished cleaning the craftroom and dug out my Grandmother’s diaries. Tomorrow I am going to continue reading my Mom’s and flagging those pages which bring me great memories. I am going to make a book for our daughters of those that invoke huge memories for me and put my Grandmother’s and Mom’s account of that day with my own.
It will be three generations sharing their memories of one single event or day.
I think they will love it.
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JRsLateInLifeMom wrote: »Glenda- If your friend cares for you for real doesn’t just want someone to keep pace with her as she drinks so she doesn’t feel guilty then a simple explanation should be enough. If she can’t accept it she has a problem that’s not something you can control. If your choosing not to drink to either stop completely or for diet reasons cutting back she needs to be understanding as you drink a water. Maybe even suggest doing other things together other than social drinking places like the movies or Netflix masks on with a nice meal you cooked (that way you control the menu). Walk in the park together masks on . Even grocery shop together. Doesn’t have to be a drinking situation every time . If she can’t handle your new life decisions that speaks volumes about your relationship in her eyes. She should be able to understand your new plateau in life that’s for you your benefit. My friend is cheering me on Daughter too they have made changes for their visits in the future after this pandemic y before to eat at healthier places for me. Real friends survive our growth in life which is constant. Friends who don’t feel closely to us will drop away for silly reasons. I had many drop away because I became pregnant late in life or remarried silly reasons to drop someone here I supported them through their ups y downs they didn’t meet me half way! So in the end left with 1 True Friend. That’s not a bad thing.
I was born allergic to alcohol 🍷 🍺 y wines y even balsamic vinegar. So pressure to drink when you can’t is real hurtful. Been there done that. Some understood I drank a diet soda or water even a plain juice while they drank. Real friends or ones willing to be temporary friends on the road of life even check the menus of a restaurant before deciding which one. They’d say after the list of drinks for the other gals they ended with tea for Amber. We went to events without alcohol together they had their alcohol only events without me or I’d look at a dress shop while they weant in for the hour long wine tasting ,then we met up after to look at things or hit a restaurant. Navy Daughter has chosen not to be a drinker so like I tell her sometimes if it’s a new friend they just won’t take no for an answer belt out allergic. They’ll back off or you can guilt trip them for wanting you to die lol 😂. If it’s an old friend stand your ground say simply I don’t guilt you for not wanting to eat “state something you know they hate to eat or drink or do even perhaps it’s clowns 🤡 “ . Say as my friend I expect you to understand my choices back me up if someone else doesn’t! There is low cal alcohol feee drinks out there also.
Lucky for you I used to serve alcohol at my jobs first TABC licensed person allergic to alcohol they came out studied me for future allergic bar tenders to restaurant workers. Heineken nonalcoholic beer 69cal at Walmart. http://www.walmart.com/ip/Heineken-0-0-Alcohol-Free-Beer-6-pack-11-2-fl-oz-bottles-69-Calories/478508608
Sparkling cider instead of wine just look for low cal ones. 20cal small http://www.walmart.com/ip/Whitehouse-Apple-Cider-Vinegar-Grape/368839146
Fre wine is Alcohol removed wine (I can’t have this one like a peanut allergy reasons) 90cal http://www.walmart.com/ip/Fre-Alcohol-Removed-Moscato-Wine-750-ML/123995403
Tea with lemon 🍋 low cal sweetners .
Amber Tx
Bars to dance clubs ask your bar tender do not be afraid to ask calories y a list of nonalcoholic options of food to drink. Some have a few diet cokes or juice or even tea bottled waters etc behind the counter to may even have a hidden bar menu item they’ll suggest from salad to kettle chips.
Don’t ever be scared to stick up for yourself just say no. Have a bag of veggies in a purse to bottled water in there. Hang in there she’ll catch on soon enough to the fact you won’t cave.
Thank you so much for the pep talk, you are of course correct. I’ll have to talk to her.2 -
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Glenda, Amber said the things I would have said, only better. After saying no a zillion times, my friends know that I don't drink. I meet my friends for a walk rather than a meal or a beverage. Barbie from NW WA 5 -
Did Denise Austin’s pilates for beginners. I think this DVD is too basic so I’m going to pitch it. The plan for tomorrow is to do a Cool It Off DVD. I know this is mostly stretching, but I need to see how it is. It’s part of the Beachbody Slim in Six series
Katla – we got our stimulus check a few weeks ago. It was before Easter. That day Vince went out and bought his TV, and I’m getting the front lawn done by a landscaper. If I’m real real lucky, Vince will say “gee, it looks so nice, why don’t we get the backyard done”. But I won’t hold my breath. Like I’ve said, he has this “thing” about having someone do something he can do himself.
Terri – I did crochet a mask. It has a spot for a filter (since crochet, no matter how hard you try, is going to be somewhat open). I think it’ll be too warm for the summertime which is why I’m asking this lady to make me some. I need to go get the material because it doesn’t look like she has any with a cat theme. I know if I can get that, Vince just might wear it. I never knew that a mask can have an expiration date! Thanks for telling me. Why do you think islands have such a lower percentage of cases? St. Kitts is pretty low and so are some of the other islands. Update: I don’t see an expiration date on the masks and we have the original packaging. Well, I guess something is better than nothing.
SuziQ – I don’t think I’ve EVER called Denise and she’s answered. It’s always gone to voice mail. Many is the time that I don’t get a call back. This makes us sad, but there’s nothing we can do. I question why a store won’t give a raincheck if they don’t have stock? When (or if) you use it is up to you.
Bertie – welcome!
Kylia – my heart goes out to you and your entire family
I want to make a cake for our virtual birthday party for PJ but I want to use tofu instead of all the oil it calls for. But if Vince sees me putting tofu in it even tho you can’t taste it, he won’t eat it. So I have to wait until he’s in another room. Ahh…he went in the other room, so I can make it now Update: I think the tofu made the cake dense, but I still won't tell Vince that there's tofu in it.
Have the hazardous waste collection today.
The cake just came out of the oven. Looks like it didn’t rise in the middle which is good since I’m not real good with a leveler Now to let it cool. I’ll probably let it cool while we go to the hazardous waste.
I wonder if I can freeze the rest of the tofu. I just looked online and it says that you can. I wonder if it’ll have the same consistency as now when it is defrosted. Well, I’ll give it a try. What’s the worst that can happen?
Went to the hazardous waste. We sat in the car for 4-1/2 to 5 hours! People were bringing things like TV’s that can go to the landfill. I don’t know if they even knew that they could take them there. Then went to WalMart to see about fabric for the masks, but they had almost nothing. So decided to go to JoAnn’s fabrics. Had to wait for about 5 people since they can only have 7 in the store at a time. After looking 3 times, I finally found something sort-of suitable. They had lots of fabrics with dogs on them but only one other one with cats. And that one I really didn’t like because the cats were so big. There was absolutely no social distancing. Well, while waiting in the car I did play some mahjongg. Wish I’d had my table with me since I have another mahjongg game on it and this one keeps score. Oh well….
Walked the material I got over to the lady to have her make the masks. I realized that I was even procrastinating about taking the material there. That’s so not like me.
So many people are now cutting their own hair, I wonder if they’ll continue after all this?
Lanette – when are blueberries in season?
Want to make another spinach/feta but no place has whole wheat flour. Well, Monday I plan to go to the Salvation Army to make another donation (this will be the third, I was saying to Vince that we should just take his SUV with all the stuff I have) and on the way there is another food store that I’ll stop in and see if they have any. I did want to make it tomorrow but I guess I can’t
Amber – there must have been at least a dozen people at the hazardous waste. I saw one guy with his mask around his neck, another guy with his mask on top of his head and only one or two people wearing a mask. These people are dealing with hazardous waste! If anyone needs a mask, it would be them. You did a great job on your hair!
Dawne – welcome back,
Made the icing for PJ’s virtual birthday cake and then cut the cake into the shape of the number 1. Tomorrow I’ll ice it. Made the icing because I need to put the bowl that I make it into the dishwasher and since I was going to be running it anyway…..
Glenda – great visual Congrats
Tracey – what a lovely thing you’ll be doing
Michele NC
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Michele, your idea of staying home is very different from mine. You went more places today than I've gone in the last two weeks Barbie 6
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